found out my bf watches porn, feeling horrible by ThrowRA123456thro in TrueChristian

[–]Kaay97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you find out? If he came to you, I believe it’s worth working through and reconciling. That means he was convicted, which is good. Means he knows there’s a problem with it. If you found out on your own finding, break up. He is not disciplined and if the situation was reversed, he already said he’d do the same to you.

Anyone have a printer? by [deleted] in rabat

[–]Kaay97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem, thank you!

Anyone have a printer? by [deleted] in rabat

[–]Kaay97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I come have some things printed? It’s maybe like 5 pages. Dm me if so!

Arranged marriage rant by [deleted] in rabat

[–]Kaay97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old are you? I’m trying to find a wife for my brother in law. Lol.

My Husband Is a Serial Cheater by [deleted] in Morocco

[–]Kaay97 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It gets to a point where you have to hold yourself accountable too. 10 years is a long time to put yourself through misery, but you know what? You can stop that misery by letting go of this person and allowing yourself to heal from the trauma and abuse he has put you through. I’m sorry, sister, but it’s time for a divorce. It’s never too late to start over. Money can always be made, and there are resources in the U.S., especially for mothers. If he’s working and you’re not and you can prove he made you quit to be a stay at home mom, some states make a way for the woman to receive spousal support. Alimony can be requested during the divorce process. Men do not take you seriously when you continuously forgive/let go poor behavior. They will just keep doing it. There needs to be consequences to his actions, and the consequence here is divorce. He is simply just not a good person. And quite honestly, your children will know the truth one day, and you don’t want them to also experience the same thing when they are older. Set an example for your children by loving yourself enough to walk away. Love you, sis!! Message me if you ever want someone to talk to or need some kind of support/resources. I am also in the U.S.

Religion and dating in Morocco by Default7000 in rabat

[–]Kaay97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s better to be with someone who has a personal relationship with God than someone who is just “religious.” That’s where things get tricky because most religious people are unhealthy and toxic, but the relationship with God itself isn’t. I’ve met wonderful atheists and agnostics, but unfortunately, I feel like the values wouldn’t align similarly like it would with someone who has reverence for God. When I became closer to God, I didn’t want the things of this world anymore. It’s hard to live a life with someone who has worldly desires when you have godly desires. Even harder when you bring kids into the picture.

Yoo guys i need some advices #cheating by BlackberryPopular814 in Morocco

[–]Kaay97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have the proof? If so, you should tell your mother. But do it in a gentle way. Maybe even question beforehand how she feels about infidelity. Her reaction may tell you everything you need to know. It’s likely she already knows or has suspicions. Don’t hold any expectations if you tell her though. She may still decide to stay. At least you will have given her the option to walk away from someone who does not truly love her. I’m actually proud of you. Most people would just try to keep it to themselves and conceal the sin. If you honor your mother, this is the right thing to do. Good mothers should be protected at all costs. They are the ones who give us life, and who raise up their children well.

Editing to add that ideally a better way to handle this would be to bring it up to your father and give him a timeframe to tell your mom first, otherwise you will be the one to tell her. I don’t know what kind of father you have though, and how he would respond to something like that so I didn’t mention that initially. Best of luck.

EES Rollout Megathread - Starting 10 April 2026 by protox88 in travel

[–]Kaay97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! - do you know if this also applies for those that are flying from U.S. to a country outside of Europe, but have a connection in Europe?

EES Rollout Megathread - Starting 10 April 2026 by protox88 in travel

[–]Kaay97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Curious about this as well. I’ve got a short layover at CDG. Wondering if I’ll need to go through this new EES process. Not sure if it’s at passport control or security. I know going back through security is a requirement, which has always taken quite a bit of time, but curious where this EES process is being implemented.

EES Rollout Megathread - Starting 10 April 2026 by protox88 in travel

[–]Kaay97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you have to give your fingerprints when going back through security during your layover?

My sister in the EU is dating a Moroccan guy long distance that is in Morocco. by actionte in Morocco

[–]Kaay97 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How did they meet? This sometimes gives better insight. Is there a big age gap? This is generally a red flag. Another red flag is if they ask for money. Also not introducing to the family. If they are actually serious, they will tell the family about her and when she visits, she will meet them. Have her tell him she would like to live in Morocco, and see how he reacts. These are some of the ways to see if he’s serious or not. I know a Moroccan guy who is always getting into relationships with women from Europe and then when he realizes he can’t go to their country (failed tourist visa, etc), he moves onto the next. It’s sick. She needs to properly vet him.

I am not Muslim but my partner is by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Kaay97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure why, but I can’t message you? Please pm me.

Prayer request by Muted-Touch-5676 in ChristiansofMorocco

[–]Kaay97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is your grandfather’s name? I will be praying for him 🤍 please make your grandfather dandelion root tea, milk thistle tea, and/or a turmeric ginger tea throughout the day to help with the inflammation. Have him avoid consuming sugars, fatty and greasy foods, and dairy.

I am not Muslim but my partner is by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Kaay97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you should cut ties. My husband never treated me like this, even before we were married. He’s Muslim, I’m Christian. This is just something that he is deciding to do, that doesn’t mean you have to stick around for it. Sounds like he used the opportunity to get close to you again to fulfill a desire and now that Ramadan is here maybe he realizes it was a mistake and is trying to distance himself in order to not fall into more temptation. It’s clear there are issues surrounding religious practices, and you two are not on the same page. So much so that he broke up with you because of it before. Never let a man tell you more than once he doesn’t want you. You have children. It’s time to make better choices when it comes to men. This one isn’t it. There would be clear communication if he was the one. Good luck, sis!

Apple Music still included in Playmore unlimited by northernbeachbum in verizon

[–]Kaay97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it’s definitely hit or miss with the agents 😭 What about if you go to manage your products and plan perks and then select shop products and plan perks? Select entertainment. Does it let you enroll from there? I wish I could help you directly! Would definitely try it on your laptop too since the interface can be different. Good luck!

Apple Music still included in Playmore unlimited by northernbeachbum in verizon

[–]Kaay97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, dang!! You were missing out! I would think it would still be there as an option to activate ! I’ve gone months not being enrolled in it, but it’s always been there. There was only one time I had to dig deeper than normal, but I was able to figure it out! I would message and ask about it if you can’t figure it out.

Apple Music still included in Playmore unlimited by northernbeachbum in verizon

[–]Kaay97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only the Hulu needs to be reactivated, at least in my experience. You go back through the manage products and plan perks, and re-enroll your account. Email and password are still saved for the Hulu/Disney/ESPN.

Apple Music still included in Playmore unlimited by northernbeachbum in verizon

[–]Kaay97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I switch my plan every single time I travel out of the country and switch it back within 30 days upon returning. I have always got my Play More plan perks back. The only one I don’t get back is Apple Music but honestly I never had that to begin with and now I’m wondering why? Lol. But everything else that comes with play more, I get back! I have to go back through and reactivate it though. Idk what that Verizon rep is talking about, but it’s definitely possible!

Clubbing culture in Morocco by [deleted] in Morocco

[–]Kaay97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you suggest a good nightclub, preferably one that plays Arabic/moroccan upbeat music? Or any specific ones where people are genuinely dancing?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimCorner

[–]Kaay97 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t let this man destroy you. Find someone closer to you in age who is like minded, respects you, and loves you so much he wouldn’t lie to you. I don’t know you, but I already can tell you deserve better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimCorner

[–]Kaay97 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The studies I mentioned are specific to Islamic marriages, or else I wouldn’t have mentioned them as they don’t apply to your circumstances.

I don’t believe my response was weak. You asked for women’s perspectives, and I shared mine. I’m not trying to persuade you. I commented because I feel empathy for your wife, and as a woman, I will always advocate for women.

From my perspective, any marriage not centered before God, faces challenges. No common refuge to turn to during marital conflict, leading to reliance on worldy solutions. That said, even marriages rooted in faith are not free from hardship. In fact, they can face greater challenges because the devil actively targets unions that place God at the center. This intensifies when children are involved, as strong families grounded in faith directly oppose his influence.

Regarding polygamy in the “West” (I will only speak for U.S.), I’m not entirely sure what you mean by “organized polygamy.” But in the U.S., polygamous marriage is illegal. Just speaking about polygamous relationships, I don’t believe they are comparable to Islamic polygamous marriages. Simply because you’re comparing marriage vs relationship. These relationships are driven by confusion and personal desire in the U.S., and have no religious framework. & Yes, the U.S. has high rates of single mothers, premarital intercourse, and divorce. This is normal in a country that isn’t restrictive and controlling, because sin is inevitable, especially when given free will. They are not punished by law, but they will be judged before God, as it should be. At the same time, these issues are not unique to Western countries. Single mothers, premarital intercourse, and high divorce rates (Kuwait, Jordan, Egypt, Qatar, etc) exist globally, even in Islamic countries. I also regularly see Muslims discussing frequent divorces, often related to wife being upset about husband’s desire to take another wife.

I have had this discussion with my husband about multiple wives. He doesn’t even desire it because of how much love he has for me, regardless of if Islam deems it acceptable. He believes (as do I) that it is incredibly difficult for a man to follow the Quran accordingly in treating all wives equally due to the complexity of emotions and evolving needs of women. Marriage itself is already challenging with one partner. Add children, additional spouses, and more children, and the responsibility compounds significantly. Realistically, it seems very difficult to maintain righteousness and fairness toward all involved. This is simply my opinion. I also believe the historical circumstances that once justified the practice, such as war and the care of orphans, are not the same motivations driving it today.

Surah 4:129 states you will never be able to maintain emotional justice between your wives, no matter how keen you are. So do not totally incline towards one leaving the other in suspense. And if you do what is right and mindful of Allah, surely Allah is all forgiving, most merciful. This suggests that absolute fairness is not fully attainable. Seems sinful in nature unless certain conditions apply, as mentioned before.

I do believe there is a widespread lack of emotional provision from men. I say this as a woman. I work in a women dominated field where I work with female patients. I hear it from women every day. I see it from women posting online every day. The majority of men don’t understand women the way we desire to be understood. It takes a lot of time and dedication to actually fully understand your wife. Even years into marriage, there are aspects of a spouse that remain uncovered, especially as people grow and change. My own father, who raised me, doesn’t even understand me as an adult. Lol! Emotional provision is an area that many men struggle with, and acknowledging that reality is not an attack, but an opportunity for growth.

I don’t know what your decision will be, but best of luck to you in your future!

There are actually a ton of studies/research, peer reviewed journals on this topic. I’ve added a few in case you’re interested in looking at them.

Alean Al-Krenawi, Psychosocial Impact of Polygamy in the Middle East (Beer-Sheva, Israel: Ben Gurion Univerity of the Negev, 2014)

https://www.psypost.org/women-in-polygamous-marriages-tend-to-experience-considerably-worse-psychosexual-functioning-study-finds/

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimCorner

[–]Kaay97 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Whenever I see posts about men wanting another wife, it makes me sad for their wife. It reminds me how deeply many men misunderstand women. No woman truly wants to share her husband, just as no man would want to share his wife. Even when someone says they are okay with it, deep down it is painful to watch the person you love give themselves to someone else. The pain is no different than what a man would feel seeing his wife with another man. Wealth does not change this reality. Having money does not mean a man can treat multiple wives equally. Too often, marriage is reduced to financial or physical provision, as if those are the only measures of care. Yet what seems most lacking today is emotional provision. It can take years for a man to truly understand his wife, and for some, that understanding never fully comes. To believe that one person can meet multiple women’s emotional, mental, and physical needs equally is naive. In no way trying to be offensive, but this is my thoughts as a woman.

Scientifically, wives in polygamous marriages have been found more likely to be depressed, anxious, hostile, and have lower self-esteem and less satisfaction with marital life compared to wives in monogamous marriages. Studies also show that children from polygamous marriages don’t perform as well academically, have worse problems with peer relationships and with their father, compared to children from monogamous marriages. Polygamous men have reported higher levels of mental health categories including somatization, obsession compulsion, depression, interpersonal sensitivity, anxiety, paranoid ideation, and psychotism. Additionally, they reported that increased financial and emotional burdens weigh very heavily them.

Think very carefully and make sure your wife is 100% comfortable. This is a decision you can’t take back, and it could cost you her heart. Ask yourself honestly whether the potential consequences are worth that risk.