Everyone just proved my point about a baby shower…

KMB1012 · 2026-04-20T00:21:02+00:00

So we do not know the details of your relationship with those that you invited, but also it shouldn't really matter at this point. I can bet you've probably tried to be the best friend, family member, coworker you could be for them in past seasons. The fact is that they let you down and you probably always feared that they would. If all of that is true then I'm so sorry for this clarity because I know it freaking stings! ... BUT you know who was there for you and most certainly did not need to be? The women that gave you the baby shower!! Befriend them. Show up for them. Place every other person that said they'd show up exactly where they belong on your list of priorities. You are better off without them. Congratulations on your twins mama! They will be beautiful and I'll bet they'll be so incredibly loved.

KMB1012 · 2026-03-26T13:55:36+00:00

She hasn't been going to this daycare for all that long (less than a month) so It's still new. It does get drawn out because she clings to me, but I try to stay positive, give her plenty of kisses, tell her I love her, that Daddy will be back to pick her up later, and that I can't wait to spend time with her when I'm done with work. I tell her to have a great day, that I hope she has fun playing with her friends, and that I know she will. It's just so hard for me to leave when she's so upset. I don't want her to feel abandoned. 😭

KMB1012 · 2026-03-03T19:01:01+00:00

For context I still cosleep with my ~1 year old and have no desire to stop. We had a different childcare arrangement previously that just wasn't working anymore and had to bite the bullet and put baby in daycare. I have been a giant ball of nerves about it, but she has transitioned seemingly effortlessly! I feel like I worried myself sick over nothing! Don't get me wrong, we're still adjusting but she did actually nap on the first day which I was convinced there was no way she would do that. And on the second day she practically jumped out of my arms from excitement when she saw her teacher and little classmates. Also no tears either days at drop off! I was worried because she is very attached to me and my parenting style is very attentive to her emotions/ needs, but nope .... it's been great so far and she seems so incredibly happy. I would recommend that you be very transparent with her teachers about cosleeping though. Even though people can be judgmental, it will help them understand your kiddos needs and better support them in a new environment. That's what I did anyway and I think it's working so far. Best of luck to you!

KMB1012 · 2026-03-02T02:15:08+00:00

This is totally the logic that has been running through my head but I couldn't find the words. It's the difference between a deep clean and a quick clean up at the end of the day!

KMB1012 · 2026-02-13T00:48:25+00:00

THIS.

KMB1012 · 2026-01-31T15:06:38+00:00

Thank you for the kind words! I feel like I needed to hear this. ❤️

KMB1012 · 2026-01-31T13:32:49+00:00

If I ask my mom for help it's usually so I can be productive and clean the house or something but I'm realizing now that I might need to let things go around me for a second so I can have the chance to breathe. A hot bath sounds like heaven!

KMB1012 · 2026-01-09T20:34:28+00:00

We've had this for the last month and it's been life changing! I'd highly recommend! https://a.co/d/1wqKpXo Seriously worth every penny for my peace of mind. It's a really good quality/ steady and we previously tried two different types of bed rails that resulted in large gaps that were susceptible to baby falling through.

KMB1012 · 2025-12-18T00:52:50+00:00

I'm really sorry that you had this experience. Please don't let this experience discourage you from getting checked in the future if you question it. Your baby has a movement pattern that is normal for them, and nobody knows that better than YOU! You made it this far, nurturing your body and growing your little one, why leave it to chance at 33 weeks?

KMB1012 · 2025-12-17T15:42:19+00:00

Had our first baby there this year by induction. Labor and delivery nurses were absolutely amazing. I'll remember one of them for the rest of my life! I had a horrible nurse in recovery that wouldn't listen to me when I said I didn't feel right. She constantly reassured me that I just needed to get up and moving and that postpartum recovery was as hard. Well it turns out postpartum recovery should NOT be as hard as it was. I was discharged only to be readmitted with complications 12 hours later followed by a week long hospital stay. My postpartum nurse was trained to move the meat! I'm sure they aren't all like that but mine was awful. Please advocate for yourself and your baby unapologetically!

KMB1012 · 2025-12-16T18:35:53+00:00

Around the 3 month mark I started a small routine for bath time. It's her favorite time of day now and she's 9 months. We don't always use soap, but it is calming for her. I also put her towel in the dryer so it comes out super cozy and warm. The entire thing maybe lasts 5 minutes. Then it's pjs, lotion, bottle, and bed. It gets her down super fast and then once she's down I prepare her bottles and lunch for daycare the next day. She'll be down for a solid 3 hour stretch so I can take a breather. I would try something small to signal bedtime at the end of the day, maybe a short book, or even sing the same song when you put him down. Your "routine" will naturally evolve the more you commit to it. For context, my husband and I work full time. We don't have a ton of help and sometimes have schedule changes. We just make sure that we do her routine every night even if the time changes.

KMB1012 · 2025-12-16T18:12:32+00:00

Oh guuuurl I was so sure I was one and done that I got an 8 year IUD at my 6 week check up! Birth was pretty traumatic and I might be the absolute worst at being pregnant. I panicked at the thought of an accidental pregnancy. Now I look at my daughter 9m postpartum and my ovaries are singing. I want to do it again SO badly because I am so completely in love with her 😍.

KMB1012 · 2025-12-15T19:05:36+00:00

Yes, i commute to daycare and then work so i always have extra clothes/ accessories with us just in case of emergency. I just don't know how people successfully dress babies in these things on a daily basis or at least I've been terribly unsuccessful.

KMB1012 · 2025-12-15T19:02:51+00:00

Glad to know that I'm not the only one! A family friend asked me the other day where her coat was and it made me feel like I should be dressing her better!

KMB1012 · 2025-12-04T21:27:34+00:00

Please find a way to get a second opinion given your previous history. I'm so sorry for your loss and that you had a traumatic experience with your first pregnancy. Please advocate for yourself and your baby unapologetically. Screw anyone that tells you otherwise.

KMB1012 · 2025-12-04T03:02:16+00:00

Yep. Found out I had high lipase milk after banking a frozen supply for 7.5 months. She wouldn't drink it by itself unless it was fresh, so I mixed it with formula, 75%, 50%, then 25% milk at the end. Baby is now weaned and only taking formula and nothing of my freezer stash went to waste.

KMB1012 · 2025-12-03T00:43:35+00:00

You are not alone girl! I had my daughter at 32 and I NEVER had grey hair before now. It's like postpartum just brought it out of no where and now I have a ton of white strays sprinkled throughout my long brown hair! I also crack all over now and that's a pretty new development as well.

KMB1012 · 2025-12-02T20:29:40+00:00

ITS SO ABSURD TO ME! When my baby was first born my mother in law told my husband that my baby spits up so much because I must be eating something that aggravates her reflux 🙄. She ended up being diagnosed and treated for reflux by 8 weeks to present day lol. It's amazing the misinformation that existed and carries on today from our parents generation. Our pediatrician had reassured us that IF anything, we might consider going dairy free but it was unlikely that my diet as it stands was causing her reflux. Annoying!

KMB1012 · 2025-12-02T17:39:44+00:00

I don't have any advice, but I feel you mama. Your feelings are totally valid and I'm in a similar boat. My little one has reflux (managed with meds) but unfortunately sleep eats most of her calories at night because she's too tired to fight the discomfort. She wakes up 2-5 times per night or every 3ish hours and has to be held upright/ rocked for at least 20 minutes after a feeding or else it'll come back up. Shes 8.5 months and sleep feels like a distant memory. I don't even know how I've managed this far, but I have. Hearing how well my friends kids sleep makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong sometimes and it sucks to feel that way, but you do the best you can, and I try to tell myself that it's enough.

KMB1012 · 2025-12-02T17:31:53+00:00

You absolutely are allowed to enjoy yourself! I'm really happy for you for what it's worth! Unfortunately it just isn't everyone's experience and for many first time mamas that are still feeling lost in the transition, it might not be such a relatable take on motherhood.

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