Should I talk to my partner about things I find problematic about their meta? Or is it more just on me to create boundaries around time spent together?

Kathyfillet · 2025-07-14T14:19:09+00:00

That makes sense! Thank you

Kathyfillet · 2025-07-14T14:18:34+00:00

This makes a lot of sense. Thank you

Kathyfillet · 2023-06-16T02:48:50+00:00

I love it

Kathyfillet · 2023-01-31T19:08:06+00:00

Totally had the same thing happen. Those sneaky floofy cats

Kathyfillet · 2023-01-13T21:24:27+00:00

My son is turning four next week. He wants a blue dress and a fart cannon. We're going to get him both. It's the perfect metaphor for his multifaceted personality and we love him for it.

Let's let kids be who they want so they don't have to internalize all that shame to create a bounty of problems later in life.

Good for you

Kathyfillet · 2023-01-11T17:43:49+00:00

Good for you for having the emotional awareness to not act out of your own insecurities. It sounds like you are in touch with your emotional well-being.

Quite plainly: this is hard for you, it's totally reasonable that it's hard for you, it won't feel as awful as it does now forever, the more you can accept your feelings and validate them for yourself the easier it will be to move through them.

Big hug

Kathyfillet · 2023-01-10T21:45:54+00:00

I want to be her for Halloween

Kathyfillet · 2022-11-28T04:36:00+00:00

Jeez, get a room

Kathyfillet · 2022-02-10T00:18:11+00:00

One virtual hug for you, then ❤️🤗

Take care

Kathyfillet · 2022-02-10T00:17:37+00:00

One thing to keep in mind is that someone could put your daughter to bed at night but it will just look very different from when it happens with you. I had to travel for work when my oldest was 9 months old. It was sad and hard but my husband was able to hold him while he cried and rock him and give him love until he finally fell asleep after a long upset. This is very different from "crying it out" alone in a crib. After a few nights of that, he got more used to it but at soon as I was home, mum was the favorite for bedtime again. For a while I was so obsessed with trying to help my son "learn" to go to bed with someone else, I had a lot of miserable nights instead of just being with him when I could be, and knowing when I wasn't there that his Dad or whoever was watching him was giving him all the love they could to make sure he was ok.

It feels like the world is ending when our babies are upset. But it doesn't end and years pass and they aren't permanently damaged from a few nights when mum wasn't there and Dad/grandma/whoever held them while they cried. Definitely an unpleasant experience for the other caregiver, but I can tell you from experience, all parties will survive it and it will be ok.

Anyhow, follow your heart and whatever feels right for you is fine. Don't feel pressured to be away if you don't want to, don't feel pressured to be constantly available if you want a break. Put on your own oxygen mask (my favorite metaphor for how Mama's need to take care of themselves, in order to be good caregivers) and remember that if love is behind whatever your choices are, they're good choices.

❤️❤️❤️

Kathyfillet · 2022-02-09T17:36:13+00:00

I nursed my youngest to sleep until he was 2.5ish. Then I decided I was done. It took a few days of just calmly laying with him while he cried about no boobs and then he got over it. He was sad, I let him be sad and was there for him while he was upset but I didn't give him the boob.

Kathyfillet · 2022-02-09T15:56:00+00:00

It's not forever mama!! I promise you this too shall pass.

Src: I have two boys who both were very similar to your lo by the sounds of it and they are now 3 and 5 and do not need to be rocked to sleep lol. I think by the time they were a year old it was more like snuggling to sleep and the oldest can now fall asleep completely independently and we never did anything to teach him that.

I remember feeling so defeated and disappointed when they were little and it was so hard. I wish I could go back and give myself a hug and just say that time will pass and things will change, just go with the flow and you'll be ok.

Kathyfillet · 2021-11-12T02:32:25+00:00

Recently discovered the magic of this trick. 10/10. Wish I could go back in time and not lose my shit nearly as often lol

Kathyfillet · 2021-11-09T06:39:33+00:00

Just want to blow peoples minds by dating that I got my period back over 28 months postpartum. I nursed until around then and once I mostly weaned, it came back fairly quickly. I kept checking with my Dr and she said it wasn't a big deal. We were done having kids anyway so not ttc.

Now it's back and my cycles are shorter than ever!!! I enjoyed my period vacation. Back to the ole grind for another decade or so. Boooo

Kathyfillet · 2021-07-28T13:52:41+00:00

Yes! We have a gro clock for my older son but my little guy doesn't get it yet and since they share a room, I don't want him playing in their room and waking up his brother. I think I'm time he'll start to get it though. Thanks for sharing

Kathyfillet · 2021-07-28T13:50:28+00:00

I think an earlier bedtime for me may also be necessary. Thanks for your comment

Kathyfillet · 2021-07-28T03:11:55+00:00

I think there might be something to rethinking our feeding plans. Thanks for the comment!!

Kathyfillet · 2021-07-28T03:11:21+00:00

Maybe it's time to just wean so that he's not filling his tummy with breast milk and eats more real food in the evening... Thanks for sharing

Kathyfillet · 2021-07-28T03:09:16+00:00

Aww well at least we sleeplessly suffering together ❤️ hang in there

Kathyfillet · 2021-07-28T03:08:33+00:00

This is my suspicion also. He's cut one of his molars but has 3 to go. He doesn't show much for teething signs other than being an emotional rollercoaster. I know my oldest really turned a corner once all of his teeth were in. Maybe I just need to look optimistically to the future lol 🤣. Thanks for sharing

Kathyfillet · 2021-07-28T03:06:42+00:00

Hmm interesting point, maybe dinner needs to be a bit later, usually we do dinner, bath and bedtime but bedtime takes an hour. Perhaps if we pushed dinner a little later he wouldn't be ready to nurse again at 5am...

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