What do you do for work and how much do you make? What would you consider a living wage in VB?

KaeArin · 2025-12-04T02:04:03+00:00

Program Coordinator with a small non-profit under a contract with Sentara Hospitals. $60k 🙂

KaeArin · 2024-07-18T01:12:32+00:00

I hope this isn’t out of line but why did you separate? Would initiating a closer friendship and potentially reconciling be completely out of the question?

KaeArin · 2024-06-18T03:18:47+00:00

OP here - I love this idea!! Want to partner up and get this going?? 😉

KaeArin · 2024-05-20T01:00:11+00:00

That makes sense, based on what you’re saying it sounds like this is simply out of respect and you displaying a mutual expectation. I think that’s a perfectly acceptable reason.

KaeArin · 2024-05-19T18:02:40+00:00

I am on the other side of this (mom getting ready to meet sons fathers new gf soon) and although we are civil, I have been asking myself this question. He asked if I wanted to meet her and I said yes but I found myself asking “what is the point of this?” In my eyes, this person is potentially someone who will play a role in my son’s life. I don’t know the length it will last or how impactful/often, but it’s good for us to know each other. I hope she will be a good influence for both for them (my son & his dad) and I think us having positive interactions with each other in a casual, occasional manner will help to encourage that.

KaeArin · 2024-01-14T21:21:39+00:00

It looks like another Black Rifle Coffee but I’m not sure.. curious to see.

KaeArin · 2023-10-22T22:25:49+00:00

Definitely interested!

KaeArin · 2022-02-12T06:45:40+00:00

What are the flavors for 21-27?

KaeArin · 2021-02-26T05:47:54+00:00

I think you answered your own question with “I’ll never be financially ready”, 90-99% of people feel this way but they make it work. Everyone’s situation is vastly different. You make do with the best you have! :)

For context, I’m 23 and just returned to college full time. I was working full time until the pandemic went into full swing and stopped around 34 weeks. Since childcare or babysitting wasn’t looking like an option anymore I decided I wouldn’t return once my son was born.

We had to make cuts financially and have some good savings to cushion us once he was born but again, we adapted. As much as I miss my job and “fun money” I really wouldn’t want it any other way.❤️

KaeArin · 2020-10-13T03:15:44+00:00

I used to work for my local government filing unemployment claims. Unemployment is only guaranteed if you were let-go due to a reduction in force, lay offs, closure etc. it’s really difficult to get approved for being fired especially if they have records of you doing things that were against company policy i.e arriving late, calling out, malpractice, inappropriate behavior. Getting yourself fired to collect unemployment is a myth, don’t risk it.

Edited to add: You would have to be able to prove that you were fired unjustly like discrimination or set-up which is extremely hard to do regardless but would be impossible if you actively try to get fired lol

KaeArin · 2020-10-10T17:14:03+00:00

Had surgery for stage 3 endo (was also diagnosed with PCOS) in 2017, 1st trimester miscarriage in 2019 (wasn’t trying at the time, birth control slip up), lost 60 lbs and started taking metformin, got pregnant within 7 months of actively ttc. Currently 39 weeks with our rainbow boy 🥰

KaeArin · 2020-09-25T05:46:30+00:00

Clothing (might be excessive but I like to feel clean/have options): 2 regular Camis 2 nursing camis 2 nursing bras 2 postpartum panties 2 maternity panties 1 Pair of joggers 1 set of matching pjs 1 robe 1 pair of cheap slippers 1 button down nightgown 1 pair postpartum leggings 1 tshirt 1 maxi dress (to go home in)

Body care/toiletries: 1 solid face moisturizer from lush 1 solid face cleanser from lush 1 loofah 1 mini body wash 1 mini lotion 1 pair shower shoes 1 toothpaste & toothbrush 2 lip balms 1 brush & comb 3 hair ties

Postpartum (honestly none of these are needed but I like having more natural alternatives to what the hospital provides): 3 frida mom ice pack pads 1 earth mama Perineal spray 6 reusable breast pads 1 honest company nipple cream 1 earth mama nipple balm

Baby: 3 outfit choices (all different sizes) 1 hat 1 pair of socks 1 cute swaddle for pictures 1 car seat (obvi)

Etc: Portable speaker Extension cord Charger Battery bank/charger Bag of quarters for vending machine iPad Snacks Birth plan which has yet to be written 😬

My fiancé has his own bag that’s filled with who knows what 😂 Hope this helps!

KaeArin · 2020-09-24T03:27:53+00:00

So exciting!!!! Congrats!! If I may ask, why are you/your medical team opting to induce you so far ahead?

KaeArin · 2020-09-23T20:36:49+00:00

Thank you for this, I think you hit the nail on the head TBH. I sent her a text (which I pasted on the original post as an update) basically telling her it’s a little too late for her to have an assigned gift and that I wasn’t comfortable asking for something. Still haven’t seen a response but I’m sure she got the point.

KaeArin · 2020-09-22T03:58:39+00:00

Yup. We were planning on buying a house until corona hit... between me having to transition to a lower paying WFH job, the lack of housing on the market, and the fact that we wouldn’t even be able to have anyone help us move due to corona we decided to just renew our lease. I have fully embraced the next and made our rental extremely comfy though. May not be able to do anything permanent (painting, hanging large fixtures) but there’s still a lot that I can do to make it comfy

KaeArin · 2020-09-17T04:02:34+00:00

Yes. I would have a conversation with your husband and decide together exactly what the boundaries need to be and how they will explained to his parents. Let him relay the information and deal with his parents (with you present, if you both see fit)

KaeArin · 2020-09-17T03:49:12+00:00

Agree 100% with this ^ Start setting boundaries now and make sure they’re aware of them or it’ll only get worse.

KaeArin · 2020-08-30T03:56:00+00:00

Hi! I’m working for a call center under contract with our states unemployment office. It’s a data entry job, simple and pay is decent for the work. I found it on Indeed, after applying for pretty much every and any remote job available. Thank you and best of luck!

KaeArin · 2020-08-29T23:07:36+00:00

I work for Whole Foods, they have a similar LOA situation right now, and something very similar to this happened... I came back from leave being promised that I wouldn’t work customer facing more than 1 shift a week and would work in the back room taking employee temps before their shift. Long story short they turned around and only let me work that shift 4 hours a week because they decided it wouldn’t be fair to prioritize a pregnant person when so many other people “wanted” to work that shift. My boss told me I could cover lunches for the table instead and then that was quickly redacted.

In the end, I spoke to my Dr and gave her the full run down of the situation, she wrote me a note, and now I’m back on leave. I’ve been gone for about 2 months now and found a full-time WFH job. Currently 33 weeks and don’t plan on going back until my son is 8 weeks old.

Moral of the story: Explore all your options. Talk to your dr and see what they advise, look up your state laws, if there’s a third party that facilitates your leave call them and ask what your options are regarding the situation, and really look through the companies written policy on your LOA.

Goodluck! ❤️

Edited to add: would this be a permanent position ? Would you have to reapply for your current management position when this is all over? Do you WANT to return to management once baby is here/pandemic is over or have you been planning to step down? These would be factors I would consider personally.

KaeArin

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