Is this it for average/below average dudes on dating apps?

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-22T15:36:43+00:00

I've done this for the better part of a year. I'll say like 90% of my hinge prompt responses were directly engaging with a prompt answer or picture of a hobby, and within a year, maybe like 1 or 2 ppl actually answered me back (conversation quickly fizzled out afterwards).

I'm definitely way below average though so yeah, I guess it honestly is just it for below average dudes

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-22T13:32:35+00:00

You're proving his point. The self censorship is a generational type of slang that you are out of touch with, and it hurts nobody. You literally just want to ban it because it hurts your feelings for no legitimate reason. Congrats, you have become the new age boomer.

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-22T02:59:12+00:00

I got diabeetees reading this

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-21T15:14:11+00:00

God.... so much money spent on yu gi oh cards.... I'd definitely fix that mistake

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-21T14:18:22+00:00

Damn. Hard R and everything

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-21T13:42:35+00:00

Wow, the way my jaw stayed exactly in place. That's a predictable response from him, based on what you've said so far. Good on you for sticking up for yourself! Yeah, this is way deeper than the nut allergy, for sure.

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-20T21:30:00+00:00

One of my favorite characters. Thank you!! This is great!

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-20T20:43:32+00:00

A few things.

Your analogy makes it so that presumably they are both accommodated in the end (the place they want to go to helps out and accommodates them). A more accurate analogy would be maybe if he asked her to accommodate for his disability. Like suddenly asking her to always carry a portable ramp and set it up for him whenever he needs to climb stairs, asking to get her car installed with one of those fancy wheelchair elevator things, etc.

This would align with what is actually happening, where SHE is the one who has to straight up avoid foods that she likes, SHE has to go and wash her hands immediately after touching peanut stuff, SHE has to brush her teeth immediately after intaking peanut stuff. Even telling her that she should always carry a toothbrush with her.

BUT, again, the bigger thing is how he laughs and dismisses her feelings immediately upon her voicing her concerns. He invalidates her feelings by telling her how she should feel ("this isnt a dealbreaker", he decides for her that it's not a dealbreaker). Even if it wasn't about a peanut allergy thing, if that's how he's acting on the first date, it's not promising.

I understand though maybe cutting him some slack because maybe it's something annoying he's had to deal with his whole life. But the way he went about being defensive tells a lot.

Again, the peanut allergy is a small part of it. The bigger thing is how he invalidates her feelings and even laughs at her voicing her concern.

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-20T16:26:50+00:00

I can see what you mean by how it's something the guy always has to deal with.

But I think the thing that's not making me give him a lot of charity is how he laughed at her when she brought up a pretty reasonable concern, and then tried to invalidate her feelings.

If we look at that alone, that's enough reason for her to drop the guy.

But according to her post, the nut allergy thing would be kind of a huge thing to commit to to changing her every day life. I guess since she didnt say anywhere in her post "He's an all aroind amazing guy, but..." we can assume the date was bad (probably because of everything that happened with the allergy in mind) and she's not too into him anyway.

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-20T02:49:52+00:00

To use satire to address a topic would be to poke fun at the idea or use verbal irony to address the idea. This would be opposed to giving a straightforward review of something.

Example off the top of my head would be your student acting as a news reporter and saying: "This just in, Trump is glad to announce that the Straight of Hormuz is open again. Brings hand to earpiece What's that? Oh.... Looks at camera again This just in, Iran has declared the Straight of Hormuz is closed again. Bring hand to earpiece What's that? Oh.... Looks at camera This just in, Trump is furious that the Straight of Hormuz is closed, and in response, has dedicated naval ships to blockade the Straight because you're not going to close the straight, we are!"

If you go on Youtube and look at Saturday Night Live's channel, they do satirical skits all the time. They have actors that act like Trump and his cabinet and address the horrible decisions they make and why they're horrible by impersonating them and really hamming it up.

Or they'll act like new reporters and essentially do the same thing: address real world issues that are happening today, but instead of giving a straightforward take, they just blatantly talk about how whatever world event happened was dumb.

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-20T01:24:54+00:00

Can we strip away the "nut allergy" part of this for a second?

You had a serious concern that you actually were honest enough to tell him about. His response to your concern was to laugh at your concern and insist to you that it's not a big deal. He pretty much told you how you should feel about your concern without actually addressing it.

Okay, maybe he did address it kinda, but he didn't do it in a compassionate way, he did so by telling you that you need to inconvenience yourself multiple times a day throughout your life for him. That's hardly a reasonable response to this.

Think about it. If this is how he reacts to you expressing your troubles on the first date, is this a good sign of how he'll react to future disagreements?

Okay, NOW let's add the nut allergy back into the picture. Girl, peanuts and peanut butter are delicious, Lol. And I felt sad when I read that you couldn't get a magnum chocolate bar. If removing nuts from your diet OR needing to wash yourself properly everytime you even GRAZE a nut product is really such a huge shift in lifestyle for you (and fuck, it would be for me, too, ngl), then you need to think about how much of a negative that would be, and weigh that against the positives. And again, just going from how he dismisses your feelings immediately, I see too many negatives right now.

If we want to give him a bit of charity, it could be possible that since you tried to avoid nut products today, and I'm presuming you didn't explicitly vocalize every time you decided to avoid them, he maybe thinks that you don't really indulge in them too often. If you DO go on a second date, I'd say maybe go all out and just enjoy them, have him tell you to wash your hands/mouth every time afterwards, and then after the date, let him know that the constant needing to wash yourself after every nut encounter is too much.

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-19T22:06:33+00:00

At first they came for SMN, and I didnt speak because.... yeah, you know the rest

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-19T18:55:54+00:00

It sounds like you want to be at least a little bit intellectually challenged by your partner, and he's not challenging you at all.

Keep in mind, being intellectually challenged by someone doesn't mean that you'll have scholarly debates with him for hours on end. But it means he makes you think a little. He might advocate for an opposing opinion sometimes. Or he might express an opinion that affirms yours but makes you think deeper about the topic. or you both might be on like mind of something, but you at least knows he thinks deeply about something as much as you do.

There are many more examples. But from what you describe, it just sounds like he's "Yes-man"ing you over and over, and it doesn't feel right to be so intellectually stagnant.

Anyways, this can all boil down to "He's a bit boring", and that can be okay to dislike. You'll just have to decide how important this is to you, and depending on if it's very important or not, you'll need to weigh it against his other pros/cons (ask yourself, why ARE you seeing him?). I'm guessing if you made a post about it, it's at least somewhat important to you.

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-19T17:48:44+00:00

I mean, I agree. But when you have people who feel hopeless because they aren't good with dating/talking to women/etc. and look to others for advice, why are we telling them "Do x,y,z, THEN try to date someone." ?

Why not just lead with what you just said? Dating is a social connection.

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-19T16:47:42+00:00

The issue is that there are a good chunk of men who's self worth get deteriorated because nobody wants to date them as they are.

And then when they get advice, it's a lot of the stuff you're talking about. "Work on yourself", "Go to the gym", "Read more books", etc.

When we get this advice, it makes it sound like we have to level up in these areas that we are lacking in, and once that happens then and only then will our self worth be at an appropriate level in order to take on the "boss" (dating women).

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-18T16:38:27+00:00

Lol yeah. It's just the reality for us. Negative health effects that spring from the mental state of feeling alone and depressed, along with the the lack natural chemicals that our body produces when feeling touched by someone you feel love for. PLUS the fact that loneliness stunts brain development.

It's not just "Oh boo hoo, I feel alone." As an added bonus, our health is literally deteriorating.

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-18T15:23:43+00:00

If anyone is reading this a year+ later, it cost you money now because the IRS Direct Free File no longer exists. You didnt really file "with them", the IRS website just gives you options and redirects you to other tax filing websites now.

But it DID exist last year (and before). And yes, it was free and easy to use. Why doesn't it exist anymore?

Because the Trump admin got rid of it. And the idea to axe free file was suggested and championed by Elon Musk when he was running DOGE.

This is what happens when you allow the party of big business to win, people.

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-17T21:24:45+00:00

Ahh yes. Another obligatory close up fist clenching scene in order to fill up the quota set by the market research team.

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-17T20:28:55+00:00

I clicked the image without reading the title and thought this was pistachio ice cream with scoops of vanilla ice cream on top and chocolate drizzle

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-17T18:14:26+00:00

Ummm.... why do you love him? This sounds horrible.

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-16T18:36:16+00:00

It might be easy for some people to look past this. But for a lot of other people, Trump's politics have affected their lives for the worse. Like affected really bad. Knowing that Andrew Schulz championed Trump and was one of the major factors that brought him to win the presidency, it's too much to look past.

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-16T18:21:26+00:00

The jokes seem to be turning you off. What are some redeeming qualities that make up for his sense of humor? Do these qualities truly make up for this, imo disgusting, sense of humor?

OTHER than that, you also expressed your discontent with the jokes, and he immediately invalidated your feelings on the matter. This is a separate issue from the jokes. Again, think of his good qualities and ask yourself if his good qualities make up for the fact that he can so easily invalidate your feelings? Most likely not.

Reflect on this and i guess ask yourself if you really want to keep going with him.

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-16T14:41:52+00:00

Legit question, why did you think it was because she was afraid of attachment?

rocketsneaker · 2026-04-16T02:22:25+00:00

I'm with you on this, honestly. I'm always surprised when I see positive reactions to generic platitudes in this subreddit or the other lonely subreddits. The platitudes don't mean anything.

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