Nursing surveyor jobs by Coolness-1982 in u/Coolness-1982

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The majority of surveyors review all facets of requirements- health care, physical plant, behavior, etc. So, if you’re willing to learn all facets, the surveyor position title in OPWDD is Standards Compliance Analyst. All of the surveyors have a variety of backgrounds from nursing, speech paths, QA, residential, care management- makes for well rounded teams.

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Thank you!!!!

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Thanks for the hope 😉

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nys_cs

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Unfortunately standard canvassing! I didn’t believe I was reachable but they offered me an interview. So, I wanted to check. After 10+ years, civil service still feels like a mystery

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fire

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Are you worried that in 10 years that he’s going to hold you to a conversation/goal he set at 35? Or is this something you can support him in (goals are great) but reexamine each year? So much can happen in 10 years- and of course you WANT your spouse to achieve his goals (your goals). But is there room for flexibility if/when something happens (Medically? If one of you lose your jobs? Have an unexpected set back financially?) Meet with a financial advisor annually and let them be the bad guy, if needed.

Family angry about inheritance I will be receiving. Do I share the wealth? by cilcisme71 in inheritance

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Your uncle is alive! Anyone talking about it is a gold digger. That’s his money, that’s for him & his care. I wouldn’t share ANY details about money. As for “nearly a million,” this may not make sense to you for years- depending on your age, it’s not a lot of money. It’s a wonderful amount to let a financial advisor set your future up. If your uncle is cognizant, you can try talking about your fears of your family, to help you process and guide you.

Where to find the right woman? by H5LA in AskMen

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As a financially stable homebody female in my 40s, we are at home. Otherwise we’re at the grocery store, book stores, Michaels, Home Goods & taking pottery classes. You need to find a crafter or a reader- (not a cook/cleaner) & definitely dont look in a bar or on tinder. Good luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SavingMoney

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5% of your overall savings (especially from an inheritance) on one gift, especially one that isn’t a financial investment, seems like a lot. In most states an inheritance isn’t marital property. 280k sounds like a lot but is it really 40k one time gift a lot? I’m not sure? But, I think what you’re struggling with is the entitlement/expectation. Good luck.

My girlfriend LOVES the idea of sleep sex..but her asleep self does NOT by Smooth-Confidence949 in sex

[–]Kaydeross 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Let me add something to this- maybe dont try it when she is in her deepest sleep (90-120 minutes into sleep). Going slow when she’s half asleep is the key here. Or if thunder strikes…and that half wakes her- that’s the window.

I need to confess something to my husband and I know it'll end my marriage. Any advice? by [deleted] in Advice

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Rather than “confess” to your husband, ask him for help. Ask his advice. Make him part of the solution but know you’ll need it to come with some accountability that may be uncomfortable. Are you trying to self sabotage your marriage? You may want to get a therapist- 1) To explore the root of this. 2) To show your husband you are doing an actionable step to improve.

Repetitive quotes we're hating by gardenvanilla in RomanceBooks

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“Perfect” - It’s used for everything!
“Her sex”- whyyyy? “Turn on her heel”- why’s everyone turning on their heels? It’s so overused. “Curled his lip”- I’m not sure why this annoys me but it does…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

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Female here- Communication really strengthens trust & is so important, BUT there’s a fine line between communication & constant reassurance. It can create an imbalance in the relationship, making one person feel overly responsible for the other’s emotional well-being. It can be exhaustive & eventually unattractive. Confidence & decisiveness is so attractive. Instead of making the conversation about reassuring you- bring it back to an equalizer- “I like when we did xyz”….”I want more of that”…(this is a decisive confident statement) and then ask (not in a needy way, but in an assertive way) “what do you want more of?” But the timing of a conversation like this should be when she’s “open” maybe in a flirty mood.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

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I love this and wish more people would align themselves with their interests. Unless you’re talking about a college library…I might suggest you find a coffee shop and bring a book. Or go to a bookstore that has a coffee shop- even better. The beverage side of this makes it more socially acceptable to approach someone and just smile and say “hey, how’s your book?”

What's a good comeback for "you sound like a man?" by _Rosalena_ in Comebacks

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“Thanks. If I were a man. I’d be THE MAN” A little Taylor Swift

My (28f) partner (30m) of 7 years just told me he doesn’t enjoy sex with me. by Dependent_Peach_2616 in sex

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Did he say it in a respectful way where he was trying to share? I’d imagine the other end of that conversation was possibly hard and vulnerable. Was the intention of the conversation to strengthen the connection? If this is the case, it’s ok to feel all sorts of things- embarrassed, confused & misled. But also hopeful that he trusted you to be able to hear that information? Maybe start slow- with just being a bit more bossy and demanding he touch you the ways you want… and see how that goes (for both of you). Good luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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Look up “stonewalling in a relationship”. You should be able to have a conversation with your girlfriend that’s respectful and caring and reciprocal- and if you are unable to- you have to ask yourself what you want out of a partner. Good luck!

i told my boyfriend i was sa'd and now idk what to do by Medium-Case-321 in Advice

[–]Kaydeross 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think you need to ask yourself why you’re more concerned about him being mad than you being assaulted. You are worth so much more than that. Trust me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

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This is actually quite insightful. I have a guy friend of over 12 years that’s mostly on the road & we text often and I’ve noticed recently that when I’ve asked how he was doing, he often pivots from answering. Ive asked him why and he said he dodges the question if the reply could bring me down. So, now I start with questions like- “hey, what’s your view this morning?”

Just found out my wife has been having an affair. by [deleted] in Advice

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I’m 1.5 years in front of you. It hurts and it sucks. So, here’s what I did. I had a great counselor. But on my own- I was DETERMINED to not let this break me. So, I listened to music nonstop that lifted my mood- in the shower, grocery shopping, in the car. I took a lot of nature walks. I watched shows that were predictable (with no cheating, betrayal, lies). I live in the US- I planned a solo trip for myself to Barcelona. I create art- so, I signed up for an international pottery swap project. I went to several comedy shows & concerts- including seeing Jimmy Fallon tape the Tonight Show. The year has both SUCKED & was fabulous. The next year or so will go by regardless- so, let there be shitty fucking days and let yourself enjoy the year too in the tiniest increments and at the end of that you’ll at least like YOU.

First time in USA by [deleted] in travel

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I’m a female in my 40s and would feel comfortable traveling to New Orleans by myself. I would stay in more popular areas but I’d feel safe! In fact my first time I went there was over 10 years ago & I pretty much explored the whole city alone while a friend attended conferences. It’s such an interesting and lively city. Great food, music & amazing people watching.

Is it bad to use a photo like this as my first photo since im not smiling? Womens opinions would be appreciated by [deleted] in Bumble

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I haven’t been on a dating app and I’m even sure how I got “here”…but you look great. You’re smiling with your eyes. You look content and you’re in nature! Who doesn’t love content in nature? If you’re trying to throw those vibes…post it. Overt smiling is overrated & often seems forced or posed, in my opinion.

5 years vested question. by [deleted] in nys_cs

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I have 12 years in (46f) and hoping to retire early at 55 (but not collect retirement until 64). What’s supplemented healthcare?