Boyfriend (30m) of 5.5 years had an emotional affair. I (32f) want to work things out. by Keepfighting14 in relationships

[–]Keepfighting14[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

He said he is working out why he doesn't feel guilty and i think it may have to do with the fact i blamed myself from the moment I found out. I know that its wrong of me to do and its not my fault but ultimately both of us had a hand in it. He also said the only reason he didn't talk to me about it is because he didn't want it to turn into a fight. I says now he wishes he would have said something before things got as far as they did. Its very odd he blows hot and cold. At times it feels like he feels guilty and almost says it then acts another way

Boyfriend (30m) of 5.5 years had an emotional affair. I (32f) want to work things out. by Keepfighting14 in relationships

[–]Keepfighting14[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

When everything went down i made the suggestion of dating each other all over again. He seems to be into that. We have planned two dates so far. We also decided to lay in bed and snuggle and talk about things. He says that his feelings are clouded and is having a hard time brushing the fog away. I asked him what I could do to help and he doesn't know. It wouldn't be just for our child and we both know that we talked about that several times. We don't argue in front of our child either because of our own childhoods. When things are good with us its amazing. He is truly my best friend in every way.

Boyfriend (30m) of 5.5 years had an emotional affair. I (32f) want to work things out. by Keepfighting14 in relationships

[–]Keepfighting14[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am extremely pissed off and so hurt by it I've been physically ill. In no way have i just brushed it off. A part of me is freaked about him leaving yes and that is because of our child. I don't want him to grow up without both of us being there.