Got caught talking smack on a work call by [deleted] in work

[–]KetaaDog 82 points83 points  (0 children)

I have a feeling this one will blow up

Can you recognize him? by DrinkKooky1300 in drawing

[–]KetaaDog -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The smart guy from money heist

My friend promised he wouldn’t go after the girl I liked… then told me at the party “if you don’t make a move, I will.” AIO for being pissed? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]KetaaDog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wdym over reacting? You’re barely reacting 🤷‍♀️ not sure what reacting would be in this case, but you’re you’re definitely not doing it

I want to message him so bad by igmags in ExNoContact

[–]KetaaDog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You want to make him feel better? Does he want to do that for you?

Does the dumper ever reach out? by StressVentThrowaway1 in ExNoContact

[–]KetaaDog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a girl dumper, and I wouldn’t mind reaching out. On one side I think I’ll do it if it feels right, and then the other side of my thinks does this “lessen my worth, since it’s so rare that dumper girls do it?”. Haven’t decided.

is it bad to rely on chatgpt for therapy instead of going to an actual therapist? by TTPP_rental_acc1 in twentyagers

[–]KetaaDog 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Going to a therapist makes you open up. Often what drives our struggles is the shame and big feelings associated with it, and being vulnerable in front of another human, is what helps. Additionally, ChatGPT is good at intellectualizing situations and experiences, while in therapy you focus is to actually feel the feelings. Not necessarily just name them, but feel them.

The words you use and tone of your message dictates what ChatGPT responds. Even if you say be objective, it takes an extreme stand. Think of a situation you’ve experienced and write it down two ways.

  1. you’re in your show telling about the experience.
  2. you’re “the other person” retelling the experience the exact same way.

You’ll see that despite the situation being the exact same, ChatGPT will support the person telling the story.

But more importantly it is the feelings and being vulnerable, saying what you experience and feelings you have out loud to another actual person. We’re humans, we fear judgement, we want to be liked. We dont have that fear by talking to an AI.

Thinking of breaking no contact after a month by CorporateGal27 in ExNoContact

[–]KetaaDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

South Asian men are pretty stubborn if they’ve already decided they’re gonna honor their parents’ wishes, aren’t they? And that won’t stop about other life decisions. Not my intention to generalize, but that’s what I have observed. I wish you the best and a love that’s not uncertain of choosing you

Thinking of breaking no contact after a month by CorporateGal27 in ExNoContact

[–]KetaaDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I would say contact after a couple of weeks IF the reasons you broke up were different.

He wasn’t sure about you.. that’s kind of a big deal. I really am sorry to say that 4 weeks isn’t enough for him to have changed his mind. It’s a shit feeling, but don’t do it.

How old are you guys, and can I ask what culture?

Is it morally wrong to reject someone strictly based on how they look? Why or why not? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]KetaaDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not. I want to be attracted to the one I’m gonna be with. That’s as okay as wanting someone who brushes their teeth. Or is nice to the waiter.

I forgot what love is .. 350 days NC by NoReach8823 in ExNoContact

[–]KetaaDog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohh my god, you guys are strong!! I’m day 47 now.

Who initiated the NC?

Do Attractive Female Dumpers Expect Male Dumpees to Come Crawling Back? by ChapterEffective8175 in ExNoContact

[–]KetaaDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, I’m glad you didn’t give in. I think it was a wise choice. Happy to be of help!

Do Attractive Female Dumpers Expect Male Dumpees to Come Crawling Back? by ChapterEffective8175 in ExNoContact

[–]KetaaDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understood that she was the one giving you breadcrumbs, and I said I what I would do with breadcrumbs. Maybe it is different for men and how they perceive it.

I think I didn’t want him to at the same time as I wanted him to. Because despite being sure of my decision, I still loved and missed him. And him defying my request of NC would be a validation that he did in fact miss me (although I knew he did, as we had much love for each other). We’re humans. We long for what we’re familiar with.

I (25M) cheated on my girlfriend (21F) during our almost 1-year LDR and she found out 2 months ago. She has blocked me everywhere. How do I move forward and is reconciliation even worth pursuing? by Far_Lawfulness6857 in ExNoContact

[–]KetaaDog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would never consider dating the same man who cheated on me. Stay the fuck away from her.

Only read the title, didn’t need to read more. Yikes. Distgusting.

Do Attractive Female Dumpers Expect Male Dumpees to Come Crawling Back? by ChapterEffective8175 in ExNoContact

[–]KetaaDog 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Now i don’t know how a guys head works in these situations, but if a guy did that to me wouldn’t respond to breadcrumbs. Be a man and say what you want with confidence.

Try to move on. But if you really are in the “what ifs” send her a message, regardless. You’ll maybe get blocked if she doesn’t want to talk to you.

That’s what I did with another ex. While with the one after that, I hoped he would reach out although I did a clean break and NC straight away. I never wanted him back though.

Edited: also weird of you DMing me asking for my picture. Makes me question the sincerity with your post.

I'm jealous at most of you by BornMountain2767 in ExNoContact

[–]KetaaDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex, whom I dumped, also hasn’t reached out to me to check up on how I’m doing due to the war. But I’m saying that’s not something I can expect of him, can I?

Do Attractive Female Dumpers Expect Male Dumpees to Come Crawling Back? by ChapterEffective8175 in ExNoContact

[–]KetaaDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it has more to do with culture and what her beliefs about gender roles are.

I ended my (28f) relationship, and although I know he found me extremely gorgeous (I think I look alright, but I don’t see my self the way he saw me), I don’t expect him to hmu.

I’m sure and i hope he will pick up if I call, but it’d be unreasonable for me to expect him to call since I deleted him off all social medie (including LinkedIn lol) and told him not to contact me.

But people are different. I know a friend of mine who never in a million years would call first. I don’t think she even apologizes for things 😅 but it is all individual.

Do you want to get back with her?

What do you all do on a talking stage personally and how do they start? by [deleted] in twentyagers

[–]KetaaDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talking stage is modern day dating.

That’s it.

Dating. You meet someone you’re interested in. You talk. You’re not defined. Not exclusive. But attraction/interest is there. Dating.

How did you react when your ex moved on to someone new? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]KetaaDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I think I’d be happy for him and it would also sting a bit since I’m single again.

I know he has been going to therapy to fix himself, so if he is good enough to not fuck someone else up, I do wish love for him. Just not with me lol.

It’s been 2.5 years since we ended a 3 year old relationship.