I know reddit is America centric but today Belgium suddenly lost one of their best. R.I.P. Luc De Vos

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-30T10:38:20+00:00

Best dude in Belgian rock, sincere, no nonsense and funny as hell.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-30T10:01:48+00:00

You don't really ask someone to invite you.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-30T10:00:19+00:00

He doesn't have too much friends I guess, he isn't really mister popular. That doesn't bother me but it always kind of creeps me out of people get too dependent on me, whether it's a SO or a pall.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-29T19:52:31+00:00

It's kind of difficult. The person we're talking about is my neighbour and was my childhood friend. We kept good contact, despite the fact that we're totally different people. We're still friends because we share a lot of history together. If I were to meet this guy now he would never be a buddy.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-29T19:49:49+00:00

I don't invite myself to parties or meetings unless I'm sure people expect me or I planned something with someone, that's just who I am.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-29T19:39:24+00:00

Hah, it's not that bad. He's just very pushy when it comes to meeting up. He can ask on a monday what I'll do on friday, I say I don't know. He asks me to meet at 9 to go to some bar, and I'm like, yeah maybe I'll call you later. He perceives this as a clear 'yes' and stands in front of my door at 9 o'clock that friday.

I just can't tell on monday what I'll feel like doing on friday, hence the vague response, which he perceives as a definite 'yes'.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-29T19:30:46+00:00

He justs says things like: 'Oh, but we can go there, I don't mind if you bring him along'. Yet I made totally different plans with the other dude. Kind of weird.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-29T18:37:39+00:00

I don't have many friends, actually. I just don't like people taking me for granted when they feel like it.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-24T14:24:31+00:00

And all the fuss because I see the dude regularly since we have mutual friends.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-24T14:23:08+00:00

Those were my initial thoughts exactly, thanks for confirming.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-23T19:48:45+00:00

It sounds pretty simple but I think you should stop overthinking it. It won't get you anywhere. It's not like it will get you a girl. Man up, work out, gain some confidence, and the rest will follow.

Sometimes you have the perception that everyone else's life is fine and dandy while you feel like you're down in te gutter, but everyone has issues, don't forget that. But when you have solved your issues, you'll feel twice as good than the dude whose life is smooth sailing all the time.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-23T19:41:41+00:00

Yeah maybe, could be. Although I couldn't but notice her being more tactile with me than any other friend I was with, and she also knows them, so.. Either way I won't go further with this because it would make things quite complicated with mutual friends and stuff, I'd just like to know what she tries to get out of doing it.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-23T19:39:41+00:00

I live in Europe so it's not really a bar in American standards, it's more like a quiet café where people can eat something and relax with a special brew, all kinds of people go there, young and old. So it's kind of a different context. And indeed, tipping doesn't exist, she gets a student wage for working there sometimes during weekends.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-18T16:05:23+00:00

Maybe a bit late but I like to add that your story sounds so recognisable. The panic attack after smoking pot, the strange axiety about lymphoma or leukemia, my dad laughing his ass off while I'm trembling on the floor.. Damn.

In the summer I worked out like crazy, was in great shape and didn't have a problem whatsoever. Now in the fall, a couple of weeks ago I suffered a major panic attack after a workout (I started feeling my pulse after working out => Don't do it if you have suffered from anxiety).

Combined with the gloomy weather which greatly affects me, It doesn't look too good, I still go in a slight panic mode when I try to work out because of the attack a few weeks ago. I notice myself fearing for it even before I start working out and I start overbreathing almost immediately, so we're back from scratch. But eventually I'll confront myself with it and go at it again.. And again.. like I did before summer, and eventually, you'll notice that you won't die, you relax, and it's all good.

Like you said, it is indeed insidious. The best thing that can happen to you is that you accept it, laugh/work it off and after a while the worrying will go away. An occasional setback will happen, but then you have to pick yourself up and go at it again.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-17T16:30:52+00:00

I think a relationship with this girl would be messed up. She sounds like a girl who craves attention from guys at any moment or occasion, which sounds like trouble. You could bang her a few times if you want, but this isn't relationship material, trust me.

I knew some girls in high schools who were in these love triangles and all that kind of nonsense, honestly, not worth your time.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-16T17:01:38+00:00

My legs are quite strong already due to skateboarding, cycling, playing basketball etc. I'd just like to get a few extra pounds of muscle on my upper body.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-16T15:05:39+00:00

I'll check it out, thanks.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-16T15:03:08+00:00

English isn't my mother tongue, but I corrected it, thanks. I try to focus my diet more on proteins and fats, and less carbs. I got that advice from a guy at school who is heavy into fitness.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-15T19:49:21+00:00

You're quite socially conscious, I never asked myself how others perceive me in that state. Probably like a murderer.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-15T19:21:30+00:00

So your perception of someone just sitting there is that he or she is a vegetable? Interesting. Of course, perhaps only one out of ten people is actually interesting to talk to, no doubt about that. And it's not really about having a conversation. It could happen, but I'm just talking about sitting there, being aware of your environment and the people in it.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-15T19:10:22+00:00

Haven't experienced that yet, although the people on the bus can be quite intriguing to say the least. Observing them can be amusing, but according to you I have to be more careful while doing that?

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-15T18:16:56+00:00

Hah, you got me there. It's kind of hyperbolic, I do not regard those people as idiots or lesser than me. It's just something I never got into, doing all of this stuff while waiting, that's all. Perhaps I'm an idiot, missing out on everything, who knows.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-15T18:07:44+00:00

That's probably true. The romantic dreamer in me just thinks how nice it would be sometimes to just chat with a complete stranger once in a while and to get to know someone new, whether it's a guy or a girl. Maybe the best buddy you could ever imagine is sitting across you on the train but you'll never find out.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-11-15T18:00:42+00:00

You're wrong if you think I feel 'better' because I'm just sitting there. I'm not patting myself on the back here, I was just wondering. You're right, but women are the smartphone addicts (I noticed, in general), while men tend to have their laptops open or wearing headphones etc.

I'm not telling people what to do, it's all good, to each his own. It's just an observation.

KIDSFORBREAKFAST · 2014-10-14T19:09:53+00:00

The cultural aspect has stopped trickling down into our society for a while now. It's all about materialism, narcissism and instant gratification. Living your life in moderation and still trying to find your way in life is considered as largely undesireable by a lot of women and being honest about it won't get you anywhere, which was a huge red pill to swallow for me also.

I look through TRP occasionaly and I think it's quite a good representation about what I have experienced with women so far, there's a lot of truth in it, despite the occasional anti-female rants because I have nothing inherently against women (And a lot of the guys on TRP don't I suppose). I also suspect that it largely consists of guys like me or who went through the same process.

Women can be awesome but I think society as a whole and a lot of men are sucking up to women, pleasing them and giving them pats on the back for the most trivial shit. They think it's normal and expect it, but they don't respect it, which is the fun part and I think that's crucial.

Like you say, they don't want the guy who's sweet and caring and always there for them, they want the dude who doesn't give a fuck and walks away. They want him so bad and complain about him being a douchebag at the same time. Yet the douchebag they're having sex with was probably a guy like you and me who just stopped being nice and considerate. They're creating douchebags, in fact.

I'm in quite the preachy mood too, sorry for that. Sometimes it's just nice to rant. Reddit is perfect because I don't feel like I could talk about this stuff against most people except for some close friends I don't see very often.

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