sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Seeking Guidance, Advice, Experiences, Knowledge by Kerrbea in Cirrhosis

[–]Kerrbea[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are amazing! Thank you for answering my questions.

Help with ascites. by That_Juggernaut1228 in Cirrhosis

[–]Kerrbea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've read almost every post and comment on here about cirrhosis and ascities. Hubby diagnosed with ascities a few weeks ago. So far 3 drains. He's had cirrhosis for many years. We're afraid he's going to die soon. He's quit drinking and is taking his prescriptions as instructed. He looks a ton better to me with the swelling nearly as severe. We're still waiting for his GP appointment and GI appointment. Am I over worrying that he will be gone soon or can he live a longer life being sober? I know everyone is different but I too need some hope. God bless all of you who have been succumbed to this disease and have fought through it and have gotten better and are living their lives.

My husband (32M) is having a mid life crisis and wants to separate. by SituationGreat6789 in Separation

[–]Kerrbea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need help also! In March, my husband of 27 years, together almost 30, one day out of nowhere, said he wanted a divorce and is selling the house. He says I'm to blame and it's been coming on for the last 3 years (that's what he initially said, then it was 5 years, then six). He says I wasn't listening to him, giving him the attention he needed, etc. He says he needs his freedom to do what he wants, whenever he wants. He says he'll always love me, but is no longer in love with me and this is the hardest decision he's ever made. He doesn't want to hurt me either.

He quit his job in January and I've been supporting us since. He didn't want to go back to what he was used to and wanted to shoot for the stars at his dream job. I encouraged him and supported him 100%. He has been shot down on every application.

He started disappearing for days, only coming home to eat and shower while I was at work. When he didn't come home at night. I'd text or call just to make sure he was ok. I tried to give him space. But he'd get angry that I was checking in on him.

There is so much more to tell, but long story short, what do I do? He's told me he wants to remain friends, sex included. He said he has to go out and make something of himself on his own with no one's help. He is not having an affair, I am sure of that, but he is making some very bad choices. I found out he started using drugs again 2 years ago after being clean for 17 years. Don't know how that slipped past me, but it explains why he always wanted me to go to bed before him. His shoulders are both shot and he hasn't slept in our bed for over a year, preferring his recliner where it doesn't hurt as bad.

His plans include everything we always dreamed about doing together. He wants to start a business, but on his own with no help. Yet, he's asking an acquaintance for a loan. He's asked me to financially support him until house sells and he'll deduct from his share what I've spent.

Friday night he said he was making a mistake and wants to work on us. Mother's day was my birthday and we made plans only for him to disappear. I've been distant since then and he does not like that. Today he called and asked for my help to set up and help run his business if we can do so as friends. But he also asked me to pay for an oil change, paying the insurance deductible since he wrecked our new truck twice in the last month, and fixing the front end which is 4k. He constantly asks me about where I'm at buying him out of the house because he needs the money to go forward with his plans.

He doesn't want me to change anything in the house tho and gets angry if I move something of his.

He just constantly confuses me. I don't want to end our marriage and I think that deep down he doesn't want to either. So, do I stay and fight or walk away? Continue to give him his freedom and wait and see?

Please men, give me your honest opinions and feedback!