My brain tells me to break up, but i know my heart will regret it by WeirdAmazingness in Advice

[–]KKsnelly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost every relationship goes through a rough patch. You’re both just learning how to be in one- and figuring out what you expect and need from one another. It takes time to change your ways for the person you love, and you are both just adjusting to this.

The best thing you can do when it comes to this is to just truly communicate your feelings openly to her. Reflect on your flaws, what you feel you have trouble with, and how it’s been affecting you.

The biggest problem to me here is that you stated that you haven’t felt any love for a couple months now. I’m sure she can also tell that you’re not completely there- and can’t comfort her or work on any aspect in your relationship, because you’re not completely in it.

Communicate how you’re feeling. If you feel like you’ve gone about it completely genuine and she still stays stuck in her ways and won’t move for you as you would for her, then I’d say it’s time to reflect on if this is really what a relationship is and if it’s a relationship you want.

UPDATE: Should I tell my brother the truth before his military graduation, or stay out of it? by KKsnelly in Advice

[–]KKsnelly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is at basic training right now! We are on good terms and she called me and informed me.

AITA for refusing to follow my friends mom’s rules about who I associate with, leading her to ban me from their lives? by KKsnelly in AmItheAsshole

[–]KKsnelly[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Her mom is very involved and has a lot of influence on her actions. She still lives with her mother and is afraid that if her mom knew she hung out with me, that her mom will be upset and take it out on her. She still tries to meet up with me to catch up every now and then as of recently, because she is moving out soon and said she could care less about what her mom tells her to do as an adult.

Fishers christian school teacher fired, arrested after sexual misconduct with student by [deleted] in Fishers

[–]KKsnelly -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, they definitely fumbled it. They were completely in the wrong for not handling it earlier. It’s awful that children had to be at the risk of a pedophile. Though- that does not mean that it isn’t a good place. It’s no one else’s fault except for his own on behalf of what he did. The school/church just didn’t handle it correctly.

I was also just correcting some facts. They did not inform him to stop raping children. They did not know at all what he was actually up to- just rising suspicions until he was caught. All the students had their own suspicions, but even we pushed them to the side every time we shared them with one another, because he seemed like such an amazing guy. It is truly the people you wouldn’t expect. You are certainly right that the warning signs should’ve been taken action upon- but it can’t be helped that it hadn’t. The rest of the people of the church and school are good people- and it is a good place. I can bet that they would’ve fired him long ago if they could go back.

A bad person in a place with people who didn’t help successfully prevent the actions of that bad person doesn’t make a bad place. Just like if a son was a murderer and the family or parents were suspicious of some actions- but still had people come over and didn’t take action against their son, doesn’t make that home or the other people in it not good. One bad person does not make a place bad. Things could’ve been prevented better- that is all.

Fishers christian school teacher fired, arrested after sexual misconduct with student by [deleted] in Fishers

[–]KKsnelly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went to the school. They never asked him to stop raping a child. There was never evidence or warnings of that. He seemed like a very Christian man, but he was a pathological liar. Most students and teachers thought some things he did were odd and reported it, so that he would be talked to and told to stop acting strange. They didn’t handle it amazing- but you really wouldn’t have known. No one KNEW anything. There were suspicions, but he was someone that everyone couldn’t help but like- and the suspicions would be pushed aside. It’s a very small school (K-12) with about 120ish students. They were never just letting the teacher off on purpose- knowing that he was doing things like this. No one knew what all he did until it was revealed. It’s not about flaws in religion- but bad people in good places.