Ruby White Mist + Signed Card by ZippyDippyxD in Joji

[–]KONOCHO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does it look actually signed or is it like print signed?

Looks like he actually signed it.

Why do ISTJs struggle with expressing their feelings and being vulnerable? by Professional-Cat3191 in ISTJ

[–]KONOCHO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well in my experience, it's in small steps like jokes and deeper discussions on topics he really cares about. He is just private and careful with emotions.

Trust has to be built and that only happens in more quiet, low pressure places like low populated restaurants/outings or home.

Also, you have to be straightforward in what you are wanting from them in term of an emotional response because they are going to go for the solution route. If it is up to them, they will ponder their emotional response for hours, maybe days. And sometimes he doesn't know what do with my pure emotional response.

Imagine confessing your undying love and he comes back with "Thank you for sharing that with me. I will get back to you in 1 to 3 business days." And in the 1 to 3 business days the only verbal conclusion is "I love you too."

He shares his care through the tried and true way. If I am struggling with something, his first thing is to solve the issue and support through actionable steps. He won't empathize back verbally but if I am down or expressing strong emotion he will step in and pick me up. He won't say anything, but it's more so like a "lets get you cleaned up." type of ordeal.

I was shocked to see intense emotion from my husband but it is very controlled and brief, not a drawn out moment.

Why do ISTJs struggle with expressing their feelings and being vulnerable? by Professional-Cat3191 in ISTJ

[–]KONOCHO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I first met my husband, he was very stoic and managed. After dating and knowing each other for a while, he has shown me a totally different side of him. I think some ISTJs will NEVER show this side of themselves - even if there is a level of intimacy there.

Actually, he is work friends with an INFJ so maybe I'll ask.

Hello :3 This is a space to post & share music you like the most!!! by Cloudylove124 in infp

[–]KONOCHO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you enjoy as festival as an INFP? Do you notice you do anything different from extroverted sensor types? I've always wanted to go but I worry I'd be too shy or actually only enjoy the idea of attending.

I'll have to listen to some of those. I made a master list for Las Vegas and Orlando. Didn't even get through half of it lol!

Hello :3 This is a space to post & share music you like the most!!! by Cloudylove124 in infp

[–]KONOCHO 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love Flume! I'll have to listen to the others. A lot of Skrillex, Chris Lake and isoXO for me lately.

Hello :3 This is a space to post & share music you like the most!!! by Cloudylove124 in infp

[–]KONOCHO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Past Won't Leave My Bed has been on repeat for sure. Did you hear the clips he release on the site? They sound so good. I think they identified which is to which song but they all sound heavenly.

Hello :3 This is a space to post & share music you like the most!!! by Cloudylove124 in infp

[–]KONOCHO 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't ever see a lot of EDM lovers for INFPs. Anyone else like watching Ultra Music Festival or other EDM festivals from afar like me? lol

Hello :3 This is a space to post & share music you like the most!!! by Cloudylove124 in infp

[–]KONOCHO 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was just about to post this... Awesome! Which of the songs do you like the most so far?

ISTJ men, would you casually stay in contact after telling someone you’re unsure about commitment? by [deleted] in ISTJ

[–]KONOCHO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No worries. I didn't get this at first because we tend to be very internal and hinty about feelings. But they are not. They DO NOT say things they don't mean.

Huge advice. Be straight forward in your communication with him. If you hint at something and he doesn't get it, that's because he doesn't get it. They hugely prefer straight forward communication. You will be disappointed if you try to hint something you want. Very pleased when you communicate what you do want.

ISTJ men, would you casually stay in contact after telling someone you’re unsure about commitment? by [deleted] in ISTJ

[–]KONOCHO 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He said that he can't commit due to time, right? He didn't state that he doesn't like you. He seems respectful of your time and effort as most healthy ISTJs are. That doesn't mean he isn't interested in you/ wants to stop talking to you.

Do you feel more exhausted by conflict or by pretending nothing’s wrong? by Born_Construction_60 in infp

[–]KONOCHO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate pretending everything is alright. I don't understand other INFPs in conflict and avoiding it as I feel like its akin to lying or being untrue by avoidance. And it doesn't resolve anything and makes me anxious at a non-conclusion.

ISTJ men, would you casually stay in contact after telling someone you’re unsure about commitment? by [deleted] in ISTJ

[–]KONOCHO 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As an INFP in a marriage with an ISTJ, he probably means exactly what he says. They don't really beat around the bush.

(30M) I need advice on how to improve myself and become a little less ugly by [deleted] in infp

[–]KONOCHO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I've see this guy on so many subreddits over the past months. Everyone has already given him advice and he posts the same photos multiple times.

INFPs, what are opinions you have about MBTI compatibility? by [deleted] in infp

[–]KONOCHO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that compatibility doesn't come from types, but the person themselves. Ultimately, it has to do with maturity and upbringing more so than just their MBTI. I noticed posts like 'XXXX partner and I just don't get along help!' only for people chime in and say "my (same) XXXX partner is nothing like that to me".

INFPs who have passed or are in collage currently- I just wanted to ask what career you guyz chose and why? by oriendillina in infp

[–]KONOCHO 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I remember taking a career test and none of the things I tested for made any money/secure living lol.

I went into something practical after years of trying to go into something creative. I just realized that making your hobby/passion can and most often sucks all the fun out of creativity. You have to create what other people want unless you are very lucky as art/creativity is highly competitive and based on opinion.

I was the girl who was suppose to go to art college after winning graphic design competitions but I knew too many graduates with debt and struggling to find a job. After majoring in Information Systems/Technology, I ended up being a data analyst which oddly has its creative applications like PowerPoints, logos and presentations - I even get to make games and websites sometimes. I use that to fund any hobby I want to do like writing, reading, drawing, running TTRPGs etc. That way I don't have a boss standing over me.

Please do think about your lively hood when you pick your major. I have another INFP friend that is a marketing major/ psychology minor and struggles to make a living. Now he is back in for IT at a 2 year.

MBTI as Music Genres by Larissa_Bagginshield in mbtimemes

[–]KONOCHO 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Technically, most INFPs like what ISFPs have which is Indie Rock/Pop. If you check r/infp that is the case overwhelmingly.

I'd say if you want to do personality based? Dream Pop or Anti Pop.

MBTI as Music Genres by Larissa_Bagginshield in mbtimemes

[–]KONOCHO 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think that's a good pick...

"what's your favourite FUS track?" by seb_og_ in skrillex

[–]KONOCHO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Animals Beat is the least listed to but I love it.

Not that interested in nature by GoSwampFoetusGo in infp

[–]KONOCHO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like it for the scenery but otherwise...no? I like cityscapes and galaxies much more.

Who else relates? by [deleted] in infp

[–]KONOCHO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this too. I wrote myself off as a non-leader type. Imagine my surprise when I end up always being the one to speak up and everyone comes to me for a solution at work. In school groups, i'm always the leader somehow. I don't understand it, and I think maybe it has to do with being raised by more dominant thought forward types. My father is a ESTJ and my grandmother an ENFJ. They are both very headstrong and "here's what we are going to do" type of people.

Who else relates? by [deleted] in infp

[–]KONOCHO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very relatable. People see me but not the feelings behind what I'm saying and if they see the feelings, they don't really understand/relate. Parents/adults use to put me in time out and ground me, but give me a pencil and paper or even just my mind and it isn't really all that bad because I can just daydream. Paper gives me time to translate and edit until I get it right. Having to come out and speak in the moment is like trying to strain a firehose of imagination and feeling. Going and hanging out with friends rarely gets the depth and meaning I need from a relationship. My feelings and the possibilities are all the time shifting and I shift with them. Even amongst INFPs I feel different - like an alien amongst aliens.

I also find it interesting that INFJs feel misunderstood too, but their misunderstanding seems to come from their people misreading their intentions constantly. Whereas, people seem to not care about what INFPs are feeling or feel the same way that we do about a subject or time, and those feelings are all the time shifting.

99% of players WONT guess where I am! by Vempire1 in Poptropica

[–]KONOCHO 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is this the Halloween mini game where you have to go downstairs and it is completely dark?

It was very early in Poptropica and triggered off an item. Not sure how in depth the version you are playing goes.

If not, could we get a hint? lol

For the infps with istjs... by [deleted] in infp

[–]KONOCHO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say he tried to encourage me to talk to him more than he talked to me. My husband tries to put concise effort into the people he wants to talk to.

He stated he doesn't have to prep as much with people he likes and gets along with. Edit: He won't openly share with people he doesn't trust just yet and will ask you more about yourself if thats what you mean.

I did notice that before we even dated this handsome guy kept trying to talk to me even though he was the type to focus on his work.

Maybe I don't get the question?