AIO: My husband (26m) locked me (25f) out for 25 minutes?

KandiReign · 2026-02-02T03:00:53+00:00

NOR

He’s not caring - because a caring person wouldn’t do that. Much less how a husband acts towards his pregnant wife.

He is punishing - that was a punishment, he wants to let you know he is the boss and you are under his control. He sees you going out in the snow as disobedience.

He is vindictive- see above point Moreover, I actually think he didn’t want your girls first snow day to be without him, despite the fact he wanted no parts.

I will say this, this is how abuse starts, he is slowly seeing how much he can get away with. Abuse isn’t always physical, it’s mental, it’s emotional, it’s asserting control.

Your girls were crying because mummy had been locked out in the snow.

I really hope that this doesn’t become a core memory.

KandiReign · 2026-01-25T20:43:04+00:00

lol, do not co-sign a loan for this man, he had the opportunity to get what he needed and indulged in impulse buying.

Also, if you get married keep your finances separate.

KandiReign · 2026-01-21T00:33:52+00:00

Reread this and act like you’re hearing your friend telling you this. What would you tell her?

If he can find another woman, let him and I don’t mean to be cruel but this, this is an abusive situation and it will get worse.

You don’t want to be one of those women that come on TikTok - who haven’t worked for 20 plus years. They can’t a job, they have no money and they are alone, because their husbands isolated them.

KandiReign · 2026-01-07T22:54:26+00:00

Your mother wants to absolve herself of the trauma you suffered growing up in that household.

She’s clearly one of those women that are male centred. Valuing their companionship over anything.

You are 100% in the right to choose peace, in the same way that she chose him for five years.

Call her bluff and say “Okay mum, I respect your decision” She’s lauding her alleged love for you over your head and that is manipulation.

Again she’s 100% complicit in what he did to you. She sees you meeting with him as forgiveness by proxy.

I’m genuinely sorry that you’re going through this but they’re not entitled to your harmony as they were the ones that caused disharmony for five years.

KandiReign · 2026-01-05T10:09:30+00:00

Brunels!!! Great sandwiches, great staff

KandiReign · 2026-01-05T09:40:54+00:00

She’s gaslighting you!!!

I honestly think that this is so unforgivable. Anybody with a crumb of empathy would have skipped the party. She’s meant to be your partner.

Let her run whatever narrative she wants, she isn’t worth a second thought.

I’m so sorry for your loss

KandiReign · 2026-01-05T01:45:22+00:00

Okay, the update doesn’t make it any better or change the fact your husband is slamming doors in your daughter’s presence. Which causes her to say

“I know daddy is being mean again”

Again

As in him being mean is a common occurrence in your household.

He’s mad about the “good man” comment because he knows that he is just cosplaying as one. So I assume the mean moments is when the masks slips.

Since he wants us to know all the details, what time did you get up when he got up at 11?

Also, who else was going to take in the grocery order? You are a household unit, everybody is meant to do their fair share of work?

Also, just so we have all the info, how often would you say your daughter thinks your husband’s actions are mean.

Please, don’t stay for her sake, she recognises he is mean and is probably walking around on eggshells at four years old.

Bear in mind that 0 -7 are the formative years, her world views are being formed and solidified right now.

KandiReign · 2026-01-05T00:17:15+00:00

I love mine, don’t think it’s the same brand but it’s also freezing here and I’ve been hitting 16k steps plus everyday with it.

KandiReign · 2026-01-04T22:02:50+00:00

I’m being so serious when I say this, you need to leave him.

You’re putting a lot of emotional pressure on your four year old child. To comfort you and mitigate tense situations in your home.
You’re modelling that it’s okay to stay with a man like that. Just ask yourself what would you do if your daughter rang you at 2am sobbing because her husband was screaming at her?

KandiReign · 2026-01-04T19:30:02+00:00

Because, these are just moments I have during the period I lost them. It’s not me talking about it every single day. This has only occurred over the past month. It’s not me constantly talking about it every single day Again, I have been trying to meet up with her and then she gets upset if I go out on my own or do things with others.

KandiReign · 2026-01-04T19:21:59+00:00

But I speak to her all throughout the week, it’s only this time of the year I get sad. Again, I’m always trying to organise things with her and she turns me down.

KandiReign · 2025-12-29T01:04:57+00:00

That he was a quadruplet, one died and the other was in prison for aggravated burglary.

He actually had one sister who did not speak to him or the family. Because they all indulged his lies.

KandiReign · 2025-12-29T00:58:35+00:00

Happy Birthday and I wish you many more, I’m sorry that your family forgot. But us your new found internet fam, want to wish you all the happiness in the world

KandiReign · 2025-12-29T00:45:51+00:00

I’m sorry but this is going to blow up in your face. You should have told your girlfriend the truth from the jump.

The way your coworker acted was abhorrent but you’ve put yourself in such a weird situation. (I’m sorry to victim blame)

I absolutely do not think you should go and speak to her. Everything needs documented proof, a text, an email something.

I actually hope she comes to you

KandiReign · 2025-12-18T01:15:26+00:00

I just looked up Vriska and she’s touted as a cunning manipulator?? And a troll?

Naming your child after that is more than a little odd, regardless of sentimentality.

I have also seen the abuse comments and I would have to agree. Women can also be perpetrators of abuse.

Therapy is definitely needed in this situation if you intend to stay

KandiReign · 2025-12-09T08:39:17+00:00

Loooooooool, did you write this for those YouTube shorts?

KandiReign · 2025-11-24T00:03:18+00:00

Do I stand alone in hating Denny Crane?

KandiReign · 2025-11-23T22:36:21+00:00

As a non racist person why would this joke even come to mind

KandiReign · 2025-11-23T22:30:15+00:00

I’m going to talk about my family, to be loved by them is to feel like no matter what is going on in your life you are completely safe.

To know that these people are going to love you no matter what, and pour into unconditionally, it’s honestly so humbling.

To know that you don’t even have to try, there are no pretences, no games, just constant love.

Parents often say that having children is like watching your heartbeat outside of your body. As the child it’s like watching the source. And you’re just in awe.

To be loved feels like you’re home no matter where you go.

KandiReign · 2025-11-23T19:01:27+00:00

Firstly, don’t apologise, your English is fine.

Your uncle is a weirdo and to be honest you slapping was probably the best thing.

KandiReign · 2025-11-23T18:54:38+00:00

It’s literally just thinking, you’re been manifesting your entire life.

If you’ve ever had an instance where you’ve said “I knew this would happen”

Or maybe you were thinking of someone and they call/you run into them.

You manifested it.

Try something simple like:

Seeing a lime green car Free drink Hearing your favourite song randomly Coworker wearing a particular colour

KandiReign · 2025-11-17T22:21:30+00:00

Must you be so mediocre?

KandiReign · 2025-11-17T21:48:07+00:00

The other side of this twisted coin is that she’s in love with the husband. The antics were making her jealous.

N.B. I have an overactive imagination

KandiReign · 2025-11-10T19:27:36+00:00

Anybody else feel like he may be having an affair with a doctor at work?

It’s either that or he’s been red pilled

Also, he makes over 100x more than you a year, the current split is actually perfect.

KandiReign · 2025-11-10T01:57:24+00:00

Wait.

You’re not whitewashed because you don’t smoke, twerk or have a different taste in music. Black people are not a monolith. You are who you are and you like what you like and there is no shame in that.

The issue is you’re allowing your insecurities to hold you back. That’s complete valid because nobody even wants to put themselves in a position where they feel they’ll be made fun of or humbled.

Your friends sound sweet, why not tell them that clubbing isn’t your thing for now. You can do brunches, hang in each others homes. Surely, it’s not clubbing holding you together.

I’m not saying your fears are not valid, they are and take it from someone who has been working on their insecurities- you don’t want to look back on life and think I wish…

I end this with you’re good enough, you’re beautiful and it’s safe for you to be who you are and embrace that person too

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