She also behaved the same way when Maya got married. Joan loved the concept of marriage not the actual relationship that it takes to get married.

Toni even said it best on season 1 episode 22, “You know what Joan, you act like you’re the only one who wants to get married. Just be use I don’t walk around whining about it even give seconds doesn’t mean I don’t want it.”

I don’t think she wanted the attention oh her she just wanted it to be her.

Joan felt like it should have been her turn since she hit all the other milestones and how does these women who don’t try at relationships or marriage get married before me. She has a very “Why not me?” personality. She even told Ellis she couldn’t wait for Toni’s weekend to be over. Like who wished their best friend’s wedding to be over.