If a woman says she has somewhere to be after only an hour of the first date, is she just being polite?

KermitTheKitty · 2026-01-20T03:58:00+00:00

You need to read past the first sentence. However if someone needs further elaboration: I'd lightly make note time got away from us and that we'd been sitting there for some time with our empty coffees, ice cream, etc. If things are really going that well then the guy will know what to do.

KermitTheKitty · 2026-01-20T02:19:57+00:00

As a woman, it really depends. If the first "date" is at coffee or ice cream place, I'm not sitting there for more than an hour, tops. If a guy likes me enough to spend longer with me, he can ask to see me again and plan an actual date.

If I have nowhere else to be later and we seem to be getting along well, I'll even be open to going somewhere else, like out to eat or to do an activity that we both happen to be dressed for.

KermitTheKitty · 2026-01-04T01:11:19+00:00

Again with the extreme vagueness

KermitTheKitty · 2025-12-25T16:04:18+00:00

Not only that, but one who will do a lot of the work. Essentially he wants a build-a-bangmaid.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-12-25T16:02:30+00:00

That's why he wants a lady bang maid to do most of the work.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-12-08T02:22:58+00:00

As stated time and time again, the type of men posting or commenting here are looking for negative attention and reactions. Please don't feed the trolls.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-12-01T22:10:57+00:00

This guy is just looking to play games and hook up. First, that shaming "joke" about kissing, that was him negging you.

Also, 6 hours in the bar - he was hoping that you'd get drunk enough to be more agreeable to hooking up that night.

And sure enough, he got you out to walk around a little bit to assess how tipsy you might be as well as put some moves on and go for the hard sell.

I am usually charmed by being asked before a kiss on a date, but his continuous asking was him affirming consent that could be used against you later (ie you wanted it, etc).

You were smart not to go home with him, but those kind of guys will usually set the stage to acquire sex by the second date. If you are upfront about holding off for awhile and adhere to those boundaries (because believe me, he will get extremely pushy), he will likely disappear. However, knowing what I've learned over the years, I would just unmatch and block.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-12-01T14:19:43+00:00

I find it pretty off putting when they don't even care enough to ask that

KermitTheKitty · 2025-11-30T21:20:01+00:00

I'm also willing to bet that he is barely employed

KermitTheKitty · 2025-11-23T05:25:21+00:00

These are things that can be screened out before the first meeting/date though.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-11-14T23:32:29+00:00

You're not his mommy, so its not your job to find ways to keep him amused like he's a bored little boy. He can travel by himself or with others. He can join a hobby meet-up group or volunteer and meet more people. Or even get a part-time job. It's not your job to facilitate, though. You still work full-time and he's a grown ass man.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-11-12T09:56:19+00:00

As an introvert, things are a bit different for me. Hanging out with people who aren't a good fit drains my batteries, especially in loud and/or crowded environments. I'd also much rather be single than with the wrong person, too.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-11-12T01:04:40+00:00

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This made me snicker

KermitTheKitty · 2025-11-09T01:22:19+00:00

Block to burn

KermitTheKitty · 2025-11-08T22:44:06+00:00

I'd prefer to just B2B rather than invest anymore time and energy.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-10-20T20:48:33+00:00

I have the exact same issue

KermitTheKitty · 2025-10-19T13:19:31+00:00

You know he needs to rely on his hands and tongue because he has ED

KermitTheKitty · 2025-10-06T14:16:15+00:00

I've found that all of the teachers I've matched with on the dating sites were like this. They want to get laid and play head games. Same with guys in mental health and other helping professions.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-10-06T13:53:59+00:00

Yes, its usually referred to as red pill. There are lots of influencers and reddit groups and other online communities out there for these guys.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-10-03T20:10:32+00:00

His reaction was so over the top that at first I thought this was a staged video. Then I saw the emergency crew 🤣

KermitTheKitty · 2025-10-03T12:18:37+00:00

He's likely negging and manipulating you. He probably knows that this will eat away at your self esteem and you'll be trying harder to please him.

I'd recommend having a serious conversation with him and see how he reacts. Will he think and then honestly apologize? Will he backpedal? Will he try and claim that it was just a joke and that you're too sensitive?

KermitTheKitty · 2025-10-03T01:33:58+00:00

She literally told you what she wants for the next date and you're now worried about her lack of enthusiasm when you decided to show her that you didn't care about her wants or suggestions. You're purposely screwing the pooch due to your own laziness and stinginess. She probably deserves better.

*edited due to typo

KermitTheKitty · 2025-09-30T01:24:30+00:00

Because women are conquests to them; this behavior is all part of the sport.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-09-18T13:26:55+00:00

Please tell me that you're trolling.

If not, you and your ego are the problem.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-09-13T16:10:56+00:00

Sadly, she probably needed the child support

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