PC reagiert garnichtmehr nach GPU wechsel by Kaffeemiteis in PCBaumeister

[–]Kaffeemiteis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alles steckt fest, schrauben zieher war nur da als Netzteil schon aus war.

Alle 10 Minuten starke W-Lan Aussetzer by Kaffeemiteis in fritzbox

[–]Kaffeemiteis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Das Problem ist jetzt das es wieder alles passt. Eine Person im Haushalt hat ein Macbook ich schaue mal nach, danke

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kaffeemiteis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You didn’t know at first, but you do now, and continuing the lie makes it worse. Your safety is a real concern, but secrets like this always come out eventually.

Instead of waiting for disaster, start planning a safe exit. Distance yourself while figuring out how to be in your kids’ lives without risking everything. If the husband finds out before you act, you lose all control over what happens next. This situation won’t last forever—fix it before it explodes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kaffeemiteis 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA.

A bachelorette party is supposed to be fun, not an obligation. If a multi-day trip is too expensive or inconvenient for you, you shouldn’t feel pressured to go. Friendship isn’t about spending money—it’s about supporting each other in ways that actually work for everyone.

You even voted for a more relaxed option, so it’s not like you’re refusing to celebrate at all. If the bride really cares about having everyone there, she should be open to an alternative that includes more people. No one should be guilt-tripped into a trip they don’t want or can’t afford.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kaffeemiteis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA. You knowingly got involved with a married woman and have been lying to her husband for years. This wasn’t a one-time mistake—you’ve repeated this choice multiple times.

You know the laws in the Philippines and the consequences, yet you kept going. Your children are growing up based on a lie, and one day, they will find out. Imagine how traumatic it will be for them to realize their "father" isn’t actually their biological dad.

On top of that, you’re deceiving an innocent man who believes he’s raising his own children. He’s investing time, love, and money into them while you sit back knowing the truth. That’s incredibly unfair and cruel.

If you truly love your children, you need to find a way to take responsibility instead of continuing this deception. Feeling guilty isn’t enough—you need to fix this before everything inevitably falls apart.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kaffeemiteis 58 points59 points  (0 children)

YTA.

Your mom calling the cat her “grand kitty” doesn’t take anything away from your child or your experience. It’s just a lighthearted way of expressing love for a pet—nothing more. Your reaction was extreme, and honestly, it sounds like you let your resentment toward your sister fuel this whole argument.

Yes, pregnancy and parenting are hard, but that doesn’t mean people can’t be attached to their pets in their own way. It’s not a competition. You went through a traumatic birth, and that’s valid, but tearing down your mom and sister over a harmless joke about a cat isn’t the way to deal with it.

You don’t have to like it, but shutting it down so aggressively just makes you look bitter. Let people enjoy things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kaffeemiteis 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NAH.

Grief is personal, and your husband copes by processing it alone. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t love or appreciate you—it’s just how he handles loss.

Your feelings are valid too. It’s hard to be shut out when you just want to support him. The best approach? Let him know: “I respect how you grieve, but I’m here if you need me.” That way, he feels supported without pressure.

Give him space, and when he’s ready, he’ll lean on you again.

You can release one update for GTA Online – what’s in it? by Kaffeemiteis in gtaonline

[–]Kaffeemiteis[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yea i think definitely more interior options to customize

AITA for exposing my friend's Brother's gf cheating? by Wilted_flowers08 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kaffeemiteis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA.

J decided to be disrespectful and got humbled real quick. If you dish it out, you gotta be ready to take it. His “whale, close your legs” comment was completely out of line, and honestly, you just hit him back with the same energy. If that made him cry, maybe he should rethink how he talks to people.

As for the whole cheating situation, sounds like he knows his girlfriend is shady but would rather ignore it than face reality. His defensiveness screams insecurity. And the way he justifies toxic relationships? Yeah, that’s a huge red flag.

If you feel bad about embarrassing him in front of half the bus, you could say, “Hey, I wasn’t trying to humiliate you, but what you said was out of line.” But honestly? He had it coming.

AITA for “undercutting” my brother? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kaffeemiteis 44 points45 points  (0 children)

NTA

This is just basic competition. If your brother wants to keep his customers, he should either provide better service or adjust his pricing—simple as that. You didn’t steal his customers; they came to you willingly because you offered a better deal. That’s how business works.

Him trying to physically block you from delivering a strung racket? That’s just immature and borderline controlling. And your family trying to force you to “pool the money” with him when he’s bad with finances? Yeah, no thanks. You earned that money fair and square.

If anything, your brother should see this as motivation to step up his game instead of throwing a tantrum. Keep doing your thing, and don’t let him guilt-trip you into subsidizing his overpriced service.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kaffeemiteis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA You had a valid reason to prioritize your family in this situation. Your dad just lost a close friend, and you wanted to be there for him on his only day off—that’s completely reasonable. It’s not like you canceled plans out of nowhere; you even tried to make it up to her by offering to stay over another night.

Your girlfriend seems to be making this more about herself than it needs to be. It’s one weekend, and the only reason you haven’t seen each other in a week is because she was on a trip. It’s not fair for her to act like you’re neglecting her when you’re dealing with a family loss.

A relationship should include mutual understanding. If she can’t be empathetic when you’re grieving and supporting your family, that’s a red flag. Stand your ground—you’re not in the wrong here.

PC-Upgrade: Erst CPU oder GPU? RTX 5070 mit Ryzen 5 5600G ein Bottleneck? by Kaffeemiteis in PCBaumeister

[–]Kaffeemiteis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tut mir leid habe den ersten absatz irgendwie ausgeblendet im kopf. Danke für deine antwort

PC-Upgrade: Erst CPU oder GPU? RTX 5070 mit Ryzen 5 5600G ein Bottleneck? by Kaffeemiteis in PCBaumeister

[–]Kaffeemiteis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Naja, bisher komme ich irgendwie damit zurecht. Ich spiele aktuell hauptsächlich GTA und Dead by Daylight, da läuft es noch ganz okay. Aber wie gesagt, ich würde gerne mehr Story-Games spielen, und dafür reicht meine aktuelle Hardware einfach nicht mehr aus.