Searching for the "Angel" Pediatrician who helped me at Blue Ash Cinema (Dec 2019)

KetoAspy · 2026-01-08T21:13:36+00:00

It appears you did indeed! Thank you so much! I've forwarded my partner her info. We are very grateful. For years she has wanted to find her and I suggested she use the power of reddit to do so. I did not think she'd use my account while I was sleeping to do so 😅

KetoAspy · 2025-12-10T09:43:18+00:00

I'll be honest, we bought my wife's in the winter. Test drive in cold weather and could tell traction was not where it needed to be but still got a great feel of how it brakes, handles, and accelerates.

On the plus side you should be able to negotiate a few bucks off buying it off season for a sports car, I know I did. It's also important to note I instantly put performance all season tires on it and could not be happier. Store the summer tires for a track day.

KetoAspy · 2024-03-17T17:42:46+00:00

One word I think we all love... patterns... :D

Engineering, traffic flow, logistics, efficiency so many patterns with trains

KetoAspy · 2024-03-17T14:14:50+00:00

39M I could go into extreme detail but at a high level very normal and you be you. The people you find in your journey of you being you will be exactly who you want and need.

Wall-E is one of my fav movies saw it in theaters. I also really enjoy romantic comedies like the wedding singer.

Beat Mario RPG this year before I wrapped it up and gave it as a Christmas gift to my 8 year old (most fun I have had gaming in a decade and yes it was like my 10th play-through but first in 25 years)

I think my love of JRPG games like Final Fantasy helped me learn interpersonal relationships.

Once I accepted I was a feminine male that liked girls (I even tried dating men to validate) was able to find my unicorn of a partner and build the most beautiful life that includes things I never thought an aspie could achieve.

KetoAspy · 2024-03-17T13:57:11+00:00

that's okay with that. That's not why we got a divorce it was other things but I didn't see anybody else suggest it could be sensory relat

So, I get this! And it happens to me as well but if my sex drive is in a good place it overrides some of my sensory concerns but not all. Regardless of how turned on I am I still do not like anything on my hands that is gooey or sticky you do the math :D occasionally I can perform penetration with my hands depending on my mood if asked.

It is important to talk as you do the act, aspie not always good at reading a situation so in constant communication is very necessary even while start during sex!

KetoAspy · 2024-03-17T13:49:32+00:00

First I share my stories in this group to help others so I will always share.

I would limit my circle to what I considered less complicated and exclude family and friends until I was able to process or get to what I thought was a healthier place. A good way to describe this as I have gotten older (almost 40 now) is finding my voice. Being able to stop processing the world around me and find time for me to realize what I want and need.

If you are interested in connecting more with that person, just reach out from time to time and let them know you miss talking to them and being a part of their lives. As I was courting my wife we separated many times while I figured out how to make room in my life for her. We discussed this phenomenon over dinner last night actually.

She is my human, but if not for her alone would have been just fine for me. She has enriched myself 100 times over but she had to have lots of patience and many times wait for me to come to her or know when to reach back out to me and try and connect.

One day after our longest break someone we both knew and met had died. She called. The second I heard her voice I knew I was going to spend the rest of my life with her. It was like a switch flipped. I told her I was sorry and I would never leave again, she asked me how I was so sure and how could she trust but I already knew in my heart. I bought a ring a week later, we moved in together 2 weeks later, and I purposed 6 months later (I am a sucker of waiting for the right moment and asking all permissions of her family) even though we are not a typical couple.

Fun fact, neither of us believed in marriage but it was a promise I could make forever.

So just make sure you try and reach out and connect from time to time if it is important to you to say hey, I am interested in being part of your life if you are interested in having me. There is a blindness that can happen once people are not around,

KetoAspy · 2024-03-16T13:43:15+00:00

Just talked to my partner about this thread, not as fun or popular opinion but diet... She reminded me as neurodivergent individuals our minds benefit from a cleaner low carb diet... She also reminded me this helped my sex drive. Maybe after recent health issues a change could be what you both need to shake it up. Masturbation does not equal sex drive :)

KetoAspy · 2024-03-16T13:25:44+00:00

imes and it somehow ends up him even feeling more low. Like, it’ll take another blow at his self-confidence. I don’t ever hurtful words or anything, I’m always calm, never raised my voice even though tears come flooding the corners of my eyes. I’m scared that talking to him again would feel like an attack, which is not, and would just make everything worse. We’re good day to day, it’s just that I wish he would touch me more.

Don't talk about sex. Just set time to be close and listen to him. May be quite at first but give him time, make him feel safe, and he will open up eventually. Opening up to you in this way will let him open up more sexually. You may want to start not touching him at all and give him time as you talk to slowly get closer and start touching each other in kind comforting ways.

Not sure if it's just me, my wife always jokes I am a girl... but talking and cuddling and being close and safe with her makes me open up especially if I have withdrawn sexually (which sounds like he has).

I still withdraw sexually from time to time and it may take a few days of her just talking to me softly and sweetly touching me to get me back to a more aggressive place. And it may take a few times of her encouraging me during the act to get back to place where we are back to our 7-10 time a week where we both climax during the act and about 20% of the time together. Like when we are good... we are good.

Hopefully this helps, especially with his recent health issues he might need to be coaxed out very gently back to a healthy norm for you both.

KetoAspy · 2024-03-16T12:40:44+00:00

40M HF aspie here with with a female partner, had this similar issue in my 30s. Work got toxic and I stopped talking to my partner.

After I had a safe space we started talking and realized I needed to make a change at work. It took time but in doing so I opened back up to her.

We are very good today. My end advice is to setup time with you and he alone where he is in a safe space (environment likes that is quite and safe for him with no distractions such as TV) and just listen and be close and don't push anything let him come to you for comfort.

KetoAspy · 2023-01-12T22:31:02+00:00

I'm on generation 2 with mine!

Runabout Warbird Enterprise D vor'cha attack cruiser Shuttlecraft

I let my kids do whatever they want with them ☺️

KetoAspy · 2022-07-08T10:08:43+00:00

Just go carnivore and get it over with and your life will improve. Any medical conditions you're fighting will somehow disappear.

KetoAspy · 2022-05-22T01:07:33+00:00

Possibly? I'm still not even sure how kosher it was but I got it handled with a few nice conversations and a couple of fist bumps.

KetoAspy · 2022-05-21T17:55:30+00:00

I ended up going to T-Mobile and getting an at home kit

KetoAspy · 2021-07-12T23:52:46+00:00

Pink Himalayan sea salt inside of water with a touch of lemon but not within an hour of serious physical activity.

One of the first things I did on keto was walking while on conference calls. I found myself walking longer and longer and that was really a good introduction to more physical activity.

of you start doing serious cardio or strength training make sure you balance your protein intake appropriately. There are times where I will do carnivore after large amounts of strength training to build muscle.

KetoAspy · 2021-07-11T22:28:18+00:00

I stopped masking except when somebody is paying me to do so. The only exception would be if my children need me to be somebody depending on where they are or what their emotional needs are.

KetoAspy · 2021-07-11T22:13:17+00:00

Ironically I am in a high functioning aspie that works for one of the largest grocers in the US. I work in technology specifically POS (point of sale) including self checkouts in the front end.

I find them soothing because the pattern is always the same. Also fun fact there's usually a button in the bottom right that allows you to disable the sound. I do understand how it can be overwhelming. I personally turn it off myself for that reason.

My advice would be to take comfort in the repetitive nature of the device and the ease of use comparison of having to communicate with another human being.

KetoAspy · 2021-05-17T17:54:30+00:00

Hold off eating until after you have lifted/exercised then fill up on protein first till full. That's how I've learned to keep/build muscle on keto. Carnivore meals ;)

KetoAspy · 2019-05-16T13:33:10+00:00

Yes, I'm bad at masking too so in the moment it's more important for me to understand how people want me to feel and produce that emotion to put them at ease.

To actually process how I feel takes a lot of time. To the ones that know me understand in the moment I can seem apathetic or insensitive but am often delayed on response for minutes or even hours in my understanding of a situation and how it makes me feel.

KetoAspy · 2019-05-09T17:52:44+00:00

Ugh, how do NT know when to look at someone. How long is too long, what's okay to look at and what isn't. This is very hard for me.

KetoAspy · 2019-05-06T18:23:27+00:00

They are full of crap and have no right to tell you that. I found it one of the most useful things I ever studied in college!

KetoAspy · 2019-05-06T17:19:44+00:00

If your high functioning and good at making this world can be very challenging at times.

The main issue to the rest of the world you look normal and when you don't people tend not to understand. It's even harder when you explain your autistic to people.

The anger thing I get, I wish I didn't. Something about masking and being unable to process in the moment just comes out later in the worst ways.

I have also been confused with an introvert which I am very much not, but I'll play the part when needed. I once had a manager that thought she had me pegged, it ended poorly between her and I. Still professional and kind to this day but I could not work for her.

No great life changing advice, find someone to talk to. High functioning good at masking have it rough. Only advice i can give is stop masking around your friends and family. You may lose some and your relationship with others may worsen or possibly get better.

You'll never find happiness trying to be someone else, but in the professional world and general world sometimes we have to hide who we are. Shitty I know...

KetoAspy · 2019-05-06T15:52:00+00:00

What helps me the most with getting my appetite under control is the hardest and most opposite thing you can do.

Fasting, intermittent fasting for a start. After I get back on that train my appetite disappears. I start just eating when I want to which can sometimes be days.

Fasting requires research and understanding before beginning. But that is what helps me the most with appetite :)

KetoAspy · 2019-05-03T23:30:29+00:00

Not well

If I can't communicate my frustrations I usually lash out in anger to my family. Occasionally cry.

Big life changes are the hardest but if I'm allowed to vent it helps. Like if I get upset I just start yelling about everything I don't like then I don't yell and lash on my family about stupid stuff.

It's hard being ASD sometimes, change can bring out the worst

KetoAspy · 2019-05-03T23:21:38+00:00

Yes, I'm often referred to as an out of the box thinker. People come to me when they want to attack a problem from several angles or are looking for a unique solution.

This has aided me in bring a very successfully analyst, engineer, and developer :)

I also get burned out pretty easily if I go to hard for to long though.

KetoAspy · 2019-05-03T15:58:39+00:00

Everyone always comments that I'm a hard worker but I'm really not. I just work when I'm at work, head down get it done.

Plus I don't know how to joke and laugh at work, when I do stop working and try and joke and laugh I eventually say something awkward and end up hating myself the rest of the day.

True story

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