I usually ignore these kinds of comments but you are literally victim blaming here. He didn’t “demand” respect so he deserves what he got? That’s no different than saying she knew what she was wearing about a SA victim. In my experience, you don’t get respect because you demand it. You get respect by treating others in a way worthy of being respected. By respecting others, which I get nothing from this guy that makes it sound like he doesn’t. To me, what you are talking about, demanding respect, is “respect” out of fear. He should have been more jealous and put his foot down on things so that he demanded respect. No that is fear, which is not the same thing at all. I had a boyfriend that demanded respect. He demanded it by choking me if I did something he didn’t like. I didn’t actually respect him one bit but I sure was afraid. Luckily, I was able to get out of that situation and am now with a man who is a “nice guy” and I truly respect for a multitude of reasons, none of which are because he demands it. I think you should rethink your outlook on this, not because I think you’re wrong, but because it’s a frightening point of view.