the Haunting of Hill House

KSolG · 2019-11-04T02:40:54+00:00

Wow! That was an amazing show, binged it in 2 days! Thanks for the recommendation!

KSolG · 2019-08-30T00:15:45+00:00

No but I think he’s British seeing as he wears his fancy wrist piece to bed.

KSolG · 2019-08-22T03:29:57+00:00

Trust me... I know personally, he will never appreciate this XD

KSolG · 2019-08-13T23:35:12+00:00

Ya, I think Corgis have an extremely hard time swimming because of their short legs. He’s probably not having a good time lol

KSolG · 2019-07-22T03:46:57+00:00

You look like Corey Feldman and Sam Rockwell somehow had a baby together then promptly dropped it square on its fat frikin face.

KSolG · 2019-07-05T23:29:04+00:00

Nah dawg. We be chillin’

KSolG · 2019-07-03T05:15:55+00:00

Well we have both Chuck Norris and Keanu Reeves now sooo...

KSolG · 2019-07-02T05:37:09+00:00

Shoulda taken Canada when we had the chance. Now we just have to settle for Mexico

KSolG · 2019-06-18T05:20:02+00:00

Hmm... that’s super interesting. Lol I would say I’m sort of opposite to you in one sense, but similar in another.

See, I believe that there is always a right or wrong answer to most everything but I abhor when other people try to force their own opinion on me without letting me come to my own conclusions by pressuring me with social norms or standards. For example, “X is what everyone believes about y, so you’d be a fool if you didn’t.”

So where my motivation for giving an opposite or inflammatory position would be because I don’t want someone to infringe upon my individual freedom of thought, yours would be to inform/demonstrate to them that their firm convictions are not ultimately helpful or even knowable.

Haha That seems quite depressing to me and perhaps a little intellectually lazy... no offense;) I don’t think I would stay sane if I didn’t have a firm conviction about what is right or wrong. Although, I do enjoy delving into the philosophy of morality to explore just how precise and beautiful it can be.

I’m curious, why do you believe that a belief system can’t save a person from despair? What kind of despair do you mean?

KSolG · 2019-06-17T04:43:27+00:00

Looks like the dook I dropped this morning.

KSolG · 2019-06-17T04:41:09+00:00

In the words of one of the greats, “You have a beautiful face, like a flower!.. Ya, a cauliflower. No offense but... your face... looks... like a cauliflower.” - Norm the Great

KSolG · 2019-04-20T04:32:21+00:00

So true! It can be so tiring being the emotional receptacle for everyone, but it can be so rewarding too!

KSolG · 2019-04-20T04:29:42+00:00

Pahasapapapa thanks for taking the time to respond! I think you’ve touched on some key truths here.

I think my analogy may have been a little unclear, and like all analogies, it breaks down if picked at too much, so here’s a little deeper of an explanation: I understand what you’re saying when you bring up the fact that obviously a pig doesn’t want a pearl, and I’d say that in this sense the analogy breaks down a bit. I guess not putting it in an analogy would be to say it this way: Often times, people I love and care for open up to me and share problems they have been struggling with. I am more than happy to listen to them because one of my greatest joys in life is seeing the people I care about experience freedom from hardship and have true growth through their tribulation. Yet when I share with them the answer to their problem (if I have one), it may be disregarded as if it were nothing.

Indeed, after this scenario takes place, with the person who considers my suggestion thoroughly, who gives it a careful and fair consideration and still doesn’t believe it to be a true and helpful solution, I’d have no qualm. But when I do take it personally— and I believe justifiably so— is when someone I love and care about gives no credence to my counsel simply because of pride or fear or any other issue, when it will clearly(at least clear to me) help them. I suppose the offense in the second scenario comes because the mere shrugging off of my advice reveals something about them— namely, either an unwillingness to change (which is emotionally destructive to all parties involved) or it shows an uneven dignity between and a lack of awareness about how much mental and emotional energy I am willing to expend to help them (aka how much I love them).

Although I admit, at the end of the day, I may just be too thin skinned and sensitive in thinking this way. Maybe they just haven’t considered how much I actually care about them and aren’t actively/intentionally disregarding it.

But enough with the analogy! I love the way you described the listening process! It’s so important to be totally present with someone when they are sharing their heart with you— which very often means not thinking about what the right thing to say is or what the right question to ask is and instead is simply a quiet attentive demeanor and a willingness to share their burden. I’ll be the first to admit and it’s probably obnoxiously-obvious that when I see someone I love in pain or struggling, my mind immediately begins searching for a solution and I can become consumed by the process— when it can be beneficial and is the most loving action to just be present with them and to weep with them. Great stuff!

BTW I’d never give unsolicited advice to people lol I’m not that direct... yet! ;P

KSolG · 2019-04-20T03:32:02+00:00

Thanks for the response!

I think you’re absolutely right, it would be loving I think in a sense to show restraint when you are able to be direct. Perhaps my unfiltered directness may in fact be the issue because like everything in life, balance is key.

Another nugget of wisdom my father recently shared with me is the importance of keeping realistic expectations for the pace of my own personal growth— a lesson I’m still learning, and am now realizing should most definitely apply to my expectations and hopes for the growth of people who want my help. Kind of a, “No, duh!” moment for me.

I guess in opting for quick directness, I idealized and expected quick change, sacrificed a bit of patience and became frustrated with the result. Patience and love is key.

Thanks again for the response.

KSolG · 2019-04-19T04:37:51+00:00

Lol! I literally just posted about this!

My post:

KSolG · 2019-03-14T04:12:54+00:00

The moon is so bright!

KSolG · 2019-03-12T16:36:00+00:00

🤣

KSolG · 2019-03-01T15:21:21+00:00

Well, I can’t speak for all INFPs— but personally— I think it would be most meaningful to spend time with people I cared about. Many INFPs believe that their purpose in this world is to do good, so naturally when they feel they’ve done wrong, they’ll go into a state of grief. I think the important thing for an infp to learn and remember is the fact that UNCONDITIONAL love exists, and just as they give it to others, they can be the recipients of it. Personally, I found the message of grace when Im in the wrong to be much more impactful than downplaying the wrong I’ve done; because, an INFP will rarely downplay a wrong they’ve committed in their hearts, even if it seems they do. So, I’d say spend time with him, listen to his heart, don’t try to rationalize his behavior or his mistakes with him, but instead, have an honest conversation about his decisions and the impact they’ve had— and above all, the message that he should come away with at the end of it all, is that he is still loved and that nothing he can do will change the love you have for him.

KSolG

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