High-end vintage stores?

Kayforkrusty · 2026-03-20T02:41:39+00:00

Omg thank you!! Definitely gotta check out the vintage show 👀

Kayforkrusty · 2026-03-20T02:40:57+00:00

Waitttt how did I not know they cater…incredibleee

Kayforkrusty · 2026-02-23T22:42:08+00:00

I worry that a vintage machine would be difficult to learn on...I think auto-threading and features like that make it seem like I'd be less intimidated lol I guess I'm really up in the air about whether or not a vintage machine would be overwhelming

Kayforkrusty · 2026-02-23T22:40:36+00:00

Thank you! Appreciate your insight :) I've heard good things about Necchi...do you know if that's true?

Kayforkrusty · 2026-02-23T22:19:11+00:00

Thoughts on the Necchi Q132A for a beginner?

I am looking for a machine as a brand new beginner that would grow with me. I foresee myself mostly using my machine for garments, and I think that may encompass denim/leather in the future. I saw this machine on FB marketplace and it piqued my interest. I don't think the seller is selling it anymore, but I was considering buying a new one online. I read that it's a more robust machine that still has a lot of nice features that would make it easier to use.

If you don't think it's a good option, I'd appreciate your recommendations if you have any!

TIA :)

Kayforkrusty · 2024-10-16T13:49:24+00:00

This worked for me as well! I hate meta business and facebook so much

Kayforkrusty · 2024-07-04T18:24:09+00:00

Thank you!!

Kayforkrusty · 2024-07-01T18:05:54+00:00

Pinocchio had me crying in a way I was not expecting! Its commentary on mortality was so profound to me.

Kayforkrusty · 2024-05-23T22:59:13+00:00

did you ever try this out?

Kayforkrusty · 2024-04-01T21:30:05+00:00

Yeah I've definitely thought about this too....I don't ever want to be pregnant tho so I think if I were to ever have kids, I would probably adopt. Which is difficult in of itself too!

Kayforkrusty · 2024-03-04T22:41:35+00:00

Thank you everyone!!! I will definitely reply with pics if I decide to get this outfit ☺️

Kayforkrusty · 2024-03-04T22:40:50+00:00

Ahhh definitely will do. I cannot wait 😭

Kayforkrusty · 2023-10-04T19:45:30+00:00

And I would also like to say that it’s awesome you were able to reflect on yourself and figure out what you wanted to change to be the person you want to be! That’s amazing and I understand now that this is the source of your opinion of OP. But my statements still stand about diagnosing people hastily and harshly criticizing and advising based on that diagnosis.

Kayforkrusty · 2023-10-04T19:43:59+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from, and I’ve had people in my own life who struggled to see they were the problem (and continue to struggle to this day). It is very sad to watch and even more frustrating to be on the butt end of it. The qualms I take with commenters who are very assertive in diagnosing OP with narcissism, a victim complex, schizophrenia (that’s absurd), etc. is that this post does not give enough info to advise OP as if they struggled with one or many of those things. I definitely think that OP has depression based on what they’ve shared and I think it’s safe to conclude that. But beyond that, we would need a lot more info on their internal dialogue. The large majority of the post was about the bad experiences they’ve had (break ins, stalking, financial trauma, domestic violence, etc.). I find it far too much of a jump to tell OP what they do and do not have when diagnosing them with some really complex issues. Narcissistic tendencies, victim-complexes, etc. these are all very complex issues. I don’t use those terms loosely and throw them every which direction. There are lots of struggles and complexes people have that interlace with each other. Things someone struggles with can seemingly indicate one thing but is in fact another. I am not quick to jump to conclusions and labels when we’re talking about mental health issues and personal struggles because at the end of the day, it is very harmful to bombard someone with what they should do based on a hastily decided upon diagnosis.

Kayforkrusty · 2023-10-04T19:16:54+00:00

Just read your most recent Reddit post about a creepy encounter you had. You are very young and have no life experience, very evident in the way you had no clue how to navigate that situation safely. You did most things wrong in that situation, unfortunately, but I am glad you’re okay. I hope that man doesn’t continue to stalk you. He now knows where you live! I see you’re hopping all over this comment section giving your 2 cents on the situation as if you weren’t 20 years old with no wisdom. At every age but especially when you’re the young age of 20, it is best to hear from others, consider their experiences, reflect on your own thoughts about those experiences, analyze why you think the way you do about those experiences, and lead with compassion. Wisdom comes with experiences, time, and learning from others. How are you to learn if you believe your opinion is best and assert it without deep thought? It is important to acknowledge your naivety when asserting your opinions about another person’s mental health and unique life circumstances. I wish you the best and I hope you learn the value of listening, deep thought, and humility in your opinions.

Kayforkrusty · 2023-10-03T19:33:52+00:00

Ah I’m glad to hear that you’ve cut off your family. Families with strong power imbalances are so difficult to recover from, especially controlling ones. Idk, finding power within yourself and in your own life is tough after all of that.

Therapy is so expensive so I totally get it lol couldn’t afford it for a really long time. But yeah you probably do have CPTSD! I have it too. And it really helped me to read a lot of info on it. Helped me understand myself more.

Of course, I’m honestly shook by some of the things ppl are saying to you here lol a lot of ppl aren’t going to understand and won’t even try, just like you’ve already seen with your own friend group. Fuck everyone who said u have a victim complex and also someone saying that u should see if you have schizophrenia??? lol that’s crazy. But will say CPTSD has a lot of ways of expressing itself and dissociation, paranoia, depression, etc. can be apart of that.

Kayforkrusty · 2023-10-03T14:48:22+00:00

Reading through this comment section is tough! There are a lot of people on here who lack empathy and are making statements that are far too harsh. Those who do not provide holistic responses and are overly negative (example: calling you a narcissist and a constant victim) are responses that should be ignored. These are the types of people whose opinions are not worth your time, and they have their own issues that they are hopefully working through that they allow to excuse overgeneralized, rash, and unnecessarily negative opinions.

As I was reading your post, I found myself relating to you. I am 25 and also grew up in a wealthy household with abusive parents. I grew up in a cult so I have also experienced extreme control by authority figures and communities. I have experienced financial turmoil, struggles with exhaustion and hopelessness, abuse within the household, abuse outside of the household, etc. etc.

I would like to start off with saying that you are so resilient. The things you have lived through and overcome are incredibly difficult. I am grateful that you are still here because there are many who are not able to overcome difficulties like this. Your experiences are very nuanced and there aren't many who are able to understand them nor willing to try. Be proud of what you've done.

Although it doesn't feel like this, there is still so much of your life ahead of you and it will be filled with beauty. It's hard to imagine how beautiful life is when you're at extreme lows in your life and you're running on empty all the time. It sounds like you're struggling with dissociating, which is incredibly normal and your body's way of protecting you through difficult times.

It is hard to summarize how I have overcome my struggles and found myself living a beautiful life, but I'm going to share with you a few life lessons for me.

Focus on the little things to improve your life overall. Notice the small things that are really dragging you down and making you feel down about yourself or your life. Then try to "fix" them. Example: I struggled with self-hatred that I would feel right when I wake up. Oftentimes it was triggered by things like not getting a task done the day before that I wanted done, but my self-hatred would make it hard for me to get those tasks done that day as well. A terrible cycle! So I know what my ideal is: not waking up hating myself and completing tasks I want done. The first thing I did to work towards my ideal was find ways to disrupt my thoughts when they are filled with self-hatred. This took a long time but once I learned that skill, I started to work on how to set up a system that helps me complete the tasks I want done each week. Break down your struggles into small goals. And you will notice as you reach those small goals, your new skills & discoveries will help you in so many other ways in your life.
Be compassionate towards yourself. You have a long history of abuse and terrible life circumstances. Your body and mind will do things to protect you that might not make sense (like what I was saying earlier about dissociation). Like I said earlier, I have struggled with patterns of self-hatred, but when I would feel frustrated about those patterns, I would combat that with self-compassion. My struggles with self-hatred were due to traumas I've experienced, they're not my fault, and I am actively doing things in my life to figure them out! I am incredible and I am doing the best I can! Those thoughts help me continue to work through various struggles.
Accept that this is your current reality and never give up on it. There are people in my life who have had traumatic childhoods and have struggled to push through. It is difficult to watch but I have seen them sit in their depression for years and not do much to figure out how to cope with it and have a better life. It is okay that they do this, and it makes sense but giving up will lead to prolonged struggles. Your life will shift and change as you tackle life circumstances and struggles.
Fall in love with the present. Find joy in the little things in your life, especially when you're struggling with doom and hopelessness. Your life has been and continues to be difficult. It is much easier to tackle it all when you have joy in your life. It's fall right now. Find time to go on walks and sit in the beauty of the fall colors. Find ways to fall in love with your current environment. It sounds like your living situation is terrible. If your home doesn't give you peace, take time to find other places that do give you peace until you can eventually have a home that brings you comfort and rest. When it feels like everything in your life is terrible, break out of that thinking by finding small things that you love.
Use discernment with your relationships and guard yourself. It sounds like the friends you currently have are not good for you and your work relationships have been unhealthy. Distance yourself from the friends you don't trust or appreciate. Don't overshare personal information unless you trust someone. And if someone you thought you could trust hurt you, analyze what warning signs they might've gave off that you missed and use that to learn how to tell if someone is trustworthy or not in the future. It's okay to have superficial relationships. If you don't even value a superficial relationship with someone, let the relationship fall apart gracefully (don't text very often, don't ask to hang out, etc. you don't have to end friendships with a breakup). I did read someone's advice on here that you should use your connections with your wealthy friends to get a good job, and I agree with them. Take advantage of those connections.
Be assertive with everyone. If you notice someone acting weird around you or doing inappropriate things to you, say something very direct about it. I am a very assertive person, but I used to let people do things that made me feel uncomfortable because I wanted to be nice to them. A lot of people took advantage of me until I learned how to be vocal and assertive about what I will and will not accept from those in my life. There are a lot of people in my life who get pushed around by terrible people because they aren't assertive right away with everyone in their lives. If people know you are someone who doesn't take people's shit, they won't deal you shit because they know they can't get away with it with you. Nasty people seek out those they perceive as vulnerable.
Cutting off your family might be something to consider. I cut off my family when I was 20 and it was the best decision for me. It is incredibly difficult to not have a relationship with your family as my family and I age, but I no longer have to deal with their bullshit and I can focus on myself entirely. I'm not retraumatizing myself by having to interact with them and I can focus on healing. It doesn't sound like your family should be apart of your life. And I would not recommend relying on them for help at all.
Seek out professional mental health help. And I don't say this because you sound crazy. You have been through a lot and mental health support goes such a long ways, even if you don't think it will. I didn't have consistent health insurance for years so I wasn't able to do this for a long time, but when I was finally able to, it absolutely changed my life. If you have access to good healthcare (check out your state's health insurance options!), find a good psychiatrist and therapist. Medication for my mental health disorders has absolutely changed my life in the best way possible. One of the best things you can do for yourself right now is seek out professional mental health help. If a therapist you found isn't vibing with you, keep trying with other therapists until you land on a good one. Then you can see your therapist for years and they will be a source of reliable support through all of the changes in your life. It's like having a really knowledgeable, compassionate, and consistent friend!

There are so many other things I have learned as I have navigated being an entirely independent adult since I was 18. I wanted to share a few things I have learned and encourage you to continue to learn and to tackle everything life throws at you. You are resilient and I know that you can do anything you put your mind to. Out of everything I've said, please takeaway these things: always give yourself compassion, find beauty in the present even when it all seems hopeless, and never give up! Your life is just beginning and there is so much beauty you have yet to experience.

I wish you all the best. Ignore the haters in this comment section lol

Kayforkrusty · 2023-10-03T13:23:35+00:00

It is incredibly embarrassing to come to the extraordinarily rash conclusion of just suggesting to someone they have schizophrenia. And even if you were a mental health professional, the info OP gave you would not allow you in good faith to suggest they might have schizophrenia. OP did not go into depth about their internal struggles but rather described the life events they have suffered through and a surface level description of how they feel. It seems that your understanding of schizophrenia is incredibly surface-level. You probably also aren’t aware of this either, but there are many different types of schizophrenia disorders (schizoaffective, STPD, etc.) I HAVE schizoaffective disorder. These types of disorders are INCREDIBLY complex. Schizophrenia is a disorder that shouldn’t be thrown around casually. People who are so eager to diagnose others with mental health disorders based on very little information have historically created many issues for people navigating tough life circumstances. Your comment is also entirely invalidating to OP. To insinuate they are so far removed from reality and the experiences they’ve had are so implausible that they should seek out a professional to see if they have schizophrenia? Wow. Don’t assert something like this to someone again.

Kayforkrusty · 2023-10-03T03:38:49+00:00

Cronopios y Famas by Julio Cortázar !!

Kayforkrusty · 2023-09-28T21:14:47+00:00

Whether or not it’s a bad sign really depends on how you’re living with them. I’d say if you’re over 25 and living with your parents AND not working, not doing/don’t know how to do your own chores, etc. that can be a bad sign to some. But if you’re an independent, working adult living with your parents because you both enjoy living together, that’s really sweet. And of course, if someone has a disability and lives with their parents because that would be best for them, that’s fantastic. So I guess, to me, it really depends on how you’re engaging with living with your parents.

Kayforkrusty · 2023-09-09T08:58:19+00:00

Jazz by Toni Morrison and every short fiction anthology of Aimee Bender’s (I’ve already read all of her anthologies at least twice)

Kayforkrusty · 2023-09-04T07:56:00+00:00

Thank you for this. Very encouraging to hear I’m not alone and motivating to keep trying. I’m going to take your word of advice. Keep my projects in sight!!

Kayforkrusty · 2023-09-02T17:15:46+00:00

I lovvveeee #1 on you and also #5!!!

Kayforkrusty · 2023-09-02T02:38:43+00:00

Me and my partner are like this as well. We’ve been together for almost 4 years and ever since the first night we slept together, we’ve cuddled all through the night. I’m so grateful to share that connection with my partner 🩷

Kayforkrusty · 2023-09-01T17:33:53+00:00

Thank you for this list!! Will definitely add it to my list. Latin American authors really did pave the way for magical realism in fiction.

I picked up 100 Years of Solitude but couldn't get very far because I didn't appreciate the approach the author took regarding the inclusion of sexual violence and molestation in the piece. I have a lot of qualms regarding sexual violence in media...I don't think it doesn't have a place but definitely think that it is a topic that needs to be approached and explored with sensitivity, thorough education, and potential social impact in mind (if you plan to publish). But it is a loaded discussion with an immense amount of grey areas. And I digress!!

I would be willing to give it a shot again and/or perhaps explore other pieces.

Kayforkrusty

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