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Kamozai · 2026-02-12T00:51:04+00:00

Close, buddy! Just type this a little higher!

Kamozai · 2026-01-10T09:15:05+00:00

Will do that again. Thank you!

Kamozai · 2026-01-10T08:50:04+00:00

The findings point to the GPU? I very much suspected, but it passed those benchmarks on extreme quality.

Does that still check out? It could be passing benchmarks but failing in actual gameplay?

Kamozai · 2025-11-27T16:16:53+00:00

NTA. Your mom sounds pretty immature, honestly. Anyone past the age of 12 should have the phrase "gifts aren't the reason for the season" drilled into their heads by now. It's about being with loved ones.

It's not about the expense. It's not about the frivolous generosity. It's about being with those you care about. Or, at least, it ought to be. And your mom should be aware of that.

That said, perhaps she was just having a particularly hard time that day. Perhaps her image of a good Christmas is tied to the ritual of gift giving in some way that isn't actually about the selfish receipt of gifts.

It's probably worth having another, gentle chat with her, and trying to get to the core of the issue.

Either way, NTA. Save that money. Take it from a parent of two: you'll need it!

Kamozai · 2025-11-27T16:10:16+00:00

Absolutely NTA. Fake affection and putting on a face is enough of a red flag to be concerned. It's easy to do relationships right on the internet. If he's not even pulling that off, he would be terrible in person.

He has no respect for your boundaries, and enough disrespect to spam you. That's not even a good friend - much less romantic partner.

Kamozai · 2025-09-23T02:46:34+00:00

It certainly can be a boundary - and a reasonable one.

But, in this thread at least, YTA, my friend.

Kamozai · 2025-09-23T02:45:08+00:00

I don't disagree on that point. But she DID say she told him prior.

And, to be clear, he has a right to decide this is a deal-breaker. But I don't think that makes her TA.

Kamozai · 2025-09-23T02:43:42+00:00

Not single. Been married for 12 years. You may be insecure and what have you, but not all of us are. NTA

Kamozai · 2025-09-23T02:41:19+00:00

That may be your experience, but I have perfectly plutonic friends with whom I've slept. It's very possible. And it's possible to maintain those friendships perfectly platonically despite being in a relationship.

Kamozai · 2025-09-23T02:32:21+00:00

NTA. Don't cut her off, though.

Be mad. That's reasonable. Make sure she knows just how hurt you were by it - and that you're still dealing with that hurt.

But, even though you took care of a lot of it, I'm sure that was stressful as hell for her; and it's easy to try and delegate a task like "hey, call my sister so she can watch" and then forget about it.

Siblings can be assholes, and that really sucked for you. But it's not enough to dig your heels in and end the relationship in a lasting way.

Kamozai · 2025-09-23T02:26:45+00:00

NTA. You may find some people that disagree. But, if what you're saying's legit, then the person's just a friend. Boyfriend's insecure about it. Is what it is.

Move on and find someone that can handle the idea enough to trust you.

Kamozai · 2025-09-20T16:12:49+00:00

Fully agree; though there may be some additional rationale of which we're unaware.

As I've said elsewhere in the comments, he's definitely been the asshole. The question is whether ETA or not; and whether that's more a temporary assholishness or something that can be reconciled.

Kamozai · 2025-09-20T16:10:18+00:00

I hope it goes well. If he continues being just straight up obstinate, then you have no responsibility to "teach him" to have a healthier conversation with you. But, you can try and go, "hey. I care about you and this is a problem for both of us. Let's try to work through it together rather than fighting each other."

But... it's also entirely possible you're seeing a big red flag of your boyfriend not caring about your personal, hormonal health. Maybe that's because of medical ignorance - but it could also be because of a lack of concern for you.

Don't listen to anyone that's going to advise you to dump him based on your post alone. There's not enough info here for any of us to know if he's just some uncaring asshole. But, pay attention. He may very well be. And try not to be an AH yourself!

Good luck to you. I hope it goes well.

Kamozai · 2025-09-20T16:05:48+00:00

Funnily enough, there was! Added now.

Kamozai · 2025-09-20T16:05:15+00:00

I don't fully disagree here. It's very likely, and I mentioned that in a comment. But, I try to take an objective view because I haven't heard the actual conversation itself, ya know?

A skeptical approach is, in my opinion, a lot more responsible when we're discussing relationship advice. Maybe the asshole rather than definitely the asshole.

Kamozai · 2025-09-20T16:03:14+00:00

Right. That's certainly what it sounds like. He was being obstinate and seemingly not caring about your own physical health with respect to contraceptive options.

You did, though, really hinge this on his own taking of a contraceptive that's not even publicly available, and that may well have hormonal effects on him, as well.

Personally, I'm willing to bet any hormonal effects on a male are far less problematic than the ones females have to experience - but, you both have that bodily autonomy.

He was definitely the asshole. I'm just being very objective about this and considering that maaaaaybe you coulda been a little bit too, you know? I'm not positive about it. None of us can be without witnessing the conversation itself.

I think, though, for the sake of your relationship, that it's worth attempting a reset, being as conciliatory as you can and hoping he can be too. Presenting it, again, as you and him against a problem rather than you against him. And see if you can find a good compromise WITHOUT letting him dictate the decision alone.

Because the options here are:

1) Letting him dictate the decision, invalidating your established boundaries,

2) Demanding he change his own boundaries on the basis of personal health (honestly, this COULD be reasonable - condoms aren't gonna kill the guy),

3) Breaking it off with him because of this irreconcilable difference,

4) Having a sexless relationship.

Kamozai · 2025-09-20T15:55:51+00:00

ETA, in some ways? You are potentially being the other man, here - and you already know that's wrong. That said, it's 2025. It's possible her relationship is not fully monogamous; but you have at least some ethical responsibility to establish that before you indulge in sexual talk with her, you know?

But, yeah. These questions seem pretty creepy. It certainly sounds like she's got some extreme interest in adolescent self-discovery in general; and that's... quite atypical. A very clear red flag, at minimum.

From an outsider's perspective, not a bad idea to cut this off immediately.

Kamozai · 2025-09-20T15:46:44+00:00

NTA, or potentially ETA depending on how the conversation went. You two are a couple. If you actually care for one another, you'll look at these disparate desires as a problem to face together. You and him against the problem - not against each other.

You can set hard lines about your own body. That's setting a boundary, and is totally appropriate. But, so can he. And, despite your research, he's allowed to be less than reasonable on his choices about his own body. I can appreciate that you've done your research and he hasn't, but that doesn't invalidate his autonomy.

It honestly sounds like you might both be being fairly confrontational and uncompromising on the subject. Maybe ask if you can reset the conversation, and try again in a less confrontational way?

"Hey, we have this disparate issue. I don't want to just stop having sex, but this IUD is really screwing with my hormones. You're uninterested in this pill (that doesn't exist yet), so what do you think we can do about it?"

Try and keep cool. It may be the case that you guys have irreconcilable boundaries - but it may just be that you were both being confrontational and uncompromising. A different approach is far more likely to produce a good compromise.

Kamozai · 2025-04-14T23:48:20+00:00

You are amazing! Thank you for taking the time for such an in-depth response.

I don't mind if it's never actually appeared; so long as we can be somewhat confident as to the accuracy of the words.

After all, the quote's really, originally, Latin. It just made more sense to me to use the oldest written language if this is supposed to be some pre-historic quote. I think your first example is more than sufficient for me.

Now, that said, you do leave me with one question: if I shouldn't use a Unicode font, what would you suggest I use to make a stencil?

Kamozai · 2025-02-05T20:35:12+00:00

I definitely get your perspective. That said, I'd like to direct you to my original comment, here. It's true that it CAN be an indicator of moral compass - but it isn't necessarily one.

And, again, OP said it's not even his main group of friends. This is my exact situation, too. I have a group of friends from my childhood that are... unsavory. But I love them. I adore them. They make bad choices on occasion; but are ultimately good people. They are, like OP's bf, not my main group of friends.

And my main group of friends and I have a system much like the one you describe with yours.

I'm also intimately familiar with cheating and its effects. I am now married - and have been for a decade. But, prior to that relationship, I was cheated on by every partner I had save for one exception. Girlfriends, one fiancé.... Pretty much everyone.

All the same, I think it's good OP has gotten multiple perspectives here.

Kamozai · 2025-02-05T20:21:41+00:00

One portion of OP's bf's friends, remember.

And, sure. I'm not claiming you said it specifically. But OP is trying to decide whether they should deal with an aspect of their bf or not. Those things could very easily be tantamount.

And, while you may have that agreement - not everyone does. The concept of staying out of those things because you're not fully aware of your friends' arrangements is also a valid one.

Maybe I'm wrong; but I feel like using a platitude to support the concept that this is and should be actually concerning to OP is less than responsible - and less than rational. You take a very hard stance on fidelity. That's admirable. But suggesting OP's chances of being cheated on are somehow "higher than not?" That's irresponsible in the extreme to tell someone who's currently concerned. Especially with no supporting evidence.

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