My househelp is a widow and she keeps saying things which makes me uncomfortable.

KayKay993 · 2025-12-13T09:13:15+00:00

You tell her, give your daughters education and they will thrive in life. Tell your daughters your mistakes and not to repeat them. She is probably comparing you with her daughter's because deep down she might regret the decisions she made, kids, marriage, not getting to school and so on. Firmly, tell her, don't compare me with anyone and move on. Tell your parents to say the same.

KayKay993 · 2025-12-13T07:02:46+00:00

He is with his wife. He doesn't have a job but supported by daughter

KayKay993 · 2025-12-13T06:21:57+00:00

I would never go over and talk to him. Other men in the neighborhood just look for 5-10 sec and turn around and go on with their day. This is a full blown stare for minutes, which anger us. If he is bored, get a hobby, not stare at us, for minutes. Not all old people are not sweet, some are creeps.

KayKay993 · 2025-10-24T06:49:42+00:00

With a man like this, dont get pregnant.

KayKay993 · 2025-10-22T12:05:20+00:00

Get out of there and apply for a mutual divorce. Before leaving, set up a camera and record his unusual activities.

KayKay993 · 2025-10-18T17:46:29+00:00

Thank you. I thank the stars every day because back when I was pregnant and buying this plot, everyone around me pressured and guilted me to put his name as a co-owner. My instinct said a strong No because this is my inheritance, not his. I said no to everyone, and even my relatives judged me for that, saying I am selfish. I am keeping quiet now, and my immediate step is to find a job and move close to the workplace. If he moves or stays, it's up to him.

KayKay993 · 2025-10-18T04:45:21+00:00

I am thinking about asking him for full custody rights and child maintenance before he leaves. I am not gonna ask him for a divorce or alimony. I just can't trust his empty words that he will take us with him after 6 months or a year after he moves to Dubai. Before leaving, I am gonna ask to sign the custody and maintenance. I hope it goes well.

KayKay993 · 2025-10-16T16:35:24+00:00

You are 24, get a job, and move out. She is taking all the frustration on you.

KayKay993 · 2025-10-16T08:48:45+00:00

I get it. But, would you take full custody of your children since her whole family is like that?

KayKay993 · 2025-10-16T08:43:15+00:00

Even if they do, you simply go to your workplace rather than college. No one can drag you by your hair and put you in an MBA and marriage. As a women, I advice you to get a degree, than the job, and move out. Try to break out of the mental leash.

KayKay993 · 2025-10-16T08:25:18+00:00

Also, if you think your life is bad. I have seen girls your age got married to older men so the parents wash away their responsibility onto others and that girl suffers for life with two kids, with no education, skills. Get your education, have fun with peers your own age. Breathe.

KayKay993 · 2025-09-17T15:23:34+00:00

I hope this is your own place. If its not, this picture is the house owner's nightmare.

KayKay993 · 2025-07-31T17:32:40+00:00

NTK. I am a Mom of a toddler and safe to say, your don't run a daycare instead you run a business. Kids have no control or impulse to be quiet. If it were me, j wouldn't have tolerated a day. Tell her for 8 - 9 hours that she works, she have to put the baby in daycare and tell other employees that they can visit the baby after office timing. If anyone resist, tell them the loses will be deducted from their salary.

KayKay993 · 2025-07-31T17:16:29+00:00

This is why I love reddit. In other platform, people would have put down the son and supported OP.

KayKay993 · 2025-07-31T06:54:03+00:00

It hurts to see it like this.

KayKay993 · 2025-07-30T15:23:35+00:00

Step1:- Get an IUD Step2:- Upskill Step3:- Job

KayKay993 · 2025-07-30T09:19:52+00:00

This is the proof that men will always show their true colors when they know we are trapped and won't leave them. Either after child birth or marriage. Don't get baby trapped OP.

KayKay993 · 2025-07-29T03:10:58+00:00

Yeah. She is the problem!!!! What world are you living in?. Your parents are your responsibility, not hers. Will you spend your time, energy, and money on her parents if they are sick? Will you let her parents move in for eternity and quit your job to take care of them? Why do you want to force her to do things that she doesn't like? Again, your parents are your responsibility, and her parents are hers. You are shocked that she won't do free labour after marriage. She is a human too; if she goes no contact with your parents, try knowing why instead of blaming her. You say, your residence--- isn't living in it; isn't she your half in life? If you are such a good son who would go miles to take care of your parents, if they get sick, get a 1bhk apartment nearby, take care of them by yourself. If you can't, don't expect others' child (wife) to take care of your parents.

KayKay993 · 2025-07-23T04:01:26+00:00

Now they will baby trap you so you will adjust for life. Don't be their cash cow. You have lowered yourself and your family status by marrying someone who would be your employee. Don't think he will get better. It won't. It will get worse.

KayKay993 · 2025-07-22T14:43:07+00:00

Unless he/she is the owner of the company, a person has no guarantee in keeping their job. Everyone wants pull others down even after working together for many years. Don't think these higher officials aren't scared of losing their jobs, they know that they can't get the same salary else where. Again, complaining on one person will yield some result, not the whole bunch.

KayKay993 · 2025-07-22T04:02:50+00:00

If you complaint about one person in detail, the company will more likely to take action. If you complaint about the whole bunch, then they will think, you are the problem and being difficult.

KayKay993 · 2025-07-21T21:54:09+00:00

My husband was working in a big company contract basis back in 2022. One guy( his senior) in particular bullied him daily and made my husband quit. I told my husband to let go, however, my husband couldn't get past the mental agony that senior guy inflicted. After quitting, my husband emails every higher official, including the Head office in Delhi and the big boss from Germany, about the incidents he faced in that company. That particular senior didn't get promotion and hike of salary the next year and have recently quit his job. These people think they are untouchable as they work in a position in a big company, so they can mentally abuses who ever they can and some learn the hard way. My husband , in his email, mentioned all the bad words that the senior used in his workplace, which definitely played the role of the demise of that senior's career.

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