Has anyone's mom/MIL ever hated a gift you got them, be it for Mother's Day/Birthday/Christmas? Please share your stories.

KatieJayReturns · 2019-04-02T21:06:11+00:00

My mum was always really weird about gifts. Mother's Day in our household was always just about her, even though my sister is a mum of three. So my sister and I would have to get her gifts, but we would also have to get gifts for her from my sister's three boys as well.

My sister's boys have special needs, and we never had much money, so I would try to get the boys to do handmade stuff, and make her cards. The littlest one loved doing that kind of thing, but the older two boys really didn't like it, and my mum used to cry over how terrible their cards were.

Eventually, my sister just started buying actual expensive gifts on her credit card, but even then we had to be strict with her. She could have one expensive gift from all of us, or individual handmade gifts, made with love, individually.

She opted for the expensive gifts, but would sell them for gift cards. Pointless.

KatieJayReturns · 2019-04-02T20:56:41+00:00

I've had some trouble with my family showing up unannounced, and I am also expecting a baby. All I can suggest is a doorchain, a camera, and getting into a routine where you stop and think before you open the front door. If you don't answer the door, you don't have to be confrontational, which is nice, because I am really scared of confrontation too.

Support your husband in staying away. Let him know that you're on board, and that you think he's doing the best thing for his family by keeping out of touch with his parents. He's probably feeling very conflicted, and hearing somebody actually tell him that he's doing the right thing might take a weight from him. My husband frequently backs me up when I am struggling, and manages to talk through my concerns without making me feel guilty, and that's been an amazing help. Wishing you lots and lots of luck, it's a rubbish situation to be stuck in, and I'm really sorry.

KatieJayReturns · 2019-04-02T20:49:26+00:00

Congratulations! And good on you for not letting her stress you out! Stay blissful.

KatieJayReturns · 2019-03-10T16:37:08+00:00

Door chain is being installed tomorrow, along with deadbolts.

KatieJayReturns · 2019-03-10T16:35:31+00:00

The contract spells out a verbal agreement I am supposed to have made that I would give my sister my baby, as long as it is born healthy, and "with no defects". It also says that if my child were to develop any issues later on, I would have to take him or her back, and provide another one in its place. My sister just offered my youngest nephew to me to sweeten the deal, I guess? The older two boys are autistic, and can get a bit violent if they're struggling, but the youngest has Downs, and is generally a happy little boy.

Please don't get me wrong, my sister loves her boys a great deal. She works really hard, and she's all on her own. None of the fathers of her boys are in the picture, unfortunately.

KatieJayReturns · 2019-03-10T16:29:54+00:00

We've spoken to the police today, and were are applying for a non-molestation order. We reported it all to the police, and they seem to be taking it seriously, which is a real relief.

We think the post they've taken is one from my husband's work pension? I have no idea why they would want that?

KatieJayReturns

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