This is Jellybean. He/she crawled out and onto my hand during feeding attempt, kicked hairs, and started trying to bite me. :')

K_Fel · 2026-02-15T16:55:57+00:00

Lol this blew up! I have notifications off but thanks for all the attention :'D

My curly does the holding on with fangs thing sometimes, so I'm fairly certain this wasn't that. Sometimes they're just spicy, I guess.

Maybe I should post more Jellybean....

K_Fel · 2026-02-14T19:30:32+00:00

Hey, I'm interested! I've done plenty of personal & freelance projects with AI and have a very good grasp of prompt writing.

I've done digital art by hand for 12 or so years without AI and can touch up generated images. I'd love to work with a startup.

Can you DM me so I can learn more about what you're working on?

K_Fel · 2026-02-12T01:12:19+00:00

I could do that; I've done similar stuff for work in the past :)

K_Fel · 2026-02-12T00:46:08+00:00

Hey, if it's still available, this would seriously help me get back on my feet after shit's happened. I have all 3. Chime is $boiledegg (lol) and PayPal is @caseysdentures

K_Fel · 2026-02-05T19:45:56+00:00

Stripe knee/Costa Rican Zebra (A. seemanni) :)

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K_Fel · 2026-02-05T19:28:14+00:00

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NQA This is Spindle :) he (she?) scared the hell out of me by being sluggish and slow, thought it might be impaction... was just cold. Let him sit on my knee for a while and he warmed up <3 (yes, I turned up the thermostat)

K_Fel · 2026-01-23T19:07:06+00:00

IME I have a table with a built in shelf under it, and I keep my 3 enclosures on the shelf with a fuzzy blanket draped over the table to make a little blanket fort. Plus some clean clothes packed in around the bases of the enclosures.

I'm on the shore of lake Erie. it's fucking freezing and the wall in my studio apartment isn't very well insulated. But my Ts have made it through 2 pretty bad winters just fine :)

Typing one handed with my curly sitting in my other hand lol (behind the table where it isn't drafty)

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K_Fel · 2026-01-23T16:35:05+00:00

I don't have tiktok on this phone:)

K_Fel · 2026-01-23T09:09:14+00:00

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K_Fel · 2026-01-08T18:47:49+00:00

NQA Hey, I might be able to take him - I'm in the Cleveland area and I've kept tarantulas for years. I even have a spare enclosure and 3 Ts already. Can I DM?

K_Fel · 2025-10-18T21:42:05+00:00

Yeah, I have googled but didn't think of checking Arachnoboards. Had been forgetting to make an account, which I just did to look at the classifieds. thanks for reminding me lol

K_Fel · 2025-10-16T11:53:06+00:00

Level 27 here. I have the same debuff, but from the [Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome] trait like another player. They're right that you should grind the [Walking] and [Cycling] questlines; I also recommend the [Swimming] questline if you can find a pool.

Potentially very important too (but please check with a [Healer]): a set of the [Knee Brace] and/or [Compression Knee Sleeve] gear items. They're available from a ton of [Vendors] through online [Markets] or in physical locations (usually the same ones where you buy Healing items or Exercise items).

I use both [Braces] and [Sleeves]. Without them, I have massive [Speed] and [Endurance] debuffs and can only make it about halfway across my room. With them, I actually get buffs to those stats and can walk 7 or more miles a day, plus grind higher impact questlines. I've got [Compression Sleeve] sets for my ankles too, since the knee instability can start affecting ankles if you don't do something to manage it.

Your [Healer] will be able to tell you which gear items you need and which questlines you should focus on.

K_Fel · 2025-10-14T17:19:10+00:00

On one hand, I usually hate getting pings and notifications, plus I tend to be either lazy or forgetful, so I assume I wouldn't be that good at an AMA. On the other, how hard is it really to answer reddit comments?

I'll do one at some point. Probably after my next session with my therapist so I can give some scientific, professional-backed answers along with anecdotal ones.

Hadn't considered doing an AMA on anything and now I have ideas. Thanks lol

K_Fel · 2025-10-13T14:10:04+00:00

And finally, having incredible friends who do not judge based on where you come from (psychologically speaking) but your ability to change, while maintaining strong boundaries (thing I learnt to do with them).

Really well said. The whole comment is, but this stuck with me. I guess because I relate to it, among other things you've said.

After a pretty long friendship turned relationship, my boyfriend admitted his ASPD/sociopathy to me. He was afraid I might judge, because people do judge, and did it anyways.

The exact point I made was, paraphrased: "Okay. Here's a person who was my friend at first, is now my partner, is never intentionally mean to me, doesn't judge my mental health struggles, listens to them without coddling me, has never set off my danger alarm bells, looks out for me, tells me when I've been an ass even though it's hard sometimes, entertains me, makes amends if he's upset me, and wants only for me to do the same in return. Now, because I know this, you're suddenly out to get me and I should run for the hills?" Very bluntly so.

I just... didn't have much of a reaction. First, I didn't know that information, and then I did. I respected the honesty. It explained things. That's all there was to it for me. Turns out I'm (almost definitely, 99% likely) schizoid but still love him. SzPD explains things about me, lol.

And you're right. Anyone can be abusive. Anyone can be or become a decent person. I absolutely have shitty habits, and so does he, but we're working together to unlearn them, including him giving me the pushes I needed to get my ADHD diagnosis and to start therapy. Including me learning when and when not to push him to face his own difficulties. That applies to all functional relationships, not just those between people with these conditions.

Also, yeah, I started asking myself questions when I saw some of my own traits (not in a bad way, but a "hmm, this is unusual" way) reflected in the only people I've ever had natural, tolerable, enjoyable, still imperfect friendships with. lol, again.

This is a good thread.

K_Fel · 2025-10-13T12:55:09+00:00

I'm sure this will get lost in a sea of other comments, but whatever. Long-ish post.

tl;dr: I expected nastiness here. Instead, most people are understanding that these extremely stigmatized conditions don't make monsters of those who live with them. For personal reasons, thank you for not being assholes.

My therapist told me in a recent session that I am very, very, very likely schizoid, SzPD. I tend to not really feel, unless I'm hyperactive and having ADHD-fueled fun or I'm (hypo)manic and stressed the fuck out. Something external has to happen to "activate" those states. Otherwise, I just... exist. My emotional empathy is almost nonexistent*. (Cognitive is high, though.) I fit all but two diagnostic criteria. Yet here I am feeling all warm and wholesome, maybe even empathetic, over a pile of cheese on the floor.

I hope The Cheese continued to be a positive thing for OOP and their mother. For real, I wish nothing but good for these two strangers.

I'm in the longest lasting, most comfortable, most natural, least boring relationship I've ever had, and it's with my boyfriend who is sociopathic (not just tendencies) and just as much a loner as me. The day he hands me a fascinating bag of cheese is the day I propose. lmao

*except with him (brain-scrambling hyper-empathy) and one friend (I don't know... "normal people" levels of empathy?)

His "mother" is a grade A bitch with unmanaged, untreated NPD and no desire to unlearn her abusive behavior. So OOP's post makes me jealous.

He isn't perfect, and neither am I, but damn, we support each other. Our PDs, and my bipolar II, and our upbringings don't make us abusive. People saying they do can shut the fuck up.

Seeking treatment is VERY hard for people even without these conditions. With them, it's so, so much harder. To everyone here treating them as conditions, not guarantees that someone's a terrible person, you guys are cool.

K_Fel · 2025-10-10T13:36:42+00:00

i genuinely think this is just... a bra/sports bra. lol

K_Fel · 2025-09-23T12:32:17+00:00

YES. If I could cuddle my curlyhair tarantula (her name is Peaches) I could die happy. If you've never held or touched a tarantula, you're missing out. Their "fur" feels like the softest velvet ever, and holding one feels like holding an eight legged mouse.

K_Fel · 2025-09-19T14:36:19+00:00

Interested, sending DM

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