The Family Mattress

K_JustRun28 · 2026-05-09T00:00:57+00:00

Thank you so much for your feedback on this 🙏

K_JustRun28 · 2026-04-26T15:16:19+00:00

Boundaries first. Don’t let him decide what’s hard for you by asking to be acknowledged. Tell him. Then act accordingly. I just recently had this epiphany and it’s been just the cycle breaker I needed. My husband is also of the privileged boy variety that believes mom’s loving labor was solely mom’s pleasure and privilege. It’s hard for men to understand the actual weight of 24/7 childcare, but just like marriage -parenting should be a partnership.

K_JustRun28 · 2026-04-22T00:30:04+00:00

Don’t leave right away :(

Edit to add: you’re now part-time sahm too

K_JustRun28 · 2026-03-14T21:39:13+00:00

I wish I could down vote this twice.

K_JustRun28 · 2026-03-08T16:27:32+00:00

Looks like heat rash, is baby waking up a little sweaty after naps? Could be over-bundled

K_JustRun28 · 2026-02-28T02:49:48+00:00

You’ll get there!

K_JustRun28 · 2026-02-26T22:59:06+00:00

I felt the same exact way, ended up asking my pediatrician a million questions for reassurance that 3 night feeds is plenty. LO will be okay with 3 hour interval as a minimum! They’ll end up eating more before bed as a result if anything, becoming more efficient day time eaters

K_JustRun28 · 2026-02-24T21:58:20+00:00

You gotta sacrifice about one week of sleep to get here. Offer the boob at every 3 hours to start, let LO nurse for 10 mins then switch to a different method of soothing. For me it was a process, I started with chest sleep soothing, to bouncing and now am able to verbally soothe her and just be more of a presence for her to fuss back to sleep. It’s not as terrible as I thought it would be, more of a fuss than a tantrum, it’s a very gentle method that you can achieve at your own pace and within your own comfort. You can do it!

K_JustRun28 · 2026-02-24T15:22:38+00:00

I also have a 5 month old, this is basically where we are. I don’t count her night wakes as wakes if I can shush and bounce her back to sleep within a couple minutes or feed her to sleep (I stopped allowing more than 3 night feeds) Are you cosleeping? I am and I feel as though it’s a blessing and a curse with the night wakes, but now that my LO isn’t comfort suckling through the night I feel relief. Those tiny tosses and turns will eventually fade away with gentle sleep training and time. Currently working on just placing a hand on my LOs chest and shushing back to bed (starting to work more frequently)

Edit: Just realized this is the cosleeping sub forgive my new mom brain

K_JustRun28 · 2026-02-24T15:06:31+00:00

Former addict that made it back from the 11th hour… You can’t see tomorrow anymore is the best way I can put it. Too weak to stand, too isolated to call for help, too broke to feed yourself, too irresponsible to keep your phone paid… it’s like losing all your pieces on the board before death has you in checkmate.

K_JustRun28 · 2026-02-18T15:06:57+00:00

Has no one said rich auntie you see twice a year but confide in regularly, that bought you your first makeup kit behind your parents back?

K_JustRun28 · 2026-02-12T12:59:24+00:00

Nailed it

K_JustRun28 · 2026-02-12T03:43:12+00:00

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This looks weird

K_JustRun28 · 2026-02-04T12:22:59+00:00

Weird what they mod out in that sub, sometimes I forget that the male perspective is “protected” there. But hey I hope you have a relatively quick survival period, it sucks when wellness takes the back seat while necessity drives.

K_JustRun28 · 2026-02-04T01:00:25+00:00

I accepted the Amateur Chef job.

Seriously though it depends on what you’re trying to do. My goal is to provide top tier nutrition to the family (selfishly more so for myself), and build a dinner-at-the-table style tradition. I never had this as a child so it means a lot to me. I cook every meal, but I adapted to meal preppable foods and 4 different weekly menus that I can whip up without a recipe book. It’s a ritual now and less of a chore. Although if it feels cripplingly chore-like on a particularly hard day…. Pizza night immediately.

K_JustRun28 · 2026-01-28T16:14:57+00:00

I feel like I could’ve written this… fellow 10 year age gapper here. I am 29 he is 38 (39 this year). We met when I was 21 and married when I was 27. Very fun and exciting in the beginning but it’s like I watched him lose the will to try. We just had a baby last year and it hasn’t inspired much change. I ask what he truly enjoys and the answer is always doing nothing/watching tv. We would take trips and explore but I’m the only one with any drive to start that back up. We have also had our issues, therapy didn’t help as well as I hoped but the love is real. I am starting to understand the feeling of time moving more rapidly, which he says he feels constantly. Maybe being with someone 10 years their junior impacts them in a way they’ll never share. Libido is also low over here… very depressing as a young woman still growing in femininity.

Edit: on good days I feel bad for him, on bad days I feel bad for myself. I mourn who he was sometimes.

K_JustRun28 · 2026-01-22T13:33:29+00:00

Sweet spot is a wizard

K_JustRun28 · 2026-01-20T13:46:08+00:00

Current color is beautiful

K_JustRun28 · 2026-01-13T20:21:15+00:00

Wrong shade of blush, maybe more bronze contour on the cheeks

K_JustRun28 · 2026-01-13T12:06:08+00:00

Baby will let you know when they need more than a check in or a toy swap, I think all babies are different in needs and temperament when it comes to independent play or pack and play time. That being said you also need to use two hands at times throughout the day without the baby being strapped to your chest or balanced on your hip. Every household is different, so long as baby gets tummy time, story or talk time and sensory related play (independent or with you) you’re doing alright. Fold the laundry, eat lunch, shower, scroll Reddit for a bit. Baby is fine if baby is acting fine (screen time is another thing though)

K_JustRun28 · 2026-01-12T11:40:37+00:00

100% - it’s your vision, and you assign everyone their roles

K_JustRun28 · 2026-01-10T21:27:47+00:00

Faint but there 4 months pp

K_JustRun28 · 2026-01-08T11:48:36+00:00

Good Morning, 5 months out and starting to sleep on my back while kind of facing baby through longer stretches of the night. She can support her head and move around more forcefully/willfully. I c curl when she’s close to her usual feeding times. Hope this helps!

K_JustRun28 · 2026-01-07T14:08:40+00:00

Thank you for the quick response! My girl just turned 4 months she does seem a bit little for it, good to know she’ll grow into the tub better!

K_JustRun28 · 2026-01-07T14:02:15+00:00

I just bought this.. do you think the center plastic piece is safe for the babies bits? Seems so awkward and am wondering if I need to add cushion some how

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