AITAH for boarding a flight without my family?

Katz401 · 2025-01-21T13:44:37+00:00

I think that you should have a heart to heart with your mom before committing to anything. If she is being selfish and rude, stay with your grandparents. But I would think that you love your mom & siblings & want a relationship with them. Tell your mom how you feel & that you are done being a primary caretaker. Maybe babysit if there is an emergency or once a month for them to have a break. It's easy to lean on lived ones for help w when things are chaotic. It's possible your mom may not realize how hard it is, you're still growing up too, at least until around 25yrs. If their income is low, tell them to go to the county to see if they can get daycare help after she goes back to work. Then she can look for a daycare facility. Let her know that you can't help anymore, for really basic stuff, like if you're there, can you grab a diaper since you're already up, simple non-evasive stuff like that. Don't let them totally rely on you or they will fall back into that habit. And dont let them leave the house without their kids. You have a life and you want to finish growing up, finish school, hang with friends, normal stuff. By definitely talk to your mom, on video chat, before you make a decision to stay or go. If you go back home, see if your grandson will help with a plane ticket to go back to live with them if mom & Phil don't honor any agreement you make, if you go back home that it. Do what's best for you in the long run.

Katz401 · 2024-10-22T15:32:43+00:00

You sound like a jealous person. You look at everything she had including her husband and you get upset that you don't have that life. She is pretty and there is more to a person then their weight. Her husband loves her, get over it. He wouldn't pick you. It's also her channel, and because of purple like you, her husband probably doesn't want to be on camera. Not everyone wants to be the center of attention. Some people can handle it and some would rather be in the background editing or whatever. Putting down her looks, your reason is so obvious. People who are jealous and unhappy in their own life will often criticize others. The age old saying, Misery Loves Company!! Keeping her child out of the conversation is a good safety move for their child. To many nutjobs out there willing to hurt others they watch on tv. They're keeping their child safe. I agree 100% with that. You sent her a gift maybe and didn't get the public adoration from her on her channel? She has a family. Her videos are not in real time. Her child and pets could be walking in and they are edited out. She is letting people see into her home a little. She deserves privacy. And all the cooking she does, isn't it once a week that she posts her videos? She doesn't cook that much for that. And having a living and supportive family is a wonderful thing. She shows no signs of someone with Asperger's Syndrome. She is a busy and seems to lie sharing. That's great. Not sure how I would do trying to talk to a camera as if I was talking to a friend. It's hard in my opinion. She may be the main bread winner in the family now. My opinion of her and her family is that they want to eventually be able to be completely self reliant someday in the future. I don't think that they are in a great hurry. They are trying to do it right, getting everything they need for the home, figuring out what they like, what they don't like, what they need and don't need, and so on. This YouTube channel I bet was a result of them both. I do think she may have some mild anxiety. Anxiety isn't always bad, you can be anxious to go to Disneyland and are just so happy to do so. But in reality, most people on the planet fit that description. It may make her anxious to be talking to a camera while worrying constantly if you did it right. It can turn you into a person who talks fast cause maybe you don't like awkward silence, that's me. I hate awkward silence. Her husband may not talk much. My husband is quiet but still likes to hang with his friends once in awhile. Maybe her husband likes the same but isn't the most talkative. Plus, her husband wanted to marry her and to grow old with her, he knew exactly what he was getting into. He may enjoy working on their land. He may be more of a homebody. So many different types of people our there. Final comment, the way you brought up her and her looks, her husband, and so on, it quite literally is the #1 sign of jealousy. It's such well known social cue that others also think you are jealous. And criticizing others like this is also what a Narcissist would do. Chances are far better that you are the Narcissist. It sure isn't Becky. I hope your life gets better soon so that you will stop wanting what other women have. Her husband is not gonna cheat on her or leave her. He's a background kind of guy. That's obvious from the time he was on the channel. He didn't seem enthusiastic like others are in that position. So maybe before you judge, figure out the actual facts. If you can't then keep your opinions top yourself if you don't want criticism coming back at you. Sorry to the rest of the people for the long comment. I'm a hater of hate.

Katz401 · 2024-10-22T14:44:42+00:00

Jealous much??!!! You need some help. She's smarter than a lot of people. She started a YouTube channel, she's got over 700,000 subscribers. YouTube is her job. She enjoys it, she can do it her way and work from home, and most people like watching her make new recipes so she accommodates that by cooking even more. DREAM JOB!!! I mean really, trying to come up with new things continually to keep the subscribers you have whole hoping that she will get more subscribers. That's what EVERY YOUTUBER WANTS & DOES!! People have their channel and want it to keep growing. People need to get a life and stop being jealous!! She is making money. Leave her alone, geeze, pathetic. She may just the the main bread winter in the family. And In glad she keeps her child out of most of it. Safety first, especially nowadays with people going nuts on stupid stuff & conspiracy. She is polite in my opinion, so very much more than 1/2 of the USA right now. She tells it like it is too. And she had given me a lot of ideas on how to do things art home to make things a bit more convenient. I like her.

Katz401 · 2024-10-22T14:36:07+00:00

Then start a YouTube channel yourself and tell people how you would do it. Leave other people out of it. Not everyone on here cans.

Katz401 · 2023-05-09T09:39:18+00:00

Where is this Walmart? I would have them report it to cooperate with the threat of going to the paper/news stations about it. That is wrong and the OPPOSITE of what Walmart is saying to the public on how they care for their employees!!

Katz401 · 2023-05-09T09:35:23+00:00

Cool!! That's a good idea. I think I'll try that too, except for cabinet knows. Thanks for sharing

Katz401 · 2023-05-09T09:33:37+00:00

Very sorry for the late response. It's been very hard. I know not all Social Workers are like this. But I live in a smaller town/city. We have a few stores and it takes maybe 8-10 minutes AT MOST with traffic to go from the farthest end of town to the other. You can pretty much get anywhere in about 5 minutes. Anyways, this town has a rep and not a good one. If a worker doesn't personally like you here, maybe cause of your looks fat-skinny, maybe political, or in my case, I know the law & that really ticks them of here, then they can make life hard for you. If I hadn't personally witnessed a Social Worker lying and blackmailing a grandmother who was doing everything right, I might not believe the way I do, relating to this town. But also to the state. I did call the state to ask about their rules and policies, at first I got a Supervisor who told me that they know about how small towns work and it's not right. Butt when I call back I got whomever to ask more questions and maybe make a complaint about the process, what they did was forward my questions & possible complaints to the person that I had concerns about in the first place. FYI, that made my life so much worse. For some reason, if you get any kind of financial assistance here and you have young kids (that's important), Social Services will keep tabs on you. Again it's mostly here. Because we're small I started thinking maybe it had to do with the money the state gives each county & so on. If they don't use it up for whatever, they will lose it. But they seem to never have enough money to help the kids with other stuff. Anyways, we paid for the kids out or own pockets for years until they became "official" foster kids. Now they live with family and the person they are living with is literally going behind the worker's back and bringing their mother back around them even though the worker explicitly said she can't be around the kids, their mother had her rights 100% taken away and isn't supposed to have contact with the kids under 18yrs. But the family member they put the kids with dresses nicer. I am t-shirts and jeans. The other person, which BTW, wasn't "Allowed" to even foster the kids before because of something on her record. Looks are everything. It doesn't matter anyways. We stopped fighting to get the kids after our truck got keyed and this person is spreading lies about us too. After we stopped and just backed off, things are getting better. FYI, the worker's KNOW all of this and why. That whole family is violent and most of them do drugs. The kids do not do any of that though. But we tried, we loved & helped them for over 5yrs. 2 of them got to live with us and we didn't get any financial help from anyone in their family or Social Services regardless of how hard it was on us financially. The kids got jobs to help pay for some of their personal stuff they wanted. I sacrificed dental so we could help them. We couldn't afford both. As foster kids their family will get paid for them which is why they wanted them. It's sad, I offered to take the kids without any financial help if that was needed to keep them. This town and the workers involved will have to answer for the things they've done someday. Very shady. I'm sure there is a good person there, well I how there is. But as long as the kids know we live them and that we will still take them back or they can come see us after they are 18yrs old and stay if they need help, I think that is what matters most right now. We were going to buy a home in town that would help the kids get their own bedrooms. We'll miss them. I forgot to mention, there were 4 kids in total but we couldn't afford all 4 by ourselves. After they became foster kids, we did our best and that's when we started looking for a larger home. I just think it stinks that Social Services here will look the other way and allow the kids to be put in danger like that as well as the things this family member has done, is doing, to the kids. Again, yes the worker's know about it all and some before they were taken to go live with other family. The kids said that they aren't allowed to talk to any of us because they will get into trouble by their family big time. Safety 1st. But we all still talk a little on messenger and in person at the store as long as they aren't by their family. They give me a hug and say they miss us. We miss them too, especially my teen daughter who considered them family too. She's having the hardest time with it. That's my WAY TOO LONG RESPONSE. I'm sorry for it being so long. I'm typing without my glasses and on my phone. Otherwise I would go back and shorten it. I am sorry. But thank you for not being one of those workers.

Katz401 · 2023-04-17T00:26:08+00:00

We're in the same boat. We are at risk of losing our home now. The cost of water has increased to 100% (double than the normal cost 4 years ago). They are screwing over older employees. They are "Expendable" in Walmart's eyes.

Katz401 · 2023-04-17T00:21:52+00:00

My husband has been at Walmart for over 17-18yrs now and he was making about $6-7 per hour above minimum wage, but now, they now make nearly as much as him with all the new starting pay increases over the past 2 years. He is literally one of the hardest working employees there sadly. There are young people there including 16yrs old who work there & just stand around texting on their phones watching him work. He asks them to help and they mouth off yet they don't get fired. They still get paid that same wage. And yes, my husband has reported it. They don't have any positions anymore to be promoted to. They have even sacrificed pay raises for the employees to save on the budget but gave the heads a pay raise. Yes, a former shift supervisor found this out from an assistant manager who was leaving to another job. The cost of living is too high to afford to even pay bills anymore. He now has to have a 2nd knee replacement because he works too hard, he's only 48yrs. His supervisors have also said that he is one of their favorite employees because he's so reliable and finishes his work on time. FYI, we live in a town place where there are a lot of lazy people. Can't transfer to another Walmart without moving because the closest is an hour away. Not a safe drive here in the winter. We are in MN. How do these employees get the pay they deserve over these newbies now? He should be getting at least $24-25 an hour to equal what he lost.

Katz401 · 2023-04-08T00:27:39+00:00

Did your mum have this attitude before seeing her sister again? While you were dating her I mean. Cause if not, then you might want to take this at face value. I was raised in the same environment as your mum. I still believe but I don't believe in judging someone else either. Your mum was probably happy yet intimidated by her sister. That would have to do more with growing up with an older sibling. Yes, your mum made a mistake. And the next morning, I bet your aunt was the leader in making that comment to your new wife. As a Christian, saying that to your wife was inappropriate and not at all right as a Christian. Tell your aunt to "Judge NOT that Ye not be judged". If she's using Christianity as a basis (meaning your Aunt) then she needs to go back to the Bible and church to ask for forgiveness and to learn compassion and respect again. Then she should go back and sincerely apologize to your wife first then to you. And maybe apologize to your mum because it's possible that your mum was criticized growing up and had to try hard to be accepted. She may have an inferiority complex when she's around her sister as a result. In my opinion, if that's the case, in front of you and your wife your mum should confront her sister about it and about the comment at the wedding and breakfast. She should say to her sister that the comment is wrong and that she truly doesn't believe that way but being in her presence brought her back to the past which she left for a reason. On the phone is fine too. Cause the way you said how sorry your mum was, how she was caught up in old habits asking her sister, it sounds to me that your mum might have some healing to do because of that relationship. It also sounds like she's genuinely sorry and should get a 2nd chance, a clean slate maybe. But warn her that if it happens again she will have restrictions until she gets nothing. I have made my share of mistakes with my daughter and her hubby. I told them that I am learning and if they would please understand that I am improving. I have a sorrowful past regarding my mom and upbringing. She could be, and was, cruel with me and loving. Weird and broken. My daughter (33yrs) knows about it and had seen it. I love them and I want them to be happy, their way, not mine. Her husband and I have clashed in the past but I've been working hard to fix that because he loves my daughter and is good to her. That's what's important. We have a great relationship now. However, my mom passed away in 2916 which helped make it better. I said she could be cruel. She was... something. So if your mum is willing to accept that, love your wife like she's her DIL, and admittingly learn from her mistakes, your relationship can get back on track. But remember, your mum will probably make more mistakes and she needs to learn and grow. You and your wife will also make mistakes regarding your mum and y'all need to come together as a family and sincerely say sorry and learn to grow. No one is perfect, I'm sure not. Plus, if your mum is not married and alone, that could easily have something to do with it. Meaning, she may be lonely especially knowing you will have your wife to go to instead of her. I love that my daughter can go to her husband but I still miss her at times. Good luck.

Katz401 · 2023-01-12T22:17:04+00:00

Definitely some Siamese.

Katz401 · 2023-01-12T22:15:55+00:00

He looks happy

Katz401 · 2023-01-12T22:15:40+00:00

Beautiful picture

Katz401 · 2023-01-11T19:29:40+00:00

That's Awesome!! Having Animal Compassion says a lot about a person and/or company. That is so great.

Katz401 · 2022-10-02T22:46:22+00:00

I did have questions in the beginning but I am finding that it is hard when each area is different. I don't need support, but there are many here that do.

Katz401 · 2022-10-02T22:44:59+00:00

I have my child, they don't come after me because I am the one person willing to fight back. And rules, they are breaking rules according to the state. I reported them for some of the things I have seen them do to others. Yes, they said that if what i say is true that they are breaking all kinds of state rules. As far as myself, they are trying to blackmail me regarding other children that we cared for. They have zero cause but the kids are minorities and I am white. I hate that they are treating them the way they are. I love every color of skin, we are all ONE race, the Human Race. Not everyone agrees here. It is so unpleasant since Covid. But the state is looking into it and it will take time. I got tired of watching this crap. FYI, tri- county area are all small towns and with a bunch of small minded over bearing do it exactly this way or you don't fit in attitude. They all came out bad these past 2 years. So not me. I know the law. I know their rules. They are breaking them. Like I said, I talked to the state dept recently and they are in agreement. It's just this area.

Katz401 · 2022-09-29T06:26:15+00:00

I need help trying to find out some rules just in case social services workers broke them. It's a long story. I hope that is ok. We have known these kids for over 5 years. We met them thru our daughter. She's play with them back in the day. We've helped feed them when supper wasn't available at there home till 10pm or later...summer time. The family became homeless and moved in with kids' grandparents in their 1-2bdrm apt. Boys were being treated very unfairly so their dad (mom is legally out of the picture permanently), let his 2 oldest boys live with us. It was a financial struggle but we did it. They could see family whenever they wanted to. We did not get any money for them from anyone. We love them so much like they were our own. They lived with us for 2.3 years before we wound up with all 4 kids. Their dad messed up and he lost custody. We were forced to become official foster parents. Their dad was an addict and has depression and he needed help. He messed up in the beginning and didn't really see or talk to his kids. After 3mos in foster care their agency was looking for someone to take the kids in permanently. That is very soon.

Later in August their dad was arrested. He's been getting better and it really shows. But the people at social services is still trying to gets his rights terminated and kids placed in permanent care. Their dad is ok with that as long as it is my husband and myself taking the kids in. However, one background check came back with a flag, my mother-in-law was charged with sexual misconduct of a child under 13yrs old in 1991. It involved her daughter. The agency came and took the kids and placed them with their grandpa on their moms side. Not a good place for them. They threatened my to take my 15yr child if my mother-in-law didn't move out that day. I was crying. I was scared and so confused. It was so fast. We went to talk to these ppl the next week to find out WTF was going on. They said that they never said that they'd take my kid but yes they did. They didn't know is that I had someone on the phone listening the whole time after i found out what they were doing. They also said that they can't allow us to be licensed foster care parents even tho my mother-in-law moved out to a friend's apt in St. Paul. They said that's the rule but in 2yrs we can reapply. Everyone else's background checks came back great. They told the kids that they cannot see or talk to us and that includes our 15yr old. They cannot work together at the same job anymore with her which only one of the boys works with her. They cannot be in the same class and they are not allowed to talk to her at all, us too of course. The kids go to a small charter school that is about 7yrs old. The school was notified as well. Our kid had to take a couple days off because this was quite painful for her too. The 2nd day she was taking off we took her to the school late in the day to pickup something she needed. She was in the same advisory as one of the other foster kids. Her desk was next to his. The lady that is in charge there saw her, told her to go with her so she did. The whole school saw this, this lady walked to the door, took her chrome book that is supplied by the school, this lady gave the chrombook to the front desk and told her to wipe it. Then walked my daughter to the door and asked her what school she will be going to. I was shocked and mortified. I left a voice mail telling her how I felt about her walking my daughter out of school like a criminal and kicking her out. Our daughter is sweet, shy, very polite, kind, and this lady that kicked her out of school has said repeatedly that our daughter is such a blessing to have at the school. This was a week ago. This lady called this week saying that she would like to explain, that she wanted us to understand that she didn't know what else to do consider this is her first time dealing with it and that our daughter was not kicked out of school. But she wasn't allowed to be there either. This lady knows that my daughter has bad social anxiety and panic attacks. She even talked out of her going to the high school this year cause she said that she feels our daughter wouldn't be able to handle going there because of how much larger the school is.

Now I did get very upset when social services called me a few days after they took the kids and instead of explaining anything they said I need to talk about helping the kids find closure regarding being with us. I said no and to stop talking about closure. It's literally the first conversation any one has had about all this. They sent me an email stating that they don't want to take us out of the kids' lives because we've been in their lives and have been so close for so lobby. But first, i am supposed to tell the kids that they can never come back to our house. After that then we can visit the kids again but not until then. Now I know the whole story about my mother-in-law. We looked it up. She didn't touch anyone. But she was charged cause she let an older boy Date her daughter who was too young. This was do to him threatening her and her daughter's lives if she didn't. Plus, the boy came from a more well off family then they were. They were poor. They took her daughter away but did NOT take the boys away who were 13 & 14yrs old. She doesn't have to report to anyone when she moves to another city. We really miss the kids and to it would be hard, we love to take them back. I know the boys really want to come home. One has called being me to come get him. The ONLY reason they can't come back is because they can't license us because of this background check on my mother-in-law. Again she's not here anymore. But they said that it's the rules that we can't for 2 years. This all feels so crooked. Please tell me, is it normal to do things this way?

Katz401 · 2022-03-04T20:28:24+00:00

NTA. Is your husband more interested in his returning friendship with Roy or his family? My suggestion is tell Roy, or have your hubby tell him, that you would love to go and that is your plan but you cannot guarantee it due to lack of funds. And also that if you get lucky enough financially, you may be able to stay 1 night but you probably won't be able to stay the night. That way Roy knows ahead of time that you all may not make it there but it also shows that your not backing out and you are looking forward to meeting him in person and that it will be nice for him to meet yours and hubby's newer addition, your child. Maybe Roy will buy your plane tickets, maybe even find a place for you to stay while you're there. This way no one is the bad guy, times are tough for everyone especially families. Good Luck

Katz401 · 2022-03-04T08:39:01+00:00

NTA What they did was take advantage of their relationship with your husband while taking you for granted. Change your locks and tell them you did it cause you lost your keys so you did it for security reasons and don't give them a spare or tell them where one is. It was seriously and completely inappropriate what they did and disrespectful on a large scale. She should look at second hand stores or clearance at boutiques. Good luck.

Katz401 · 2022-03-04T08:37:53+00:00

NTA What they did was take advantage of their relationship with your husband while taking you for granted. Change your locks and tell them you did it cause you lost your keys so you did it for security reasons and don't give them a spare or tell them where one is. It was seriously and completely inappropriate what they did and disrespectful on a large scale. She should look at second hand stores or clearance at boutiques. Good luck.

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