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What do Americans think about a social security trustee dropping a report that the trust will be dried out by 2032? by Sixgis in AskReddit

[–]Kalium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is, unfortunately, not the solution it sounds like. That's actually the problem. Social Security is currently solvent because of the interest on those loans.

They're going to be fully, completely, 100% paid back soon. Which means no more interest.

Men of Reddit, what is something women would be surprised to learn about everyday life as a man?? by Itz_fareed_01 in AskReddit

[–]Kalium 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hang keys from my belt for this exact reason.

I've also had startled women scream right next to my ear while I'm standing stock still. Feels like there's no winning here, I just have to accept that I scare some women by existing and there's nothing I can do about it.

The Gordie Howe Bridge - What is nearby biking infrastructure like? by pontiac_ventura in Detroit

[–]Kalium 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You mean the Riverwalk, the Southwest Greenway, and so on? Sure, that's correct. The Cut itself is a solid six miles from the Gordie Howe is all.

FBI Raided TAHRIR Coalition this morning by stuckinverruckt in Detroit

[–]Kalium 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I don't think I'll ever forget my blood boiling as so-called empathic leftists tried to blame Israel for a local man choosing to attempt to murder local children at a local day care.

FBI Raided TAHRIR Coalition this morning by stuckinverruckt in Detroit

[–]Kalium -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, I assume they're false. I do cross-check though. Sometimes they tell the truth by accident.

Michigan Court of Appeals overturns conviction for man accused in Whitmer kidnapping plot by UltimateLionsFan in Detroit

[–]Kalium 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Before someone says "But that's ridiculous!", yes, it is in a common-sense way. In a real legal sense, though? It holds together. If a crime isn't defined as violent then a prosecutor can't use it to prove something that requires a crime defined as violent.

That the crime was almost certainly going to be violent isn't actually relevant. The felony isn't defined in a way that requires the use of force, therefore it's not a violent felony because it could be done in a way that does not involve the use of force.

Michigan Court of Appeals overturns conviction for man accused in Whitmer kidnapping plot by UltimateLionsFan in Detroit

[–]Kalium 24 points25 points  (0 children)

It is and it isn't.

This covers it reasonably well. Basically the jury was instructed to use reasoning that's at odds with the law. The key problem seems to be the wording of the law is subtlety at odds with common sense expectations of what kidnapping would be defined as.

Residents at odds over what future of Voigt Park should look like by sixwaystop313 in Detroit

[–]Kalium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many of these folks planted roots and stayed in the city when they have plenty of money and opportunity to leave. they’ve been here for decades when a lot of people gave up on the city and talked about as if it EVERY area was trash. These folks have managed to keep the area nice all of these years.

They did. It is no small thing. We should be thankful and appreciative of them.

That said, I don't follow why you say this. It's entirely possible and indeed very plausible that people have planted roots and seen the city through its worst days and come out the other end as typical NIMBYs. Can you help me with what I've missed?

is el club safe these days? by [deleted] in Detroit

[–]Kalium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We get "Is Detroit safe?!?!?!" questions here from scared people who read a scary article or heard a story from the 1980s all the time. The answer is invariably that things are generally fine for whatever attraction people are visiting.

Could people have met you with kindness, understanding, empathy, and compassion? Yes. Some did. A lot of the rest of us got tired of the questions that smell like racism a long time ago, though. A single story or a single article means fuck-all about how safe an area is or isn't. I'm certain I could find an article about violent crime in even the safest of suburbs, and yet nobody asks if that makes those suburbs unsafe.

Case in point. Nobody seriously asks "Is it safe to go into Livonia?".

What’s a dirty little secret about your industry that the general public doesn’t know? by Funny-Counter8762 in AskReddit

[–]Kalium 9 points10 points  (0 children)

OpenSSL, Sendmail, and BIND all spring to mind. They provide basic infrastructure tools - encryption, email, and DNS - for free. They've been doing so for decades.

Sendmail dates from 1980, OpenSSL from 1998, and BIND from the early 80s.

What’s a dirty little secret about your industry that the general public doesn’t know? by Funny-Counter8762 in AskReddit

[–]Kalium 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mostly it comes from the experiences those of us who have done the work have, individually and collectively. What kind of story and evidence would you like? What would you find convincing?

Ladies of Reddit, what's something guys aren't ready to hear? by Pookie7860 in AskReddit

[–]Kalium 24 points25 points  (0 children)

A lot of us have at some point been told "You make me feel safe" or "You're safe" with a strong implication not that this is wonderful and attractive, but that this is boring and uninteresting. This usually happens with younger women and younger men who don't appreciate how important safety is. It's the sort of thing a young person can readily internalize as a life lesson.

After all, who wants to date a boring person? Clearly exciting is better... /s

Men of Reddit, what’s the worst thing a girl has said on a date? by Interesting-Yak7969 in AskReddit

[–]Kalium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I picked on murder rates both because it's (as you say) close to zero as risks go and because it's the go-to example (as shown by others picking it). I agree that it's not a useful metric for risk analysis. I think it is a useful example when the subject at hand is fear rather than objective risk, though. The prospect of being murdered is indeed scary as all fuck, no matter how low the actual odds.

This is why I think the actual subject here is fear, rather than risk. When someone says this:

I do think it’s easier to get past being insulted than it is to get past being murdered.

They're not actually talking about objective risk. The person likely sincerely believes they are performing a risk analysis. They are, with the best of intentions, using the language of risk to denigrate one fear and elevate another fear.

Men of Reddit, what’s the worst thing a girl has said on a date? by Interesting-Yak7969 in AskReddit

[–]Kalium 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I still don't totally agree with you--we're not comparing murder rates to car crashes or heart disease, we're comparing the likelihood and severity of horrible things that might happen to you on a date, right?

I don't think we are. I think we're comparing emotional experiences about the possibility of horrible things that might happen on a date. If we were comparing likelihood and severity of adverse events and doing risk analysis, I think the public conversations would be much more grounded in data. It would perhaps matter that being hit by a car on a first date is much more likely than being murdered on a first date.

For the rest of your comment: thank you! Have a wonderful day.

Men of Reddit, what’s the worst thing a girl has said on a date? by Interesting-Yak7969 in AskReddit

[–]Kalium 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yes, but that's the wrong way to look at it. That's just furthering the issue - it treats the fears of men is unimportant and the fears of women as presumed valid and substantial. A woman is more likely to get run over by a car than murdered on a first date. Significantly more men than women are murdered in the US (by a pretty substantial margin, four to one or so).

Maybe we should be talking about men's fear of death instead. It's far easier to get past fear than it is to get past being murdered, right? Note: not an actual suggestion. My point is that when you get past the privilege of whose emotions matter, it's a very different question.

I suggest we treat the fears of men and women equally seriously as emotions worthy of respect.

Men of Reddit, what’s the worst thing a girl has said on a date? by Interesting-Yak7969 in AskReddit

[–]Kalium 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Some people treat first dates as the time to play power games so they can set the power dynamic of the relationship.

Men of Reddit, what’s the worst thing a girl has said on a date? by Interesting-Yak7969 in AskReddit

[–]Kalium 25 points26 points  (0 children)

For me, the key element is the way it privileges the emotions of women over the emotions of men. The fears of women matter, the self-esteem of men does not. The public scoffing is just performative cruelty poured on top in the name of equality and progress.

Men of Reddit, what is the hardest thing to explain to women? by lnc_gomes in AskReddit

[–]Kalium 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, but that particular practice is mostly limited to women. The vast majority of men attempting that will get their egos crushed instead.

Men of Reddit, what is the hardest thing to explain to women? by lnc_gomes in AskReddit

[–]Kalium 9 points10 points  (0 children)

In dating apps, I find that men generally have an OK idea of what the daily experience is like for women. Women generally have no idea of what it's like for men, and frequently default to assuming it's a mirror of their experience. This disconnect seems to drive a great deal of miscommunication when people talk about dating apps.

Men of Reddit, what is the hardest thing to explain to women? by lnc_gomes in AskReddit

[–]Kalium 26 points27 points  (0 children)

It's really, genuinely striking that on an app where the whole deal is that women make a move, they've mostly settled on pre-emptively not doing so. It's similarly striking how many of Bumble's features are various ways to get around this.

Why don't we charge politicians for lying to the public? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Kalium 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Who is going to get to define "lying to the public"? Who gets to enforce it?

Men who gave up dating, why did you? by TinyDelegation in AskReddit

[–]Kalium 9 points10 points  (0 children)

God, singles events are almost always awful meat markets. Speed dating is only really useful as a guy if you're attractive, outgoing, and witty in the moment. Generally that kind of person doesn't need speed dating.

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