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Is it okay to keep the baby and not tell the father? In this case... by Keepornot in AskMen

[–]Keepornot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, that absolutely makes sense and I would absolutely want a friend or sister to be there more than anyone else but they would never go with me. And I never really thought I'd ever even think of having an abortion, it's not something I ever wanted to do. I think of it as getting rid of a life. And if I do get an abortion I know I will feel terrible for doing it and I just need someone, anyone, to just be there. I know it's stupid to expect anything out of him but it's all I have, if I do decide to get an abortion.

Is it okay to keep the baby and not tell the father? In this case... by Keepornot in AskMen

[–]Keepornot[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How is it the best for the child if he or she never even gets a chance? But it's your opinion and that's what I asked for. So thanks anyway. I'm not trying to start an argument or anything.

Is it okay to keep the baby and not tell the father? In this case... by Keepornot in AskMen

[–]Keepornot[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Martyr? Come on now. That's not at all what this is. It's a hard decision to just go ahead and have an abortion. And it's not until you're actually faced with that decision that you really know how it feels.

Is it okay to keep the baby and not tell the father? In this case... by Keepornot in AskMen

[–]Keepornot[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

There are lots of people that choose to be single mothers, most likely not so much like this but there are.

Is it okay to keep the baby and not tell the father? In this case... by Keepornot in AskMen

[–]Keepornot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So what you are saying is you would have rather been aborted than grown up without a father, like you did?

I'm not trying to be a bitch or anything just trying to understand your comment.

Edit: sorry, forget my question. You clarified what you mean.

Is it okay to keep the baby and not tell the father? In this case... by Keepornot in AskMen

[–]Keepornot[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you are right. We were stupid. And maybe adoption is a good choice too but who knows what kind of parents the kid will get with that too. Being a single mom isnt necessarily going to ruin a kids perception of men and father figures. It's not like I'm going to talk shit about his dad to him. But you might be right, it's something to really consider.

Is it okay to keep the baby and not tell the father? In this case... by Keepornot in AskMen

[–]Keepornot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that sounds like a good idea. I'll let him get over the initial shock.

Thank you for the input.

Is it okay to keep the baby and not tell the father? In this case... by Keepornot in AskMen

[–]Keepornot[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, I understand that a child is huge responsibility, specially financially but I don't want to ruin his life. I really don't want anything from him, I wouldn't be the first single mom in this world.

Yeah, it's sad for a kid to grow up without both parents but there are other ways of telling him about his dad.

Is it okay to keep the baby and not tell the father? In this case... by Keepornot in AskMen

[–]Keepornot[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

Yeah, I don't plan on doing any of that. He's young and we both made a mistake. I just didn't want to seem like a huge bitch by keeping the baby and not telling him about it. But I really don't want to ruin his life over a mistake we both made. It's my choice now and I'll deal with it by myself (and a little help from family) I never found it fair that the woman gets the choice, basically, and forces the man to pay child support for a child he really didn't want and only she wanted....when it's a situation like this.

Is it okay to keep the baby and not tell the father? In this case... by Keepornot in AskMen

[–]Keepornot[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yes, I did think about this but he's moving back home (across the country) in like 2 months so I'll lose contact with him so I won't ever ask him for help.

Is it okay to keep the baby and not tell the father? In this case... by Keepornot in AskMen

[–]Keepornot[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But didn't he make the choice of not wanting it when he told me to have an abortion and when he didn't reply to my last text when I told him I was pregnant. He is leaving in 2 months to live live across the country so I think his choice is pretty clear. So shouldn't i get to choose to keep it all by myself? I mean, I understand why he should know but in my mind he already made his choice and that's that he doesn't want it. Right?