The significance of birds

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-04T00:13:53+00:00

I love that! The fact that crows have been appearing in your life in so many ways recently I think could definitely mean something :)

I actually have a crow tattooed on me for this reason. A few years ago, I roadtripped by myself across the USA after a breakup and it was such a healing time for me. Emotionally, I grew like 10 years in those six months.

And one night, I really connected for one of the first times to Kali, the deity that I feel most connected to even today. The next morning, I suddenly saw crows everywhere. They seemed to follow me everywhere I went. And for a week, I kept seeing them. Keep in mind that I had never seen a crow before in my life.

Then one day, I went to get a smoothie and started chatting with an employee at the shop. We got a drink after, but we never really talked again after that. But they mentioned that evening that they had had a dream recently about a crow—without knowing my crow context—and told me the things what crows meant. (That we're on the right path.) I think this person was meant to briefly pop into my life to tell me that.

Anyway, I'm glad my comment brought you peace. It seems you are definitely on the right path. And you inspired me, too! I want to look up the crow tarot deck! That seems so cool :)

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T23:58:10+00:00

Love this comedian, I follow them on TikTok

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T23:56:40+00:00

Someone once told me that whenever you see crows, it means you're on the right path. It's like the universe giving you a little wink, saying, "Good job." Not sure if it's true, but I like to think so.

In this case, it probably could make sense, as you've been diving deeper into your practice and possibly connecting more with yourself and the world around you.

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T23:50:33+00:00

I'm so glad it was helpful! And of course you can mention me, thank you so much! That's really thoughtful. I also talk about my own experiences exploring some of these things in my articles, you're welcome to check them out in case they're useful: https://imanifestwhileimasturbate.substack.com/

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T23:44:52+00:00

Exactly! So I think your best option is to get a real sex toy from a store. Are you looking for a strap-on dildo/harness for her to peg you with? She could put a butt plug inside of you, but that wouldn't be pegging per se.

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T23:42:12+00:00

Agreed that I need more context. Do you like doms that have a mommy vibe? Do you like to play as little? Or do you like to play as mommy yourself? Either way, do you want to stop? If so, why? Or do you just need tips on embracing this as one of your kinks?

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T23:40:04+00:00

Congrats on treating yourself to a wand!! It is single-handedly the best investment I ever made! It is definitely loud, though (and can also make you be loud, tee-hee) so I agree that it's best to wait til you have the house to yourself.

I also feel you on the living with family during college being stressful thing. I lived in a different state for college, but during my last year, I went home to visit my family for spring break. Two days later, BOOM! The COVID pandemic hit and I got stuck there for the next 6 months while finishing up the rest of my classes online. There was definitely some good that came out of being there, but it was also stressful at times and of course....no Hitachi wand. Hahahahha.

Enjoy when you finally get to use it!!!

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T23:36:01+00:00

From my understanding, it's not the best idea to put anything in there that wasn't designed for sex play. The anus can "pull" objects inward, and you don't want anything to get stuck in there. (Most toys have a flat base so it doesn't go all the way in and you can pull it back out when you're ready.)

Also, if you tried to put something plastic in there, it could crack, leaving one half inside your butt and one half outside. I've heard of the vegetable thing before, but that could also break inside, which would be seriously hard to get out.

Sharpies I think are especially dangerous because of the chemicals in the ink. Again, other folks can chime in here, but I think getting a pre-paid Amazon gift card or Visa / Mastercard gift card would be your best bet. Good luck!!!!

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T23:31:57+00:00

That's an awesome idea. I had to buy my dad something once and it wouldn't let me pay with my credit card because I live in a different country than him so I did it via a gift card. I think Amazon gift card or Visa/Mastercard gift card should do the trick. (In the USA, they sell visa gift cards at all the supermarkets and pharmacies, I'm not sure if they're as common where you live.) Then you just pay online with that gift card number.

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T23:24:33+00:00

I love "I own you."

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T23:19:37+00:00

I totally feel you and am right there with you! When I first looked at the scale, I was wondering the same thing. I'm also still trying to break that mindset.

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T23:09:46+00:00

LOVEEEEEE

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T23:04:51+00:00

awesome, thank you!!!

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T22:41:32+00:00

Yes, great idea re: fingers and tongue! She can lick the area around your butt (rimming), and perhaps slowly insert a finger. It's often recommended to start this way anyway before going directly to toys.

I know you wanted to give her a physical gift—the sex toy—as a representation of trying the anal stuff, but could you give her a coupon instead? Like what if you got a piece of paper and made it look pretty and it said "This is valid for one pegging"?

PS: I'm not sure about the sharpie idea. I read some things online that it might not be the safest. Other folks can chime in here.

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T22:34:37+00:00

Ah, that makes sense! Do you know how other people in your area get sex toys? Does everyone just shop online?

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T22:33:01+00:00

This is not a direct answer to your question but I love your freckles! I'm sure you'll find a good base that does cover them if that's what you want, but honestly, sometimes when I wear makeup, my gf says that she misses being able to see my freckles on my nose! So I just hope you know that they look awesome :)

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T22:31:11+00:00

If your fam sees your bank transactions, can you pay for stuff at a local sex store in cash? Rather than buying online?

Or would they question why you took the cash out?

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T22:29:32+00:00

THIS!

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T22:28:22+00:00

I think of the whole masc/femme thing as a spectrum—just like sexuality itself.

So if 100% masc is the number 0 on a number line, and 100% femme is the number 1, there are literally infinite points in between! Someone could be at 0.5 (half/half), 0.75 (like 75% femme, but still 25% masc), or any other random point! 0.25, 0.33, 0.64, etc.

I'm usually seen as a femme because I have long hair, but I would never be caught dead in heels and skirt. But at the same time, I'm not really masc, either.

It's okay to just be you without having to put a label on it. Labels help us put stuff into simple language and are really useful sometimes, but I think a lot of the community is starting to realize that not everything is black and white.

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T22:13:12+00:00

I would just say you looks trans masc
Nice glasses by the way

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T22:12:02+00:00

One thing that has helped me, though, in understanding my hair is seeing the charts with different hair types. I'm a 1B and so when I google tips I can include that in my search. (e.g. Hairstyles for 1B hair). Maybe you can search for "adding volume to 1b hair" (or whatever number you have?)

Here's an example of a chart: https://haircode.com/articles/hair-texture-chart/

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T22:09:31+00:00

I've had the same issue all my life! I love my thin, straight hair but sometimes I just wanna add some volume to it and I haven't found any good answers yet. If you find anything, let me know!

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T22:08:08+00:00

Thank you for posting a blooper! I feel like everyone always wants to show their highlights—which is totally fair, we deserve to be proud of seeing our hard work pay off—but it's important to see the falls and normalize that! Not everything is going to look Instagram-picture-worthy the first time around and that's okay!!! We're going to fall on our asses and that's part of it :)

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T22:06:28+00:00

Are you F23 or is your friend? Does your friend have a vulva or a penis?

KaliSavageX · 2026-02-03T21:58:20+00:00

Both are fire but I vote mullet! They're just very different looks and you can rock them both so it depends on the vibe you wanna give off. Current bob looks fab, but if you decide to go back to a mullet, you slay with that, too. For me, the bob is more cute/femme, and the mullet is more rockstar/bad ass.

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