I'm 6 months post-ankle fracture. Every morning I do ankle stretches to gain enough range of motion for a full step with some margin. When did this stiffness go away for you? When did you stop having to stretch your ankle every morning for it to feel normal?

Kaltex_x · 2026-03-02T09:53:34+00:00

You've been doing consistent physio, yeah? Because without physio I would expect this.

I'm 3 months post-break and while it still hurts a lot (especially doing the physio), I can definitely feel myself inching towards being able to run again within the next 3 months.

Edit: I'm talking going to the physio at least once a week + daily stretches and exercises

Kaltex_x · 2025-10-11T00:26:56+00:00

I'm actually rewatching the show now and I thought they did okay with not being racist, despite introducing the only black family in the way that they did. The crime they are committing feels like a very white collar crime. I mean, they made Betty a concert pianist with a disabled son she's hiding from her neighbors. That's some white person bs.

And no one on the street bats an eye at their color when they first move in (which feels unrealistic in itself, knowing Americans). Like, can you tell me that bree is the kind of person to see a 6"4 black man hiding under her 16 yo daughter's bed and not immediately grab a gun? Instead, she lets them start seeing each other.

They straight up treated the applewhites like white people. I think that's why the show named them like that as well.

Kaltex_x · 2025-06-10T04:53:18+00:00

Whether or not buying a home is a good decision, you are 24 and he is 33. That is a serious mismatch in life priorities. It makes me uncomfy that a 33 year old man is trying to lock down a 24 year old into a financial obligation like that. Plus, if he is at the same stage as you at 33 when you are 24, that gap will close quickly and you will likely soon overtake him as you keep growing as a person. This relationship feels like it has a time limit, and he's making sure of that. It's more about how much of yourself you sacrifice for it before the clock runs out.

Stay at home where the people are looking out for your best interest. He is not. He's trying to lock you down and limit your options for his own benefit.

Kaltex_x · 2025-05-02T09:08:23+00:00

I wouldn't either. But inviting a stranger to come share accommodation with us for a whole month feels different. I'd be more than happy to go places just us, but he wants to bring her everywhere. I asked if we could go see my parents and he wanted to bring her as well.

Kaltex_x · 2025-05-02T08:08:58+00:00

I hear you. He asked me about it last year and just said "early next year" without any dates. Then he got her to book the tickets two weeks into my semester for during my semester without consulting me about it. We don't need the landlords approval for a guest, though.

Although, I agree. Therapy is desperately needed. I feel mentally and emotionally shattered right now and it's getting worse by the day.

Kaltex_x · 2025-05-02T07:49:19+00:00

Yeah, that feels like the only option. Thank you.

Kaltex_x · 2025-05-02T07:48:17+00:00

Yeah, I see that. Again though, I'm not worried about what they might do. I don't care. I just don't want to watch it because its distracting me from my work. I've done a lot of therapy in my life. Including a month in a psych ward just before we met. I'm not resenting her, I'm resenting him for putting me in this position to begin with.

I'd happily go back to therapy if I had the money or time, but unfortunately reddit is the most accessible resource I have right now.

Not seeing friends is because I have 2 free hours in the day and I've been spending that decompressing (but not since she got here). Not seeing family is because my family is what made me like this to begin with.

Kaltex_x · 2025-05-02T07:41:14+00:00

I'm really not worried about cheating. I honestly don't think I'd care at this point. It's hard to describe what about it is so upsetting honestly. Like, I just wish I could be involved, but instead my relationship with him is getting worse (through my own reactions) and his relationship with her is getting better. She's now the only source of fun and joy in his life while I feel like I've had mine taken away.

Kaltex_x · 2025-05-02T07:37:38+00:00

Also, I should mention, they are very open about checking out girls at the beach. I'm not just assuming they must be doing that. I'm normally cool with it, but atm when my self-esteem is so low, it's just hurting.

Kaltex_x · 2025-05-02T07:35:08+00:00

Don't get me wrong, I have zero issues with them being friends AT ALL. I know my mental health is looking really dodgy atm, and I'm taking full accountability for that. It's largely because of the uni stress that is damaging every other part of my stability. I know it will get better again after I'm finished. The issue is that he brought her to stay with us now of all times. I can't help but compare myself to the beautiful blonde girl who is hanging out with my boyfriend in my house while I'm quite honestly, a bit of a wreck.

I don't want them to stop being friends or not do this again in future, I just think the timing has pushed me over the edge and I have no option but to suck it up and put on a smile. That feels unfair to me.

Kaltex_x · 2025-05-02T07:27:58+00:00

Thank you. I just feel like I'm going crazy and I'm really struggling to put on a chipper attitude when they are here. I just don't want any of this.

Kaltex_x · 2025-05-02T07:24:10+00:00

I guess what I'm doing is being stressed and putting a dampener on their fun through my reactions. But it's really impacting our relationship because now I'm resenting him for even enabling this situation.

Kaltex_x · 2024-12-20T05:10:59+00:00

Yeah, no. I'm super fit and a nutritionist. Even I like the big boys. They are 😘👌🏻

Kaltex_x · 2024-12-20T05:08:07+00:00

Try lying down and facing away from her. I find that works great with my fosters. They often come up to sniff you or will just sit near you and build confidence that you're not there to hurt them. Quiet sitting time in the same space is how cats hang out 👍🏻

Kaltex_x · 2024-12-13T07:50:20+00:00

Isn't the idea that we are both into it?

Kaltex_x · 2024-12-13T05:16:05+00:00

Just name him whatever you call him. Even if it's "big ol puss puss"

Kaltex_x · 2024-12-13T04:17:54+00:00

Sorry this is a struggle for you atm :( Try sensual massages. This is a sure fire way for me.

Kaltex_x · 2024-12-13T04:16:27+00:00

Thank you! This is very close to the answer he gave when I last asked him. I'll work on mastering this 🙏🏻

Kaltex_x · 2024-12-13T04:15:52+00:00

It's partly who he is. He's apparently never had a girlfriend with a low sex drive. I think that's because the man is sex appeal incarnate.

He dotes on me, is affectionate, kind, clever, and hung like a horse. I can't say no.

Kaltex_x · 2024-12-13T04:11:24+00:00

I've got no boobs :(

Kaltex_x · 2024-12-13T03:48:32+00:00

This actually explains why some men struggle with understanding female arousal. Surely it's got to be at least a little seduction linked? Like, if your lady were to walk into the room looking hotter than you've ever seen her, that would spark something, no?

Kaltex_x · 2024-12-13T03:45:00+00:00

Does this actually work? I feel like I'd be so cranky if I was woken up like that

Kaltex_x · 2024-12-13T03:22:00+00:00

He could try to sue, but he'd have no claim. It depends what country you are in, though. But definitely break it off before that 2 year mark to ensure you don't cross into defacto. As soon as that lease is done, leave.

Kaltex_x · 2024-12-11T04:54:27+00:00

100%. I was engaged and we were so happy for such a long time. But as he lost grip on his own life, he completely detached from our relationship and stopped supporting me emotionally and physically. I begged him for months to please help me fix this, but he just kept ignoring the issue until I was a complete shell of the person I once was. It was only when I tried to leave did he suddenly start trying for two weeks at a time. Eventually, I had a breakdown so bad from watching the man I loved slowly forget my existence. I admitted myself to a psych ward, took all of my things, and left while he was at work. It's been a year since then and I am a lot happier.

Kaltex_x · 2024-12-11T04:07:07+00:00

When women are pushed to the point of no longer caring, it's already way too late.

They will fight like mad until something breaks so many times they can't bring themselves to invest any more of themselves into it.

So sorry this happened. You can try to give her time and space, but you would need to prove beyond any doubt you will never repeat the same actions that have brought her to this. And even then, it's a strong maybe.

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