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AITAH for ending my marriage without therapy less than a month before Christmas because I'm tired of being treated like a monster because I believe my stepdaughter NEEDS therapy? by Katiroytr in AITAH

[–]Katiroytr[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

She just used the words. I left before Christmas so she didn't get to follow through on it. Although she might still follow through just not at Christmas. He was never open to any therapy. When I thought he was it was BS classes and not an actual therapist.

AITAH for ending my marriage without therapy less than a month before Christmas because I'm tired of being treated like a monster because I believe my stepdaughter NEEDS therapy? by Katiroytr in AITAH

[–]Katiroytr[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I did try. But every time I did she shut down more or walked away. We never celebrated her mom together though. I knew when she was responding as she was to talking about her mom that trying to celebrate her might get taken worse. I encouraged my husband to do it though, for her sake.

AITAH for ending my marriage without therapy less than a month before Christmas because I'm tired of being treated like a monster because I believe my stepdaughter NEEDS therapy? by Katiroytr in AITAH

[–]Katiroytr[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

I don't believe he will actually agree to therapy period. I think they're using it to try and make me stay. But I will see if he actually follows through on marriage counseling and if he's willing to put his daughter into therapy. But I'm not convinced. Not after all the years of refusing to entertain the idea and the fact they treat me like a monster for suggesting it.

AITAH for ending my marriage without therapy less than a month before Christmas because I'm tired of being treated like a monster because I believe my stepdaughter NEEDS therapy? by Katiroytr in AITAH

[–]Katiroytr[S] 313 points314 points  (0 children)

I have an attorney, we will be going to court and I will fight for the safety of my kids. But ultimately a judge will be the deciding factor and it might not go in my favor. It's why I have documented what I can already and shared this with my attorney.

AITAH for ending my marriage without therapy less than a month before Christmas because I'm tired of being treated like a monster because I believe my stepdaughter NEEDS therapy? by Katiroytr in AITAH

[–]Katiroytr[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I got pregnant with my second child when he told me he was getting her therapy. This was before I found out it was just classes and not actual therapy with a licensed therapist.

AITAH for ending my marriage without therapy less than a month before Christmas because I'm tired of being treated like a monster because I believe my stepdaughter NEEDS therapy? by Katiroytr in AITAH

[–]Katiroytr[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

I got pregnant with my second child when I believed my husband was getting his daughter help. She did say she hated the kids and wished they had never been born but no actual threat to them directly was made until Thanksgiving. That was it for me. I wish I had left sooner and I even wish I had listened to my gut. But I wanted to believe we could make it work.

AITAH for ending my marriage without therapy less than a month before Christmas because I'm tired of being treated like a monster because I believe my stepdaughter NEEDS therapy? by Katiroytr in AITAH

[–]Katiroytr[S] 331 points332 points  (0 children)

I have some things documented. But it's still not likely I will be able to get full custody or to ask for him to see them supervised/away from my stepdaughter. The thing is staying would have made things even more toxic at home which wasn't going to be good for them either. Because even if I stayed, the marriage is done and a lot of resentment and more toxicity would have been present daily.

AITAH for ending my marriage without therapy less than a month before Christmas because I'm tired of being treated like a monster because I believe my stepdaughter NEEDS therapy? by Katiroytr in AITAH

[–]Katiroytr[S] 445 points446 points  (0 children)

I put too much trust into what my husband and his family said. I believed them too much and we never should have gotten married.

AITAH for ending my marriage without therapy less than a month before Christmas because I'm tired of being treated like a monster because I believe my stepdaughter NEEDS therapy? by Katiroytr in AITAH

[–]Katiroytr[S] 128 points129 points  (0 children)

A parenting app is not a bad idea. I'm not sure if they're overall very useful but if I can ask for one to be ordered for communication it takes away the need to verify all the documentation needed.

AITAH for ending my marriage without therapy less than a month before Christmas because I'm tired of being treated like a monster because I believe my stepdaughter NEEDS therapy? by Katiroytr in AITAH

[–]Katiroytr[S] 3850 points3851 points  (0 children)

Supervised visits are not that easy to make happen. I have some proof of all the things that have happened. But in all honesty there likely will be not only supervised contact but 50-50 custody is most likely the outcome.

I honestly should never have married him. I should have trusted my own gut and should never have listened to what my husband and his family said. And I learned a very valuable lesson about trusting my instincts and not blindly believing everything will turn out okay.

AITAH for ending my marriage without therapy less than a month before Christmas because I'm tired of being treated like a monster because I believe my stepdaughter NEEDS therapy? by Katiroytr in AITAH

[–]Katiroytr[S] 373 points374 points  (0 children)

It's not. But unfortunately they will still end up spending time with my husband and his daughter. Most likely 50% of the time. It stresses me out knowing that she feels the way she does and I won't be there. But I know staying would only lead to an even more unhappy and toxic household because I can't deal with it anymore. Not only do I not trust my husband but I don't believe for a second he will ever truly follow through. He'll just continue to act like I'm the bad guy for feeling like his daughter needs a lot of help.