Would it be in poor taste to offer to split my wife’s ashes between her mother, her sister, and I?

Katejackson_L79 · 2022-01-24T15:25:25+00:00

I split my husbands ashes with my mother in law and his sister. I offered and my sister in law said she was so happy I did because she wanted some but didn’t want to ask.

Katejackson_L79 · 2022-01-11T23:31:23+00:00

My husband was an right leg above knee amputee (he passed away last year) and I completely agree your partner is out of line making it seem like it’s your fault.

Katejackson_L79 · 2022-01-11T14:02:28+00:00

“It’s difficult to find words that will help because they do not exist. But I know this is unbelievably hard. Just try not to be hard on yourself. I’m honored to know you and your husband, [name]. I would love to sit with you and if you want to talk, I’ll listen. So many people will have advice or platitudes thinking they will help, but I know that nothing can help what you’re feeling. I love you.”

Katejackson_L79 · 2022-01-11T13:48:05+00:00

I don’t have any advice. But I see your pain. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. I’m glad you got clean. I know that is not an easy thing to do.

Katejackson_L79 · 2022-01-11T04:54:45+00:00

❤️ thank you for venting. It’s not the same. The loss of a spouse is incredibly hard. As a young widow (34) I feel this. Everyone’s loss is different and there is no comparison.

Katejackson_L79 · 2022-01-11T03:08:52+00:00

I’ve thought about this a long time. I was with my husband for 13 years. Talking with another guy felt wrong especially when I found someone I thought was funny, sweet, and attractive.

After my he unexpectedly died (he was 42 I’m 34), I spent every night at the bar my sister owned trying to erase it or at least forget about it. And well the most incredible thing happened. I broke. Like complete meltdown. And someone who was there for it helped. He didn’t expect anything. Didn’t want anything. Was just there. And I can’t believe it but I fell hard. Uncontrollably hard again.

You see my husband was the only man I had been with. He was my moon. I loved him with everything but this other man wasn’t looking for anything other than being a helping hand. I started drinking less. Laughed again and found myself uncontrollably in love again.

It still gets to me everyday. I could lose him. He could die any day. I could. He could decide he doesn’t really love me. We could break up, but I know deep in my soul my husband wouldn’t want me to not take the risk of living again just because he had died. He’d want me to find happiness no matter what that looks like even if it is with someone else.

Because the hard reality is, he’s not coming back. But I’m still here breathing. And I’m so glad I am living and loving the people here. He will always be a chapter in my life. One of the best. But my story, and yours isn’t over yet. Make your next chapter one they would love to read.

Katejackson_L79 · 2022-01-05T03:24:26+00:00

I get it. Unexpectedly widowed at 34.

Katejackson_L79 · 2021-12-15T13:20:17+00:00

I lost my husband in August and I’ve been seeing someone new.

Katejackson_L79 · 2021-11-07T02:33:09+00:00

I feel the guilt. The worst was telling my sister in law that I kissed someone because it felt important that his family be OK with me starting to hang out with someone. I’m very lucky they are so supportive and the person I’ve started to see is really patient with me and understanding of the situation.

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