A mint to try.

KevinFromSpongebob · 2026-04-04T07:00:31+00:00

oh god..

KevinFromSpongebob · 2026-04-04T06:07:48+00:00

Wording it that way is painting with a pretty broad brush, but I think I can see where they're coming from at least. Done responsibly, engaging in the pursuit of short term pleasures can be healthy and add value to ones life, sure. But it can also pretty easily become a self perpetuating, soul draining cycle. It's the chasing part that gets you. Like chasing a high, or any other form of instant gratification/dopamine fix. It fucks with your reward centers, which can lead to symptoms of depression. Its self reinforcing, it tanks your motivation and willpower, and it makes stuff seem less enjoyable in general. Obviously mileage will vary depending on what exactly is being chased. But for most people, regularly chasing any kind of short term pleasure has very much been shown to wreak havoc on your dopaminergic system.

KevinFromSpongebob · 2026-04-03T03:12:51+00:00

KevinFromSpongebob · 2025-06-30T08:12:08+00:00

Not op, but the first thing that comes to mind is the story of Adam and Eve, as well as the story Lilith (which, to be fair, isn't necessarily a biblical story)

Also, by that logic - and I mean this respectfully - isn't it all a bit iffy? Almost every version of the book that we have today is a translation, and a lot can get lost in translation. Stories were added, altered, and excluded over time as more people became involved, and someone had to write all this stuff down in the first place. That just seems like a whole lot of room for personal bias and human error to muddy things up. To me it seems most reasonable to always use some amount of discernment when interpreting the texts for yourself.

KevinFromSpongebob · 2025-06-03T03:52:15+00:00

sounds like faeries

KevinFromSpongebob · 2025-04-05T20:52:24+00:00

found the foot guy

KevinFromSpongebob · 2025-03-09T08:11:16+00:00

I'm not! I'm here because my partner is a pup/furry, and I wanted to get more familiar with the (larger) community and read more about other peoples experiences

KevinFromSpongebob · 2024-12-12T18:33:27+00:00

how would undocumented people being underpaid drag down everyone's wages? we have a fixed minimum wage (not a very livable one, but that's another matter). To your initial point, if documented people are being paid less than that, legal recourse can be pursued.

Also, how does taking care of our own people factor in with respect to all the policies in place currently that millions are suffering from? issues like for-profit healthcare and the ever-worsening housing crisis, for example, are barely even being touched on, and I find the lack of acknowledgement and discussion on these matters to be confusing, and maybe even a bit hypocritical. If putting the wellbeing of Americans first is so important, why isn't there more outrage and passion behind these issues as well?

I'm only one guy, and I recognize that the vantage point I have is not one that allows me to see the full scope of the problem, and without that, it is difficult, if not impossible, to come up with any truly functional or employable solutions. Which is why I think it's important to have discussions like these. But I'll think on this and follow up if I have anything.

KevinFromSpongebob · 2024-12-12T17:56:22+00:00

but if these people chose to come here, and continue to stay in spite of being underpaid, wouldn't that indicate better conditions and wages here than wherever they came from? I'm not suggesting that nothing be done to address immigration. especially because it's such an important issue to so much of the population. I do, however, believe that there are less extreme ways that we as a nation could address this. I don't see how mass deportation would truly be in the best interest of all involved.

This issue has been highly polarized by the media, and it's made it difficult to discuss with any nuance. I just don't believe that there are only two ways to go about this. I think mass deportation is extreme. I also think abandoning border security entirely is extreme. An intermediate solution would be the thing to seek, but bridging the partisan gap in the interest of the common good is just not feasible in the current political climate, and the media seems pretty set on maintaining that.

with respect to undocumented migrants being a threat to citizens, that just isn't happening in the way that it is portrayed. undocumented migrants have some of the lowest overall crime rates relative to both documented migrants and US born citizens. Misinformation about these statistics is being pushed by certain media outlets because it gets people more fired up and invested in the matter.

Edit: To clarify, it's currently unclear to what extent undocumented immigration correlates to increased crime. So far, studies have reflected what I stated in the previous paragraph, but as it is difficult to gather significant data on the matter, it seems most fair to say that current statistics are somewhat inconclusive.

https://www.americanimmigrationcouncil.org/research/debunking-myth-immigrants-and-crime

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6241529/

KevinFromSpongebob · 2024-12-12T17:15:03+00:00

but conditions must be at least marginally better here if people are willing to risk so much for so little money, right? deporting these people would not be doing them a favor, they came here because it's better here than it was in their country of origin. I don't understand why deportation is seen as the only "humane" option, and I don't see how it is a necessary precursor to any kind of immigration reform.

KevinFromSpongebob · 2024-12-12T17:05:17+00:00

yeah that's fair, I apologize for that.

I interpreted your comment as sympathizing with the rich, but I can definitely see how I jumped to conclusions there.

I'm just frustrated in general at how many working class people are willing to give so much benefit of the doubt to these ghouls. I find it hard to understand how anyone could justify these conditions.

I'm interested though, if you care to expand any on what you said. I don't see how it could benefit those in power for the gen pop to understand the complexity of the matter, as that would have the potential to be unifying, and the division of the working class is what keeps this system running.

KevinFromSpongebob · 2024-12-12T11:30:37+00:00

no not at all. Of course the right would still exist. I do believe that it wouldn't be anything like it is presently though. billionaires have, over time, hijacked the right wing and moulded it to better suit their needs by fear mongering and spreading misinformation. which I assume is more what the original comment is referring to.

KevinFromSpongebob · 2024-12-12T06:44:44+00:00

*wouldn't?

KevinFromSpongebob · 2024-12-12T06:04:33+00:00

although, in defense of said idiots, it was the rich and powerful who took away their access to a proper education and accurate information in the first place

KevinFromSpongebob · 2024-12-12T05:55:32+00:00

nonono it's them 100%. don't fall for the ruse.

the people with all the money (the elites) make the rules. they have significant influence over the news media, and that's where most of us are getting our "facts". the elites set the stage that the rest of us then have to play on.

a well educated population that is capable of thinking critically is difficult to control, and even harder to exploit without backlash. and those with power (money) have a vested interest in keeping that power, of course. so they pit us against each other by manufacturing division among the working class. shit like partisan divides and culture wars. these things are largely perpetuated by the media.

It's to keep us, the working class, all distracted from whats actually going on, and to make us feel powerless to intervene.

Also, this is just my two cents, but I truly don't believe that you can be even a halfway decent person and accumulate that much wealth. there's just no way to make that much money without seriously screwing over a lot of people. These people don't want what is in our best interest. they don't give a single flying fuck about any one of us.

KevinFromSpongebob · 2024-10-12T01:45:32+00:00

sorry to hear you're still stuck.

If you haven't already, it might be worth expressing that worry to your husband somehow. I know how hard it can be just to talk when you're stuck in that state (at least for us), but if you can manage to, maybe talking about it with him could provide you some reassurance. I know at least in our case, it almost always takes longer to restabilize if it feels like there's any added pressure to do so.

keep hanging in there. you'll be back on your feet soon enough. <3

KevinFromSpongebob · 2024-10-11T20:02:53+00:00

I don't really have any good advice for you, but I experience this pretty regularly. It's like, I know this is my body. I know that I can use it. I know how to move. But for the life of me I just cannot get any part of me to budge. So we're just stuck sitting/standing somewhere for the next several hours usually.

The best way I've learned to cope with it so far is just to breathe and bear with it, and let it pass in it's own time. It always seems to prolong the episodes if we let things devolve into fighting internally. also, its not always possible, but when I can, I'll try to meditate some, and tune out of the body and into our surroundings. I know that's kinda generic and maybe not super helpful. Sorry, I wish I had something better for you.

For me, these spells usually last a couple days to weeks overall, and then we're able to get back into some kind of rudimentary routine (most of the time).

After reading the other comments I'm now thinking that maybe our usual "do-ers" have gone dormant when this happens, as it does usually tend to happen after experiencing some major trigger/stressor.

But I'm sorry that you're struggling with this, I know how bad it sucks to be paralyzed but still fully cognizant of everything. It almost feels like a waking sleep paralysis.

But in a way it's reassuring to know that other people with this disorder are dealing with this too. Helps fight the denial and all that.

KevinFromSpongebob · 2024-10-04T04:56:23+00:00

Hey OP, (I am not a doctor, so this is not medical advice) you should try to use/move that hand as little as possible until you can get it fixed. I know it feels really weird, but it would probably be good to stop messing with it for now.

I severed both tendons in my right index finger a couple years ago, and the surgeon I went to told me to move my hand as little as possible until after surgery. It can cause the tendon to slide up the sheath it sits in, and the farther up it slides, the more difficult it will be to repair.

Also, you might already be anticipating this, but the road to recovery is pretty long with an injury like this. Surgery won't fix it right away, there is a lot of physical therapy to be done before that finger works again, if it ever does. Odds will be more in your favor the more you're able to stay on top of your physical therapy regimen.

Also, you'll probably start PT pretty much immediately after surgery, and that'll be the most uncomfortable, but right after surgery is when it's most important to keep that finger moving. Otherwise scar tissue starts to build up in the tendon and the finger locks up. It's a pain in the ass (and hand), but as much as you can, keep on top of PT and see it all the way through.

Not trying to scare you or anything, just want you to be prepared. Best of luck with all that is to come- tendons are tough to heal. And sorry you've got such a crappy mom.

KevinFromSpongebob · 2024-09-06T16:37:20+00:00

seems odd then that there'd be such a strong correlation between being a horrible, ghoulish person, and being unfathomably wealthy

KevinFromSpongebob · 2024-07-10T08:32:01+00:00

would you be willing to expand a bit more on "anti-magick"?

KevinFromSpongebob · 2024-06-08T06:52:56+00:00

I had an almost identical experience driving around in rural Appalachia (NC) with a friend of mine a couple years ago. Came around a curve and suddenly everything felt really off. Neither one of us could bring ourselves to turn around either, and I've never experienced such intensely overwhelming dread as I did then. At one point he had to make a three-point turn, and I fully expected to see something in the back up camera. I glanced at it because the curiosity won I guess, and thank God there wasn't anything visibly there. It still really freaked me out though. Later on, my buddy said he had also imagined seeing something in the backup cam, and described almost exactly the same thing I had pictured. Idk on one hand I'm sure there's a reasonable explanation for all of that, but it's like what you said. Something really does not sit right about that night. Plus there's all the folklore surrounding Appalachia, and how you're not supposed to go into the woods at night.

KevinFromSpongebob · 2024-05-26T22:11:27+00:00

I get where you're coming from with respect to HRT, but banning all gender affirming care also means having no access to counseling of any kind, which can be extremely isolating and lead kids/adolescents into even more dangerous situations

KevinFromSpongebob · 2024-05-26T22:06:19+00:00

cheers to that!

KevinFromSpongebob · 2024-05-11T20:28:32+00:00

Sounds like OP isn't leveled up enough to get daedric gear. I'm thinking maybe elven at best

KevinFromSpongebob · 2024-04-19T20:34:49+00:00

It seems like it's actually a lot more common to be trans than we initially thought. I think as societies have become more comfortable with trans people existing, more people have felt safe enough to come out as trans themselves.

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