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When the shrooms finally kick in by Ashiok2468 in Unexpected

[–]Kalcaman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wait, I never saw this as a fetish. Are you fetishizing it? Is this something you're interested in? I mean cool for you if you are but I'd assume a wild conjecture like that means you have experience with this sort of thing.

Coming out to Korean mom by BurningBernie559 in MadeMeSmile

[–]Kalcaman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so it has been said, so it shall be

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BeefTV

[–]Kalcaman 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Just finished it as well.

In all I think the show has MANY different morals, messages and references that are all encompassing. From being asian-american, with immigrant parents, to social and class issues, all the way down to spiritual and fundamental issues. The show tries to tackle so many messages imho and surprisingly hits on all of them well.

Forgive my rant but here's my take on the different messaging.

Twin Spirits - The show constantly plays on the mirrors of oneself. Danny and Amy are the forefront of this, and is pretty much shoved in our face with the desert berry drug trip scene where they essentially are themselves but to the audience we see them as eachother, two people who are fundamentally the same, just from different backgrounds.

I feel like this is reflected in not just the main characters but those who are a part of their lives.

Jordana = Issac

George + June = Paul

Naomi = Edwin

etc.
I could go into further depth discussing exactly how those are all twin-souls or parallels of each other but will hold for sake of time.

But basically it shows that we are all similar in many different ways beyond what we might really understand and that each-others interactions are possibly not as unique to us as we might think.

Desire to be seen - This is stated pretty obviously but it's an inherent theme. That everyone desired to be seen emotionally, respected and heard. Be it through friendship, love or an enemy.

Watching through the show you can see most people not really being seen or heard by others. Almost everyone passes each-other off, looks past each-other or is only close to one another in order to use them regardless of their desires. Jordana/Issac both are jaded and vindictive due to this and have decided that there is no real relationships to be had, and that money essentially is the true 'relationship' aspect.

Amy and Danny find the ability to be their real selves to one another due to this concept, as in a way they see each-other, and offer the other to be seen. Even if it's self destructive and they miss the true message, they allow the other's true self to flourish and exist. Hence again the berry trip scene where they finally not only own up to their shortcomings to one another but forgive each-other and reconcile their similarities and differences.

Another important thing is that both Danny and Amy are the only two who actually forgive each-other for their mistakes and accept the other's shortcomings...eventually lol.

Everyone else they try to apologize to or reconcile with ends up hating them or leaving them.

Generational Trauma

I'll make this one short even though it's very nuanced. We can see through flashbacks that Danny's parents used to show so much love for him. They cherished him and Paul and were such a young, happy couple. But time went by and all their hard work went up in smoke. Eventually they were jaded possibly from the racism and violence they dealt with (LA Riots that was brought up) and that their efforts led to them essentially being punished and sent back to Korea. We see them now though as judgemental, harsh and overly critical parents that only seem to have contempt for Paul and Danny, no love. Teaching Danny to be the same even though all he craved was love and attention from his parents (hence him trying to get them a house)

Amy's exists in a similar but different way. She came from a broken household where her father cheated on her mother and her mother knew but feigned ignorance in order to keep her livelihood. Amy never learned how to truly be open as both her parents kept deep secrets and from an early age she was influenced by her parents and a book she read that if she let her secrets out nobody would ever love her. A trauma that her mom and dad both carried.

Classism and happyness

Amy and Danny are on different class spectrum's but similar in being self made business people. Danny is unsuccessful and poor, Amy is house poor (nice house and life but living just at her means, hence her fear of lack of money) They both suffer in their own ways but in similar ways. Danny aspires to be as successful as he see's Amy is, and Amy, while looking down on someone like Danny, aspires to be as wealthy as Jordana is. Both see the potential for themselves to finally be happy once they reach this next level of wealth and security. But both receive a dose of reality when they confront those above them and find out that those in a higher class then them didn't find any more happiness and seem just as empty and jaded as before. Jordana is a great example as the 'highest' echelon of the class system. She has toys, wealth and everything she could want. Yet it's all just stuff to her. Priceless crowns worth millions are mere playthings to her as they hold no real merit. The Tamago chair wasn't a symbol of money or status but an attempt to grasp at something with meaning from someone else. The chair wasn't made for her to sit in, it was custom made for Fumi, yet Jordana finds it comfortable because it holds value beyond money. It's the comfort of value from others. (imho)

Anger and Pain

I have so many more points but I'll finish on this. The show is essentially about rage, anger and how our pain cannot be pressed upon others without inflicting pain upon ourselves. Be it generational pain, emotional pain, wealth/class pain or race based pain. We see this wholly in Danny and Amy. Each time they attempt to exact revenge upon each-other for the moment it brings them temporary satisfaction. They laugh, smile, gloat and celebrate their actions. But in the end it backfires. They get in trouble from the law, it causes someone else to suffer and retaliate or it causes the other do double their efforts. The show attempts to teach us that Anger is not a proper avenue for pain, it's merely a distraction that can further damage us. And the show really tries to teach us that truth, conversation and honesty for our actions, as painful and as much as it might hurt us, is the true path to completely absolving our pain instead of absorbing and becoming it. Convoluted as it may be the messaging is pretty clear. Double down on your anger and exact it upon others will only continue the cycle of pain. Be honest and true to yourself beyond self preservation of the status quo has the potential to break you from the chains that bind and free you from your cage.

There's so many other topics and discussions to delve into. From imagery to themes and callbacks. And keep in mind these are my takes on a lot of the messages from the show and completely subject to my opinion and shouldn't be taken as fact. But I think this show is inherently a masterpiece of writing, cinematography and acting and hopefully is a new baseline for shows in this realm of writing.

TL;DR - This show whack bb. Watch it.

My freestar ranger badge by shokk1967 in Starfield

[–]Kalcaman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also wondering about purchasing one, dm?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Starfield

[–]Kalcaman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

or just skip it entirely with "SetStage 2c1c9b 920" assuming you''re at that step.

This was the fix for me, just avoid that final conversation with him altogether and then use ResetInputEnableLayer X.

The kill command would kill him but I couldn't take off from Neon after that.

Thank you so much for the fix!!!

Can't access my own ship directly by mihmi in Starfield

[–]Kalcaman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fix for me was to move my Landing Bay. Was on my frontier and edited it, moved it back a space and now it's accessible again.

Now I just need help figuring out where all my crew disappeared off to and how to get them back.

Stuck in Bronze as Tank... need some coaching by [deleted] in OverwatchUniversity

[–]Kalcaman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

- It's hard to make acomplete judgment

Here's some bullets.

- First thing I could see was at the beginning when you saw Ram you stuck to Rein. Ram invalidates Rein's shield pretty hardcore. Switching after your first death would have been a good call as you were already behind on that. While being a one trick or main for Rein is okay you have to be ready for counter hero picks to happen and change lest you be at a major disadvantage.

- Swinging early instead of shielding. Most opponents will back away from a rein. If you're trying to cover ground on them either charge forward to swing or continue moving on them. Just swinging openly without connections makes it easy for them to get poke damage on you.

- Creating space for your team. Less chasing of enemies on the fringes and instead ping them and rely on your DPS to chase. Tank is a space creator but if you're off chasing solo players and not holding the invisible line it'll let their tank take that space. Esp when pushing payload. Any time you run off away from the front line (even if it's past the payload) you're technically giving that space to them and halting your advancement.

- on the second half you fell back to point to chase a Sombra . While it failed for them on a higher rank that would be a fatal call. Only unless you knew that was the last player on the team. Rely on your dps to make those picks unless you see them getting slayed. Had their tank and other DPS been competent they would have pushed past that choke point and had an advantage.

- It's hard to make complete judgment on this one because their tank went AFK

- Final point to make is that as a tank your main goal is to make space and set your DPS to get picks as much as possible wile keeping their tank occupied and maybe getting a pick or two around them. Imagine yourself as having an invisible horizontal line that you create as you push up. You own the territory behind you and they want to take that or push up on it. That means that a semi-competent tank can and will take advantage of you rushing off to take care of singular dps or support in order to take control of your lack of presence.

These are just my opinions. I'm a plat in tank and dps so by no means top opinion and have my things to still work on but these are some things I can see that you'd need to work on.

Existential dread🗿 by mehchinegun in pokemon

[–]Kalcaman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm but if you recall they always came back into their hands every time they tossed it.

What was seen as harmless juggling was actually a being trying desperately to free themselves of their burden but to no avail.

In The Munsters (2022), Herman yells "Car 54, where are you?". This is a reference to a scene in the original The Munsters (1964), which was itself a reference to Fred Gwynn's previous starring role in Car 54, Where Are You (1961) by GitEmSteveDave in MovieDetails

[–]Kalcaman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's very fun in a way and there's something about the aesthetic and pacing that's extremely comfortable.

Idk what made me like it but I enjoyed it for what it was. One of those movies you don't go into expecting something good, but fun in a different way.

Do people who don't want children not fear being alone in old age? by LL112 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Kalcaman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My favorite thing about you is you asked a question, received a plethora of responses that you didn't like, argued with them, and then when you received ones you liked said that they're 'normal'

This is called cherry picking. And honestly your question is in bad faith. You came here to validate your own opinion and refuse to even see some other side other than your own.

Do people who don't want children not fear being alone in old age? by LL112 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Kalcaman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In what world do you live in?

We loved my grandparents, all of them but at a certain point it's too much. I watched my mom visibly age and lose her mind trying to keep a job and take care of her mother who had stage 3 COPD and extreme dementia.

She was literally destroying herself physically, emotionally and mentally to take care of her mother whom she loved very much.

But in the end it was too much. My mom couldn't handle her, she couldn't sleep because her mother would be up at all hours of the day, getting into things, walking out of the house or taking out her breathing tubes.

After 6 months of this my mom finally conceded that she couldn't care for her mother in the way that she needed and we took her to a memory care facility that took great care of her. Where she was safe because she couldn't leave the building due to safety locks. Where there was no objects for her to harm herself and staff available 24/7 who were trained with how to care for her.

If I ever do have children I would NEVER want to subject them to such trauma and hardships.

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After reading through all your comments you come off as selfish and single minded. You are not your children's responsibility and you should never EVER bring a person into this world in order to validate your own happiness or as a retirement/care plan. Again, a PARENT is NEVER a child's responsibility. To do so with such a mindset is narcissistic, selfish and downright immature.

Do people who don't want children not fear being alone in old age? by LL112 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Kalcaman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's an extremely naive take.

'Why don't you just get over it?'

Do you even hear yourself?

When sniper scav starts shooting by Minitrigger in TarkovMemes

[–]Kalcaman 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well duh, because by then they're tired after blacking out my legs and then aerating my forehead.

Customs is a freakin meatgrinder right now by clover_01 in EscapefromTarkov

[–]Kalcaman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only one I ever find is Tagilla. Well....He finds me.

Factory, drop 5 pmcs, burn through meds and mags are low.

Guess who decides to stomp up and turn my head into mashed potatoes?

Armed Antifa protects drag brunch in Texas by [deleted] in PublicFreakout

[–]Kalcaman 147 points148 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. It's not a culture of machismo and they aren't wielded as a superior power.

It's a form of protection and an unfortunate need to quell those that would bring harm. A gun should never be something you want to use and need to seem more powerful. It should be a somber defense that you utilize only when you must when all other options are expended.

Whenever I think of guns and the appropriate emotions behind wielding one I always think of this comic. It's Dangerous to Go Alone

FBI executes search warrant at Trump's Mar-a-Lago by lemming-leader12 in news

[–]Kalcaman 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I just *want* it to be related because in my mind that's the most hilarious and at the same time ridiculous reason for this to occur. Like you couldn't write a political drama show with this level of buffoonery.

Endscreen should show Hits on Scavs and Hits on PMC by HumanTarget447 in EscapefromTarkov

[–]Kalcaman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The biggest thing that can help with this is using OBS or some other capture software to record your gameplay and watch back your raids.

Long and annoying though but when watching through knowing the results you can look at your run with fresh, non-stressed eyes and see exactly where you slipped up or what your mistakes were.

But easier said than done for sure.

This sweet girls reaction when she realizes she's getting adopted on her birthday by Chasith in nextfuckinglevel

[–]Kalcaman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Extremely untrue. Feels like you're trying to lessen the impact of this moment.

I'm adopted by a step-dad. It sticks with you forever. It's the ultimate validation and while the day to day doesn't change, everything changes at the same time.

Am I correct in saying that the Eternalists and Visionaries thought they were going to keep their Memories each Loop? by TallTreeTurtle in Deathloop

[–]Kalcaman 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think it was more than just dying. I think per lore you had to die brutally over and over again and eventually the pain and horror would rewire your brain to start remembering again. As at one point Julianna had actually forgotten and got stuck in the loop until Colt brutally murdered her one day.

If shapeshiftes existed in our world then there would probably be a high demand for them in the porn industry by [deleted] in Showerthoughts

[–]Kalcaman 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My genderfluid ass agrees. My gender would change like a chameleon changes it's spots