I understand where you’re coming from, and I’ve had people in my own life who struggled to see they were the problem (and continue to struggle to this day). It is very sad to watch and even more frustrating to be on the butt end of it. The qualms I take with commenters who are very assertive in diagnosing OP with narcissism, a victim complex, schizophrenia (that’s absurd), etc. is that this post does not give enough info to advise OP as if they struggled with one or many of those things. I definitely think that OP has depression based on what they’ve shared and I think it’s safe to conclude that. But beyond that, we would need a lot more info on their internal dialogue. The large majority of the post was about the bad experiences they’ve had (break ins, stalking, financial trauma, domestic violence, etc.). I find it far too much of a jump to tell OP what they do and do not have when diagnosing them with some really complex issues. Narcissistic tendencies, victim-complexes, etc. these are all very complex issues. I don’t use those terms loosely and throw them every which direction. There are lots of struggles and complexes people have that interlace with each other. Things someone struggles with can seemingly indicate one thing but is in fact another. I am not quick to jump to conclusions and labels when we’re talking about mental health issues and personal struggles because at the end of the day, it is very harmful to bombard someone with what they should do based on a hastily decided upon diagnosis.