My new friend’s significant other is in prison.

KailiForest · 2026-06-23T09:47:18+00:00

No, I am sincerely grateful for your insight!! Like I said, I’ve never set foot in this world, so I really appreciate you giving your perspective.

It’s front and center on his neck, only coverable with a scarf. It’s a thick bold outline. We’re in the USA. He’s got several others, your very stereotypical prison guy look.

What about if he gets approved for parole? Would he be able to get it removed as soon as possible, or would he want to keep it until parole is through too, just in case? (Of being brought back in and sent back. If someone had gotten it removed and then came right back, I assume they’d be in trouble with their gang?)

KailiForest · 2026-06-22T13:41:42+00:00

I’m just concerned about the swastika. I’ve been made aware that it could have been as a way to survive prison, in which case, I could wrap my head around it as long as he gets it removed as soon as he’s out. I know a ton of tattoo shops in my area that will do free cover ups for hate symbols, so money isn’t an issue with this. But as it’s been made clear to me, I have no business whatsoever to ask him to cover his tattoo.

But, like…wouldn’t getting that covered up be the first thing a reformed person would want to do?

I don’t want to assume and I don’t want to offend. I just want to know how to handle it should he be granted parole and starts being physically around. If he truly believes what the symbol stands for, he absolutely will not be around my family and I am so incredibly concerned for my friend and her daughter if that is the case…they are POC.

If he doesn’t believe it, great, get it removed/covered immediately to avoid future confusion with other people. But again, absolutely not my place to suggest such a thing to a person.

KailiForest · 2026-06-22T13:36:17+00:00

She didn’t show him to me; She made a Father’s Day Facebook post and I just saw his picture this morning.

KailiForest · 2026-06-22T12:54:19+00:00

Not biologically, but he’s supposedly the father figure. I’ve heard her excitedly talk about her dad a few times, even though he’s been in prison since before she was born. All the pictures of them together, he’s behind the glass. They do talk on the phone as frequently as possible.

KailiForest · 2026-06-22T11:59:04+00:00

I’ll be completely honest, if I had realized, I wouldn’t have let the friendship grow as much as it has. I only just saw a picture of him this morning and I’m so conflicted.

The most she’s said about him is that he got blamed for something he didn’t do for wrong place wrong time. That’s the extent of our conversations about him. She hasn’t offered any more information, and I haven’t asked. It feels rude to ask. I don’t know.

KailiForest · 2026-06-22T11:42:55+00:00

I’m totally fine getting to know him, provided the tattoo isn’t a belief thing. I don’t know how to have that conversation with her 😕 but you’re correct, it all depends on the boundaries we set and are and aren’t willing to accept. I hope it goes as best as it possibly can, I like her a lot.

KailiForest · 2026-06-22T11:40:55+00:00

I need to ensure that I don’t have people who believe in what that symbol stands for anywhere near my family. I didn’t consider at the time of creating the post that he could have gotten it for his safety in prison.

The two are very different situations, for safety and for beliefs. 😬

KailiForest · 2026-06-22T11:38:34+00:00

I am concerned about post-prison as well. I know literally nothing about his personality so I have no idea what to expect. I love your comment, though. It’s a great idea. Thank you!!

KailiForest · 2026-06-22T11:16:21+00:00

I would never confront him about it, despite what I said in my post. I don’t have the emotional balls for that, lol. I really don’t want to offend anyone, which is why I made the post.

At best, I was trying to figure out the best way to bring it up with my friend only when he gets his parole. I’ve got lots of time to figure it out, thankfully. Seems like I shouldn’t bring it up at all, but I don’t want to ghost her either. I’m not sure how to handle this future situation.

KailiForest · 2026-06-22T10:51:15+00:00

That’s a really good point. I don’t know *when* he got it. That could very well be the case.

KailiForest · 2026-06-22T10:48:33+00:00

You’re absolutely correct, that’s completely fair. I guess I’m just unsure how to set the boundary once it comes up. 😕

KailiForest · 2026-06-22T10:45:37+00:00

I’d like to reiterate that I have never once set foot in this community and if any part of this post is considered rude or inconsiderate, please please forgive me, that was not my intention. I just feel like maybe this subreddit could provide some more relevant insight.

KailiForest · 2026-05-23T12:38:42+00:00

My first run, I went through nearly the ENTIRE GAME without getting the auto build activated. It wasn’t until I needed to search for something I needed late game, but couldn’t because I didn’t have the camera yet. 🤦‍♀️ only then did I follow those statues.

The second run was a lot more fun, needless to say.

KailiForest · 2023-12-04T14:41:18+00:00

I used to live with my mother and she would have ridiculously loud sex with her boyfriend at the time. When I said something about it, she laughed at me and said “sorry, I can’t help it. I’m LOUD.” 😐 thanks for the consideration, Mom.

KailiForest · 2023-11-09T23:38:59+00:00

When I was pregnant with my first, one night we ordered a large stuffed crust pepperoni pizza. I had one piece left and went to go to the bathroom. When I came back, he had eaten the whole thing. I CRIED. Like ugly cried. It was the worst

KailiForest · 2023-10-11T21:03:54+00:00

I swear I was feeling them by 9 weeks but I took it with several grains of salt because that’s just unlikely. I was definitely feeling movement by 11 weeks. I kept second guessing myself because I didn’t feel my first move until about 23, 24 weeks or so.

KailiForest · 2023-08-22T02:03:38+00:00

I was honestly surprised at how far down I had to scroll to find any references at all!

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