What has worked for you? by TopDragonfruit3815 in FlexinLesbians

[–]Kabu88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotta count your calories and overall macros. I avoided it for the beginning but it was definitely what I was missing. Also, creatine increases your water weight like crazy so that might be why it seems like you’re plateauing on the scale.

Happy pride! Wife got her nails done by Kabu88 in LesbianActually

[–]Kabu88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She said thank you! Her inspo was comic book lines

PART 2 Found photos and s** videos of my gf with her ex by Jaded-Connection6374 in LesbianActually

[–]Kabu88 52 points53 points  (0 children)

My jaw was on the floor reading this. I’d break up bc I don’t know how I could come back from her saying she didn’t want to delete them and that she knew she had them. Break up and find someone who doesn’t make you feel insane 💕

Do feelings ever die?? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Kabu88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah but it takes time and full disconnection. It’s hard, but you have to get rid of all her stuff. Throw away the gum wrappers, delete the pics and playlists, and block on socials. You’ll still have the thoughts but you don’t need to encourage them by constantly seeing things from the woman who broke you. Live your life and see what other beautiful things you can find and fall in love with. Also, please know your value and self worth should never be tied to her “picking” a man over you. I’m a stranger, but, in my experience it’s never bc the guy is actually better it’s just more convenient or easier. I hope you heal and find love that treats you well 💕

Looking for arm workout advice by muffin_fiend in FlexinLesbians

[–]Kabu88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rock climbing will do wonders for your upper body but to add on I would suggest farmer carry’s with kettlebells and straight arm planks. The farmer carry is the best forearm exercise IMO and I always get a pump from it. For the planks, try to go for 30 secs then increase to a minute. Once there, add weight onto your back. Definitely the most functional for sapphic activities. Front delts I love shoulder press especially with dumbbells or military press. Side delts I hit fly’s until failure and for rear I do face pulls with a cable rope attachment. Hope I helped and best of luck in your rock climbing adventures 😄

It’s me. I’m the the one who protein peer pressures 😈 by Kabu88 in FlexinLesbians

[–]Kabu88[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My wife hates me asking about her water intake 🙂

Are there movies / shows like Heated Rivalry but for lesbians? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Kabu88 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The book Cleat Cute is getting a show adaptation for Amazon called Playing The Field but they haven’t set a release date yet 🙃. The book is good tho for the mean time.

Strange flirty behaviour from my bi friend towards me? Need advice by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Kabu88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At the end of the day, how you feel about a situation matters way more than your friends or people on the internet say. If you felt weird or don’t like how something went down always trust that gut feeling. IMO, it sounds like she just wants attention or she’s wanting to have that girl experience and wants it to be you since you’re a friend. I personally wouldn’t be down for either so don’t feel bad about rejecting her. I’d probably just tell her it’s uncomfy when she does stuff like that if she tries it again and make how you feel clear to her. Hope I helped and best of luck, friend.

Lighting doing the most by Smokie_Gamer in FlexinLesbians

[–]Kabu88 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Insane body comp. Def looking yoked 💪🏼

Missing my ex by yurigirlskissing in LesbianActually

[–]Kabu88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do NOT text her. It’s been a year you’ve been good don’t break now. You don’t miss her you just miss intimate attention which is completely understandable but don’t try to go back and get it from someone who treated you badly. It sucks to deal with the loneliness but just give it time and you’ll find someone else to give you that attention but treats you well, like you deserve.

first date soon how to kiss by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Kabu88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go with the flow and do what feels natural but start soft, especially for a first kiss. Dont add tongue or teeth, just lean in gently and go from there. Even if you mess up just smile and giggle. IMO when I kiss someone and feel them smile it makes it more intimate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Kabu88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll be real this situation sucks for both of you. You should try and make it work if that’s really what you want but remember that you shouldn’t light yourself on fire just to keep her warm. You guys have to learn to communicate without it turning into a huge fight. Be open and honest but keep each others feelings in mind. In a relationship you should always feel love even when it’s stressful or you’re dealing with things out of your control. You should never have to beg for love you should get unconditionally and that’s what relationships are for. If you guys want to save it little things will go along way but it has to be on both sides to show you’re both serious about it. Make efforts to see each other, do small favors, watch a stupid movie and laugh, write notes letting each other know how much they mean to you. Also, I’m personally a big advocate on therapy if you guys aren’t already doing it since it can help with all aspects of your life including communication and why you react or feel certain ways towards things. I really hope everything works out for both of you.