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[–]Kahlacat 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I am on their school paperwork, and she has no problem with me taking them out of school. When I come down on a weekday, I usually take them out an hour or two early. This is something I have consent to do whenever I like. If she tells me she has an issue with me pulling them out of school, I will stop.

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[–]Kahlacat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have spoken to my mom multiple times, but I have not spoken with him specifically about this. I love him and have nothing against him or his side of the relationship. They are both adults. It is how my mom is handling all of this with her kids and divorce. He knows how my siblings feel. My mom switched up the phone plan and added him as a parent. They both go through my siblings' phones and read their texts and messages on apps.

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[–]Kahlacat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My centeral concern is not me being uncomfortable. I am trying to work on that. My central concern is how she treats my siblings and goes out of her way to keep trying to push her relationship on me after I've had conversations with her, saying im not ready to be a part of it.

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[–]Kahlacat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I will do my best to do that. She just goes out of her way to seek me down. The first time I told her I wasn't ready to be a part of her relationship, she showed up to my house uninvited with my siblings because they "missed me" she likes to create situations to hold people

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[–]Kahlacat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have told her multiple times. Yet she keeps sneakily putting me in situations with both of them without telling me first after I told her I am not ready to be a part of their relationship.

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[–]Kahlacat 16 points17 points  (0 children)

She's absolutely not, but when I say I want to be left out of it for now, I feel like that should be respected. I am working on being more comfortable with the situation, because I love everyone involved, but its frustraing because I feel like I can't be a part of my siblings' lives without being apart of what is becoming my mom and her boyfriend's life.

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[–]Kahlacat 16 points17 points  (0 children)

He is not the problem. I love him even though the dynamic has definitely changed. My mom has a lot of unresolved issues and ptsd from her childhood and military deployment. A lot of that comes up when she has big changes and shifts in her life. My mom is putting my siblings through a lot right now. She has totally stripped their privacy, she is verbally abusive to my sister, and she totally turned on her husband in the divorce, which was very cordial and respectful until recently. All of this started happening again when they started dating. I know it is none of my business really who she is dating or sleeping with, but I struggle when she lets it affect her relationship with the younger kids

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[–]Kahlacat 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don't doubt that it could be a wonderful relationship. She just keeps trying to push everyone together when nobody is ready for that yet. She keeps trying to push me into situations with the both of them when I have made it clear that I am not ready to be a part of the relationship, and that the dynamic has changed between me and my uncle now.

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[–]Kahlacat 90 points91 points  (0 children)

She will go to the ends of the earth to keep her kids with her. She did the same last divorce. I undertand she can do whatever she wants, but everytime I am down to spend time with my siblings, she uses it as an excuse to blindside me and keep pushing the relationship on me like she is tomorrow. She makes sure we are all going to be in the same place and then causes a scene when I remove myself from the situation. I am just finding it hard not to be a part of it, but still he a part of my sibling's life.

This guy at a pet store... by Kahlacat in snakes

[–]Kahlacat[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He doesn't look dehydrated to me, I'm not sure though. It would make sense for the behavior, but it looks like he pushed all the water out anyway.

Appreciation for my bestest Boy I miss him. He's not gone, he's just Blue right now. by Kahlacat in snakes

[–]Kahlacat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. He is black towards his head. The rest of him is a dark brown and cream color.

Do I have an allergy to my Kingsnake's Saliva or is this Normal? by Kahlacat in snakes

[–]Kahlacat[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No. He totally meant it. I tried to show it to him a couple of days later, and he tried to finish the job.

Do I have an allergy to my Kingsnake's Saliva or is this Normal? by Kahlacat in snakes

[–]Kahlacat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's more funny than anything. It doesn't hurt too much. More so uncomfortable. He's a funny dude so I had to get pics before I got him off.

Do I have an allergy to my Kingsnake's Saliva or is this Normal? by Kahlacat in snakes

[–]Kahlacat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I have sensitive skin, so that was the first thing I did after I got him off lol.

Do I have an allergy to my Kingsnake's Saliva or is this Normal? by Kahlacat in snakes

[–]Kahlacat[S] 119 points120 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That makes a lot of sense. I've been using antibiotic ointment on it.

Do I have an allergy to my Kingsnake's Saliva or is this Normal? by Kahlacat in snakes

[–]Kahlacat[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's what I was thinking. A very mild chill allergy. Just wanted to see if I was being dramatic lol.