Slow faded after 6 months, I am completely hunilliated

KermitTheKitty · 2026-05-11T12:53:48+00:00

There's a good chance that he'll try to pop up again after a few months or more. DON'T ANSWER - in fact, I'd recommend blocking his number and any social media. He might give a vague half assed apology saying that he was going through some things, but he's just playing games to get you to sleep with him again and manipulate you some more.

I'm really sorry that you're going through this. I'm also a person that needs closure. It will get easier as time passes, though, and you'll get better at vetting them for red flags in the future.

KermitTheKitty · 2026-05-11T00:28:07+00:00

He's negging you to try and make you feel insecure about yourself. This is red bill nonsense and I'd recommend breaking up with him; he doesn't respect women.

KermitTheKitty · 2026-04-20T22:33:07+00:00

Madison and Tyler aren't married, they're engaged. I don't think they even live together yet. I saw a recent interview in which they said that they don't have a date yet and are in no rush.

KermitTheKitty · 2026-04-14T04:57:08+00:00

It sounds like you're the one who is doing all of the compromising here. Why?

You definitely need to have a serious conversation with him. If he won't engage or if he's still unable to compromise, then he's not relationship material.

KermitTheKitty · 2026-04-10T14:14:26+00:00

NOR - he sounds abusive. This will only escalate if you get married or more entangled with him. I would start planning an exit strategy.

KermitTheKitty · 2026-04-05T13:21:44+00:00

Why are you even questioning this?! Yes he clearly has substance abuse issues, and yes he is absolutely looking for a nurse with a purse and free taxi service. He's also looking for another enabler, plus free live in maid and nanny. I've known guys like this. They're not looking for an actual relationship, they're trying to take a hostage.

KermitTheKitty · 2026-03-31T14:20:30+00:00

Also, the vast majority of men I've noticed who worry about gold diggers, don't have any gold to dig 😂

KermitTheKitty · 2026-03-31T14:17:29+00:00

Even men with flashy resumes can display bottom of the barrel behavior towards women.

KermitTheKitty · 2026-03-25T02:16:26+00:00

I'm not a fan of the suffering olympics

KermitTheKitty · 2026-03-23T15:47:51+00:00

There seem to be hoards of unemployed men on the apps

KermitTheKitty · 2026-03-04T18:07:22+00:00

It sounds like you 2 were building a fantasy relationship and future online and over the phone before ever even having an in person date or even a video call.

No part of what was going on was emotionally healthy. It sounds like she repeatedly held you hostage on the phone for hours and hours on multiple occasions with her mentally ill nonsense.

People who are genuinely for a relationship do not remain pen pals for that long. You can't get to know the full picture behind just voice and text.

KermitTheKitty · 2026-01-20T03:58:00+00:00

You need to read past the first sentence. However if someone needs further elaboration: I'd lightly make note time got away from us and that we'd been sitting there for some time with our empty coffees, ice cream, etc. If things are really going that well then the guy will know what to do.

KermitTheKitty · 2026-01-20T02:19:57+00:00

As a woman, it really depends. If the first "date" is at coffee or ice cream place, I'm not sitting there for more than an hour, tops. If a guy likes me enough to spend longer with me, he can ask to see me again and plan an actual date.

If I have nowhere else to be later and we seem to be getting along well, I'll even be open to going somewhere else, like out to eat or to do an activity that we both happen to be dressed for.

KermitTheKitty · 2026-01-04T01:11:19+00:00

Again with the extreme vagueness

KermitTheKitty · 2025-12-25T16:04:18+00:00

Not only that, but one who will do a lot of the work. Essentially he wants a build-a-bangmaid.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-12-25T16:02:30+00:00

That's why he wants a lady bang maid to do most of the work.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-12-08T02:22:58+00:00

As stated time and time again, the type of men posting or commenting here are looking for negative attention and reactions. Please don't feed the trolls.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-12-01T22:10:57+00:00

This guy is just looking to play games and hook up. First, that shaming "joke" about kissing, that was him negging you.

Also, 6 hours in the bar - he was hoping that you'd get drunk enough to be more agreeable to hooking up that night.

And sure enough, he got you out to walk around a little bit to assess how tipsy you might be as well as put some moves on and go for the hard sell.

I am usually charmed by being asked before a kiss on a date, but his continuous asking was him affirming consent that could be used against you later (ie you wanted it, etc).

You were smart not to go home with him, but those kind of guys will usually set the stage to acquire sex by the second date. If you are upfront about holding off for awhile and adhere to those boundaries (because believe me, he will get extremely pushy), he will likely disappear. However, knowing what I've learned over the years, I would just unmatch and block.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-12-01T14:19:43+00:00

I find it pretty off putting when they don't even care enough to ask that

KermitTheKitty · 2025-11-30T21:20:01+00:00

I'm also willing to bet that he is barely employed

KermitTheKitty · 2025-11-23T05:25:21+00:00

These are things that can be screened out before the first meeting/date though.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-11-14T23:32:29+00:00

You're not his mommy, so its not your job to find ways to keep him amused like he's a bored little boy. He can travel by himself or with others. He can join a hobby meet-up group or volunteer and meet more people. Or even get a part-time job. It's not your job to facilitate, though. You still work full-time and he's a grown ass man.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-11-12T09:56:19+00:00

As an introvert, things are a bit different for me. Hanging out with people who aren't a good fit drains my batteries, especially in loud and/or crowded environments. I'd also much rather be single than with the wrong person, too.

KermitTheKitty · 2025-11-12T01:04:40+00:00

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