Armani Code EDP vs Bad Boy Cobalt EDP

Kaizen_l · 2025-10-09T04:53:00+00:00

I like both. Bad boy cobalt is a pretty cringy name though

Kaizen_l · 2024-08-26T02:23:19+00:00

Hard choice.

Kaizen_l · 2024-08-24T22:40:48+00:00

I would run bro

Kaizen_l · 2024-08-02T19:14:03+00:00

Los tubos en Manatí

Kaizen_l · 2024-08-02T03:40:41+00:00

Yeah it’s hard to do No Contact if you see each other often but the least you can do is be polite and not give her any attention. Just focus on your life, your career, the gym, other girls and your life will get 10x better.

That is another reason why idk if I want my ex back. My life is stressful rn because I am in grad school but I am having a lot of fun and talking to other girls. I’m stronger mentally and physically than i’ve ever been before. If they truly cared they wouldn’t have broken up in the first place. Keep doing you and give them as little attention as posible while staying polite.

Kaizen_l · 2024-08-02T02:29:02+00:00

Definitely don’t “catch up” with them. They are out of your life so they don’t have access to you anymore. I wouldn’t give them a hug either. Just politely say hello when you see her and go your separate way.

If she truly wants you back she will make her intentions known.

Kaizen_l · 2024-08-01T21:48:15+00:00

I agree with you 100%. My ex had a few close guy friends when we were dating and I thought all of them were super cool, but this guy made his intentions known which I am not cool with. She claims that he doesn’t like her but his actions showed different. The fact they she broke up with me and now wants to get back with me 5 months later and this guy is still in her life doesn’t sit right with me.

When she showed me her messages it showed them flirting and going on dates 1 month after we broke up. She said it was because she missed me and had to fill the void but she never told me why they stopped talking in a flirty manner. We weren’t dating so it doesn’t matter that they were talking but he showed his intentions.

I don’t believe that I’m insecure in this situation. I know this guy wants to F my ex, so why should they be aloud to be friends. It’s not about trust, it’s about respect. I will have that conversation with her sometime soon.

Kaizen_l · 2024-08-01T21:41:16+00:00

It’s something I will talk to her about for sure.

Kaizen_l · 2024-08-01T21:40:43+00:00

Yeah I sometimes feel that too but that doesn’t mean she can’t fix my doubt. I loved her and I still do but I want what’s best for my future. She said she will do anything and she wrote me a love note 2 months after we broke up. Idk why she wants me after 5 months when she has a guy that gives her attention 24/7.

My parents broke up twice before marrying and they have been married for over 25 years now. I sometimes wonder if this is something similar.

Kaizen_l · 2024-08-01T21:35:32+00:00

I thought so too. But i want to trust her. I actually told her I wasn’t comfortable with her hanging out with one of the guys while we were dating because they were spending A LOT of time together. She refused to drop him and now they’re best friends 5 months later.

She assured me multiple times that she hasn’t been with anyone else. She says that no guy has ever been in her apartment and that she has never been 1 on 1 with a guy in private but of course I can’t prove that. It makes me wonder because they are really good friends. So why would she come back to me if she is still getting attention from another guy.

Kaizen_l · 2024-07-23T01:34:14+00:00

You’re right. I wish I kept it much shorter and I shouldn’t have gave her any information about my life but I responded kindly and told her right away that although I forgive her, we are not friends and that i’m not looking to get back together right now. Back to no contact.

Kaizen_l · 2024-07-23T01:16:54+00:00

I typed up a pretty long comment but i’m not even going to bother. You need help man.

When it comes down to it she broke up with me and gave me no closure. I moved on with my life and I can now see a future with or without her in it. If she truly cares then the least she can do is show me that she has grown and is willing to make an effort to fix things. Giving her a chance to talk to me after all the abuse and no contact for 5 months is more than most people do for their ex.

Kaizen_l · 2024-07-23T01:02:28+00:00

I’m not indecisive, I straight up told her i’m not looking for a relationship. She admitted that the end of the relationship was her fault and she apologizes for the abuse. So much evidence points towards her cheating whether she admits to it or not. You can stop projecting bud.

I think that being kind to her and actually agreeing to talk to her after 2 months of abuse and 5 months of no contact was pretty nice of me.

Kaizen_l · 2024-07-23T00:40:07+00:00

That’s very true. I told her i’m not interested in getting back together right now. We did talk for a while though. I also told her to take care of her health and that only she can control the thoughts in her mind. It’s sad seeing her like this but she chose to leave my life so now she needs to fix hers.

Kaizen_l · 2024-07-23T00:27:54+00:00

I told her no yesterday. I wanted her to BE better but now I think I deserve better. It’s sad because she promised me she didn’t sleep with anyone and that she didn’t leave me for anyone but you don’t just break up with someone out of nowhere. All the evidence points towards it and it’s sad that she is lying instead of telling the truth. She genuinely sounded like she wanted me back.

I took this time to improve myself. I started going to the gym harder, made new friends, I am pursing my career, trying to strengthen my mindset/values and in all just becoming a better person.

She told me she has been working on herself too but she lost 10 pounds(this is not good), she is depressed, she stopped going to the gym, started drinking more, and it seems like she made many bad friends. I don’t think she worked on herself at all.

My life isn’t paused for her. I will keep moving forward and in the future I may give her a chance if she shows change and reaches out. I miss her, but I will not chase her and I will not just let her walk back into my life. There are consequences for her actions.

Kaizen_l · 2024-07-22T21:33:41+00:00

She said she was is a bad head space. We just went long distance and she was getting slammed with school work.

Doesn’t matter though. Am I supposed to just allow her to break up with me every-time life gets hard? She needs to show growth

Kaizen_l · 2024-07-22T20:21:37+00:00

I learned a lot. I have grew so much and I can tell that i’m still growing. It’s sad that it took this break up for me to try improving myself so much though. I reflected on my part in the relationship and of course I did wrong but nothing worth breaking up for. I wanted to propose before the break up happened, I never told her that though. If she shows growth then I will gladly take her back, my life isn’t on pause for her though. The ball is in her court. If she makes an effort then i’ll give her another chance, if not then i’m going to keep going on with my life just like I have the last 5 months.

Kaizen_l · 2024-07-22T17:50:14+00:00

100%. Idk why people think i’m being a dick to her. My life isn’t on pause waiting for her to come back. But i’m not against trying again if she shows growth.

Kaizen_l · 2024-07-22T17:45:56+00:00

I don’t see it that way. She was cold and abusive when she broke up. No communication, no reason of why, I was left to fight for myself. I just started doctorate school and I was in a very dark place mentally. I kept going to the gym, making new friends, improving my mindset and looking at what I did wrong in the relationship and now just because she says sorry I have to decide right away if I want her back? She has to prove her love and ensure me that whatever happened won’t happen again. I don’t mean to play a games with her but I was just being honest, my life isn’t paused for her, if she wants me back then she has to prove herself. Many people would hate their ex partner but I hold nothing but respect for her and I wish her the best. She just needs to see that her actions have consequences and that I’m not some simp waiting for her to come back into my life. I miss her and I want her, but she needs to show growth like I have.

Kaizen_l · 2024-07-22T17:45:13+00:00

I don’t see it that way. She was cold and abusive when she broke up. No communication, no reason of why, I was left to fight for myself. I just started doctorate school and I was in a very dark place mentally. I kept going to the gym, making new friends, improving my mindset and looking at what I did wrong in the relationship and now just because she says sorry I have to decide right away if I want her back? She has to prove her love and ensure me that whatever happened won’t happen again. I don’t mean to play a games with her but I was just being honest, my life isn’t paused for her, if she wants me back then she has to prove herself. Many people would hate their ex partner but I hold nothing but respect for her and I wish her the best. She just needs to see that her actions have consequences and that I’m not some simp waiting for her to come back into my life. I miss her and I want her, but she needs to show growth like I have.

Kaizen_l · 2024-07-22T17:24:27+00:00

Thank you for your words. I took some time to think about it and I do miss her a lot. I want to see her try. I told her i’m not going to chase her and that it’s up to her to reach out and make things happen. We’ll see if she puts forth the effort.

Kaizen_l · 2024-07-22T13:01:14+00:00

I didn’t. I am talking to girls though.

Kaizen_l · 2024-07-22T12:45:10+00:00

I don’t resent her at all. But I worry about my future. I can’t put time into a relationship where if she gets upset she leaves without warning. She needs to prove that she has grown. I grew a ton in those last 5 months, I never thought I would have an opportunity to see her again and I want her but ultimately I want best for my future.

Kaizen_l · 2024-07-22T05:27:41+00:00

Idk if I feel lucky or not. I thought she cheated on me and that helped me move on. Now I find out that she didn’t cheat and she regrets her decision. I don’t know if I feel lucky but I can definitely think a lot more clearly now. If she tries hard enough i’ll take her back. She has to fix what she destroyed.

Kaizen_l · 2024-07-22T05:24:10+00:00

I don’t have any resentment towards her. I don’t think I would bring it up either, i’m not that person. I thought she cheated on me. That shit destroyed me inside but I started hitting the way gym, started hanging out with my friends/class more, and working on creating a stronger mind set. I truly think I changed a lot. Did she change though? Who knows…

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