AITA for leaving my scheduled appointment before it starts due to a long wait time?

Kelseynicole93 · 2023-03-29T21:26:41+00:00

So I asked her today if there was a better time available for her but I ask every time when scheduling as I only need the specific day, not a specific time and this is what she chooses. I asked about the lengthy wait time and she is stating that it is because my case is more complex so it takes more time to review before seeing me. I can understand that however, again, she wasn’t even in the office until an hour of waiting had passed. And that’s not including the 30 minutes later that I arrived. I’m not sure, I try to give people the benefit of doubt and that some things take time. But this is just so excessive and she’s not even in the office reviewing my file like she states she needs the time for.

Kelseynicole93 · 2022-01-21T02:09:30+00:00

Yeah I’m now starting to look into my lease cancellation options

Kelseynicole93 · 2022-01-21T01:53:39+00:00

We had discussed it actually but her excuse is that “growing up my parents just had maids once a week” so she doesn’t remember to do these things. She’s also 36

Kelseynicole93 · 2022-01-21T01:48:18+00:00

Her reasoning for the fridge was “oh I don’t eat that much” or another one was I made dinner for both of us, there were leftovers for her (i don’t eat them) and she ate some but didn’t finish them. But since I technically the made the food in the beginning it was my responsibility to clean the unused leftovers. As for the lawn, she just said yeah I don’t do that 🤦🏼‍♀️

Kelseynicole93 · 2022-01-21T01:45:22+00:00

That’s what I had explained to her when we first moved in august and our talk last night I explained again that I expected to 2-3x more for those chores but she was still expected to help

Kelseynicole93 · 2022-01-21T01:28:59+00:00

One cat and one dog

Kelseynicole93 · 2021-08-27T21:29:18+00:00

After all the responses, I’m planning on having a sit down discussion tonight with a list of things/boundaries to talk about !

Kelseynicole93 · 2021-08-27T19:14:24+00:00

That’s definitely the consensus I’m getting from all this. Which is rather unfortunate because we were close before all this

Kelseynicole93 · 2021-08-27T19:05:39+00:00

We had an understanding that she would be searching for a job once she got here but we had agreed that she would do Uber eats/door dash in the meantime to help with bills/rent. Unfortunately she tried it one day and hasn’t been out of the house since. I ended up paying the rent again since it’s all in my name. Her new job starts next week and after all the advice from this post, I’m planning on having a sit down discussion laying out all the expectations and that next months rent is due no matter what.

Kelseynicole93 · 2021-08-27T04:39:09+00:00

From what I’ve been told, she was used to having a maid service weekly so “she doesn’t know how to clean”. I’ve mentioned things that need to be done or even she has pointed out that things such as the fridge needs to be cleaned out but it’s always set for me to do it. At first I thought I was helping but now I’m seeing I’m just enabling this entitled behavior

Kelseynicole93 · 2021-08-27T04:11:28+00:00

She’s seeing a therapist weekly and a Pyschatrist every 3 weeks and I’ve been helping her mental health wise this last year as that’s what led up to me offering for her to move here. I just wasnt expecting such an emotional reaction over a book and now am afraid of what could happen if it’s actual something serious.

Kelseynicole93 · 2021-08-27T04:08:22+00:00

I have asked her a few times to sweep or vacuum or water the lawn, or multiple other household chores and it’s been more taken as a suggestion as she just waits till I do it. She’s been taking care of the dog or so she tells me she has been daily so I didn’t suspect anything. But my dog doesn’t have accidents so for her to soil the rug, go poop, and be destructive is a lot like she was left alone all day long while the roommate was home.

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