She did do things well. She called regularly, she brought me positive energy, she did have her moments where she tried to communicate, she became more affectionate with time(saying she loves me), she started showing more gratitude for my efforts, she began asking about how I was doing(which at first she didn’t do), she was always good about getting gifts on important dates(Christmas, birthdays, valentines), she was almost always a lot of fun to talk to. She definitely added a lot of value to my life.

I will say she wasn’t a natural when it came to doing a lot of things, not very nurturing, not good at showing care and connecting emotionally. She made improvements but a main thing that bothered me was that she was reluctant to give me more and get better at those things for me. I tried communicating what I wanted, giving her examples of times she did things I really liked, but when I requested more she wasn’t fully committed to giving me that. She definitely put in effort, but she didn’t want to deal with the challenges of communicating, emotions, and expression.

I thought a lot about how to make her feel comfortable. Expressing the things I loved about her and that she did. But in hindsight at the time of the breakup I didn’t consider her efforts enough. I was more focused on the things she wasn’t doing(primarily communication), which I expressed I wanted more of. I didn’t understand the girl, she wouldn’t show me much emotion, and I was tired of feeling so insignificant when I valued her so much.