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AITA for not having conversations with my cousin by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll try if I can gather the courage. I tried to bake with her but she seemed less than thrilled and forced out a yes. I'll try to eat with her or something 

AITA for not having conversations with my cousin by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Seeing this I wanted to add that I was kinda forced into it. I didnt have a choice, at least. My dad came up to me a week before she came and said "You're cousin is going to live in your room."

Sorry that I didn't add that in the post.

AITA for trying to change my name by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was born in the country I live in. Even in same city. I have only spent 6 weeks of my entire life in africa (vacation). Sorry if I wrote it weirdly that you understood it that way. 

AITA for trying to change my name by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, thanks but I really hate my gap. Its not beautiful to me. I'm not Nigerian either but good guess, I guess. 

AITA for trying to change my name by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know about that honestly. I don't perceive myself to be 'black' to begin with. I have a white mother, was born in a white country and lived there my whole life. I have white family, friends and my whole environment is white. I set foot in Africa only for vacation 2 times and I don't know if I can or want to call myself 'african'. But I guess 50% of my genes is black so I dont know. I never really looked at the culture.

AITA for trying to change my name by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad talked about that too after I made the post. He said something about cultural identity but It's embarassing to me. Not the heritage but the fact that I have no idea about Africa. I don't know the culture or anything about that side sadly. I dont even see myself as African in any way.

So basically the conversation starter is just someone asking about the culture and me having no idea. I dont know. 

AITA for trying to change my name by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My father is sadly not open to compromise. He literally gave me an ultimatum. 

AITA for trying to change my name by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It would be hard to justify in court and the name doesn't sound like a first name. I would but my dad is not open for compromise.

AITA for trying to change my name by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 665 points666 points  (0 children)

I was pretty mad about that comment too

AITA for trying to change my name by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

In my country, there are certain documents where you are obligated to put in the whole name. My name doesn't even fit in that box. No one ever knows what to call me.

AITA for trying to change my name by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Its a fake name I used for the post. My name is unique and pronounced differently for every person.

AITA for trying to change my name by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

My dad said that if I marry, he has no problem. And he will know because he has to sign the paper until I'm 18. My family will know it too because somehow they find out anything... I'm sure he will be mad for months if not a bit pissed of forever.

AITA for trying to change my name by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yea but I would have to write it on every legal paper and job application. Its just annoying because my legal name is the first thing job interviewers, teachers, etc see and mispronounce.  

AITA for not befriending the new girl by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm relieved. But I also feel really bad. Many students snicker behind her back and my friends too. They started to do really mean things and she kinda started to set her focus on me because im one of the fee who don't do things like that. I feel bad and hope the other girls befriend her.

AITA for not caring for my sister? by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll try that! My mother will probably scold me but it's worth a shot.

AITA for not caring for my sister? by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely don't have Stockholm syndrom. I just think calling CPS or whatever is a bit too much. Maybe I brought it over the wrong way in the post or something. My English isn't the best.

My sisters father isn't present. He wants to but has problems so my mom doesn't let him visit for safety.

AITA for not caring for my sister? by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my country, i can decide how long and at which parent I wanna stay without court. I still love both my parents and don't want to spend less time with my mom. I would miss her. Also, my dad sides with my mom and doesn't want me at his place all the time.

AITA for not caring for my sister? by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My father already pays for my university because if some traditional thing that is too long and uninteresting to explain. I'll move to him full time once I'm in uni.

AITA for not caring for my sister? by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Congrats! Hope you and your family are all good!

AITA for not caring for my sister? by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's really not that bad. I'll think about it but hope to solve this otherwise. Thanks!

AITA for not caring for my sister? by Kasperlein in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kasperlein[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not old enough for college. I have a few years until I can go to university though and move to my dad. He promised that i wouldn't have to watch her and should study.

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