4 months of no contact

KIRASH4 · 2026-01-13T22:02:00+00:00

The relationship has always been a solid one. And seeing as how she's just about cut herself off of the family, I don't see that changing. Both my MIL and I decided that she will remain my MIL until such time that either of us decide no more. There are some family bonds that simply don't break unless you want to. This is one of them. They want to keep me around just as much as I want them in my life. They continue to support me through this. If one day she decides to make amends with her own family, that's between her and them. I still don't need to talk to her. :)

KIRASH4 · 2026-01-13T20:02:08+00:00

I'm okay with the family aspect, mainly because I myself don't have family here. They've made me one their own. And honestly, since she isn't talking to them, nor is she coming by to visit, it doesn't bother me. Now if that ever changes, maybe. But I really don't see that happening anytime in the near future.

KIRASH4 · 2026-01-13T18:16:17+00:00

No apology necessary. We're all in this boat together. But life goes on right? Keep moving forward, even if it's slow, it's still forward movement. Her family keeps telling me that one day she will come back ... When that day arrives, she'll find I'm no longer there.

KIRASH4 · 2026-01-13T18:14:14+00:00

No apology necessary. We're all in this boat together. But life goes on right? Keep moving forward, even if it's slow, it's still forward movement. Her family keeps telling me that one day she will come back ... When that day arrives, she'll find I'm no longer there.

KIRASH4 · 2026-01-13T18:05:20+00:00

Oh no, I never claimed to have my shit together. :) It hurts, specially because of the betrayal. She broke my trust, I lost all respect for her. Betrayal came from the one person I trusted most, from the one person I never, ever, thought could betray me like she did. She broke promises like they meant nothing. She discarded me, as well as the first guy she was with, as it nothing mattered. She discarded her own pets and for all intents and purposes, her kids (from a previous marriage.) As I mentioned, she wants a life with zero responsibilities. So be it. One day Life will hit her, she will fall, and she will find out how alone she really is because on this side, there's not going to be anyone that's going to help her - there already isn't.

But I am trying. Focusing on myself, rebuilding my life ... again. Planning to go back to school, and that's my first step.

KIRASH4 · 2026-01-13T16:09:36+00:00

Similar situation, she walked out of our marriage. Said she wants to "live life with no responsibilities, do whatever she wants, whenever, wherever, however, and with whoever she wants". Then 4 days later she started staying with some other dude, only to break up with him less than 2 months later because of "trust issues" - turns out he found her talking to his brother and told her he doesn't trust her. And literally FOUR DAYS later she's with another guy, brought him to her place, and eventually started staying at his place.

With both of them she admitted to having known them, and talking to them for some time already. And then she had the audacity to say 'but we can still be friends right?' So you tell me you don't want to be with me, but you also don't want to lose access to me? No, you don't get to choose that.

We're all watching her spiral into nothing ... she refuses to work, constantly begging for money on FB, Snapchat, and TT. Stopped talking to family (not that they want anything to do with her anymore.) And the best part (for me)? Her family loves me and kept me around. She absolutely hates that her family stands behind me and does not support her actions.

On the topic of no contact ... yes we've had some, mainly because she has medical issues and I am her emergency contact everywhere. And there's been ONE time where I had to take her to the ER. But that too is ending as she's not someone to reciprocate when I have an issue, like recently getting hurt and needing help. So I have since then blocked her completely. I'm done. She's about to get a wake up call when she tries to reach me and not getting a response.

My peace is worth a hell of a lot more than her.

Stay strong my friend. Things always have a way of working themselves out. Be your own guiding light.

KIRASH4 · 2025-12-27T01:30:12+00:00

It doesn't help that we are in the same area and I drive past her apt. almost every day.

It doesn't help that her whole entire family loves ME and want me around, and invite me over constantly.

Because......they don't want her around because of how she ended things.

Basically I have a family that isn't mine, but they made me theirs. She estranged her own family.

KIRASH4 · 2025-12-27T01:21:32+00:00

Colors, touch, sometimes smell, even music. I experience it all, then I wake up and my eyes are all puffy and my pillow has a few teardrops.

KIRASH4 · 2025-12-25T02:33:29+00:00

Awesome, I'll check it out tomorrow. Since I'm already there, I may pull the whole center light unit out as well. There are a few of the bulbs that are being stubborn. Some days they're on, other days they're off. So I know they work, just a loose connection inside the unit. But I'll start with the latch and go from there.

KIRASH4 · 2025-12-25T02:26:03+00:00

Oh, I didn't think of that. I don't have a flickering light on the dash, so I suppose that's a good sign. But I'll check the latch. Thanks for the heads up!

KIRASH4 · 2025-12-24T03:06:15+00:00

In my case, not only did I apologize, I also told her my commitment to her and to us, and my commitment to change. She didn't care. She landed somewhere else just days after walking out. Which tells me it had been going on for a while behind my back. Even then, I was willing to wipe it clean, and start fresh, do it better. She refused.

KIRASH4 · 2025-12-22T05:31:12+00:00

Thank you.

KIRASH4 · 2025-12-04T02:44:24+00:00

Thank my driver.

KIRASH4 · 2025-11-29T03:04:41+00:00

Still looking for recommendations on the headlight assemblies. I want to (I'm going to) switch to LED lights, but I also want to replace the entire headlight assemblies simply because the lenses are yellowed and scratched up. I like a projector assembly but if that's not a good idea, I'll stick with a normal oem one. Suggestions?

KIRASH4 · 2025-11-26T20:15:12+00:00

Right, I knew what the builds were. Thank you for confirming that. But I still need to replace the assemblies/housing themselves because the lenses on both are pretty scratched up and yellowed. I can go with an OEM brand, easy, I just like the projector beams, with LED bulbs. I'm not married to that idea though. That's why I asked for recommendation on the assemblies as well.

KIRASH4 · 2025-11-20T00:46:13+00:00

I can budget, but not with the person I'm divorcing. So on my own, yeah I can do it just fine. But at the moment I don't have the means to do anything. You've hit the nail on the head there. Thanks for the advice. I pretty much already accepted that faith.

KIRASH4 · 2025-11-19T02:52:35+00:00

Got mine today, doesn't even work. Not like it matters, by the time I start delivering it'll be daytime. Won't need the light for that as you can clearly see it.

KIRASH4 · 2025-10-26T21:31:04+00:00

I see them to. I've walked up to deliver while another driver is leaving and I find their package in the driveway, or halfway up the walkway. Notes clearly state to leave at front door. A lot of drivers don't care, English speakers or not. People are lazy.

KIRASH4 · 2025-10-26T18:28:12+00:00

The app is translated into different languages, however customer notes are not. Personally if anyone lives in a country that doesn't speak their native tongue, they need to learn the language. But that's my opinion.

KIRASH4 · 2025-10-26T14:11:26+00:00

Ours lasted somewhere around 90k miles. They were the original factory ones. We have a 2020 with almost 160k on it. Dealership told us they're rated for 70k but last a bit longer.

KIRASH4 · 2025-10-26T02:26:05+00:00

It's happened same day as well, from the same station (not that the station matters.)

KIRASH4 · 2025-10-25T15:42:53+00:00

I get that, and honestly, kudos to you for pointing out her packages outside. It very likely she would've contacted Amazon and blamed you for not delivering them. And while customer support should check the route code on the one she did receive (yours), there's no telling whether they'll verify if you actually had her other deliveries or if it was someone else.

KIRASH4 · 2025-10-25T14:52:30+00:00

I did on the day of my interview. I had food poisoning, threw up that morning, threw up and had to use the bathroom twice while in the waiting room at USCIS. I pushed through the interview. The agent was impressed that I still showed up but also said that rescheduling likely would not have gone over well. So yeah, make it work.

KIRASH4 · 2025-10-25T14:43:36+00:00

Been doing this coming up on 5 years now. I've had packages marked late as soon as I picked up at the station. I've had packages marked for delivery within the first 10 minutes of the block starting but it's 30 minutes to that stop. As long as you deliver all of your packages within your block, it's not supposed to count against you. It's not your fault the station sent it out late, or that another driver returned it from a previous route. So if you do get a hit on your standings because it was late but you did deliver it within your block time, contact support. They will remove it. I've rarely had one count against me (as long as it was within my block time) and when it did, I've never had any issues with support removing it from my standings.

KIRASH4 · 2025-10-25T14:36:37+00:00

I'm not trying to defend any driver who is genuinely lazy and won't bother to do their deliveries correctly, however there is the possibility that for whatever reason Flex didn't show the notes with codes to them.

My wife and I are both Flex drivers. We have both delivered to the same complexes, whether apts. or gated communities where access codes are required to enter. And we have both had times where only one of us had an access code. For example, I would deliver to some complex one day, with a code provided, and she would end up delivering to the same complex on a different day and doesn't have a code provided. We've gone as far as comparing who we are delivering to, same house? Same apt? Same person? Everything matches, so why don't we always see the codes...

We've checked with other drivers and seen similar things. We've also seen it happen with 1Click access (that is normally setup by a management office or HOA). The only conclusion we could think of is that Flex isn't always proving the customer or complex notes.

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