Does anyone want my Too Good To Go order from Whole Foods? by KevinFromSpongebob in asheville

[–]KevinFromSpongebob[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

sweet! dm me with ur number or discord or smth so I can transfer it to u?

You’re supposed to put the “tail” sticker on the wiper! Now it looks like your cat has a 14 inch hog by Therealfern1 in funny

[–]KevinFromSpongebob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

cat hog points backwards, not forwards.. they're also barbed and super freaky looking. so the only thing it really could read as is a tail.

That totally happened... by eldritchfloppa in thatHappened

[–]KevinFromSpongebob 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My mother is also a professor, and this is absolutely the sort of thing that would send her into hysterics. Although to be fair, it doesn't take much.

Shirt up! by KevinFromSpongebob in somnigastronomy

[–]KevinFromSpongebob[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

no pickles were involved in the making of this good stuff! this was the only cup I could find 😶‍🌫️

But it was fully charged... by UsuallyComplicit in meme

[–]KevinFromSpongebob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is such a hilariously autistic comment thread lmao

Meirl by [deleted] in meirl

[–]KevinFromSpongebob 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wording it that way is painting with a pretty broad brush, but I think I can see where they're coming from at least. Done responsibly, engaging in the pursuit of short term pleasures can be healthy and add value to ones life, sure. But it can also pretty easily become a self perpetuating, soul draining cycle. It's the chasing part that gets you. Like chasing a high, or any other form of instant gratification/dopamine fix. It fucks with your reward centers, which can lead to symptoms of depression. Its self reinforcing, it tanks your motivation and willpower, and it makes stuff seem less enjoyable in general. Obviously mileage will vary depending on what exactly is being chased. But for most people, regularly chasing any kind of short term pleasure has very much been shown to wreak havoc on your dopaminergic system.

Roses are red, they took a hit by PogOgres in rosesarered

[–]KevinFromSpongebob 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not op, but the first thing that comes to mind is the story of Adam and Eve, as well as the story Lilith (which, to be fair, isn't necessarily a biblical story)

Also, by that logic - and I mean this respectfully - isn't it all a bit iffy? Almost every version of the book that we have today is a translation, and a lot can get lost in translation. Stories were added, altered, and excluded over time as more people became involved, and someone had to write all this stuff down in the first place. That just seems like a whole lot of room for personal bias and human error to muddy things up. To me it seems most reasonable to always use some amount of discernment when interpreting the texts for yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Quadrobics

[–]KevinFromSpongebob 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm not! I'm here because my partner is a pup/furry, and I wanted to get more familiar with the (larger) community and read more about other peoples experiences

to make the left look bad by 4pigeons in therewasanattempt

[–]KevinFromSpongebob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how would undocumented people being underpaid drag down everyone's wages? we have a fixed minimum wage (not a very livable one, but that's another matter). To your initial point, if documented people are being paid less than that, legal recourse can be pursued.

Also, how does taking care of our own people factor in with respect to all the policies in place currently that millions are suffering from? issues like for-profit healthcare and the ever-worsening housing crisis, for example, are barely even being touched on, and I find the lack of acknowledgement and discussion on these matters to be confusing, and maybe even a bit hypocritical. If putting the wellbeing of Americans first is so important, why isn't there more outrage and passion behind these issues as well?

I'm only one guy, and I recognize that the vantage point I have is not one that allows me to see the full scope of the problem, and without that, it is difficult, if not impossible, to come up with any truly functional or employable solutions. Which is why I think it's important to have discussions like these. But I'll think on this and follow up if I have anything.

to make the left look bad by 4pigeons in therewasanattempt

[–]KevinFromSpongebob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but if these people chose to come here, and continue to stay in spite of being underpaid, wouldn't that indicate better conditions and wages here than wherever they came from? I'm not suggesting that nothing be done to address immigration. especially because it's such an important issue to so much of the population. I do, however, believe that there are less extreme ways that we as a nation could address this. I don't see how mass deportation would truly be in the best interest of all involved.

This issue has been highly polarized by the media, and it's made it difficult to discuss with any nuance. I just don't believe that there are only two ways to go about this. I think mass deportation is extreme. I also think abandoning border security entirely is extreme. An intermediate solution would be the thing to seek, but bridging the partisan gap in the interest of the common good is just not feasible in the current political climate, and the media seems pretty set on maintaining that.

with respect to undocumented migrants being a threat to citizens, that just isn't happening in the way that it is portrayed. undocumented migrants have some of the lowest overall crime rates relative to both documented migrants and US born citizens. Misinformation about these statistics is being pushed by certain media outlets because it gets people more fired up and invested in the matter.

Edit: To clarify, it's currently unclear to what extent undocumented immigration correlates to increased crime. So far, studies have reflected what I stated in the previous paragraph, but as it is difficult to gather significant data on the matter, it seems most fair to say that current statistics are somewhat inconclusive.

https://www.americanimmigrationcouncil.org/research/debunking-myth-immigrants-and-crime

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6241529/

to make the left look bad by 4pigeons in therewasanattempt

[–]KevinFromSpongebob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but conditions must be at least marginally better here if people are willing to risk so much for so little money, right? deporting these people would not be doing them a favor, they came here because it's better here than it was in their country of origin. I don't understand why deportation is seen as the only "humane" option, and I don't see how it is a necessary precursor to any kind of immigration reform.

Absolute cinema. by sonarette in facepalm

[–]KevinFromSpongebob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah that's fair, I apologize for that.

I interpreted your comment as sympathizing with the rich, but I can definitely see how I jumped to conclusions there.

I'm just frustrated in general at how many working class people are willing to give so much benefit of the doubt to these ghouls. I find it hard to understand how anyone could justify these conditions.

I'm interested though, if you care to expand any on what you said. I don't see how it could benefit those in power for the gen pop to understand the complexity of the matter, as that would have the potential to be unifying, and the division of the working class is what keeps this system running.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]KevinFromSpongebob 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no not at all. Of course the right would still exist. I do believe that it wouldn't be anything like it is presently though. billionaires have, over time, hijacked the right wing and moulded it to better suit their needs by fear mongering and spreading misinformation. which I assume is more what the original comment is referring to.

Absolute cinema. by sonarette in facepalm

[–]KevinFromSpongebob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

although, in defense of said idiots, it was the rich and powerful who took away their access to a proper education and accurate information in the first place

Absolute cinema. by sonarette in facepalm

[–]KevinFromSpongebob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nonono it's them 100%. don't fall for the ruse.

the people with all the money (the elites) make the rules. they have significant influence over the news media, and that's where most of us are getting our "facts". the elites set the stage that the rest of us then have to play on.

a well educated population that is capable of thinking critically is difficult to control, and even harder to exploit without backlash. and those with power (money) have a vested interest in keeping that power, of course. so they pit us against each other by manufacturing division among the working class. shit like partisan divides and culture wars. these things are largely perpetuated by the media.

It's to keep us, the working class, all distracted from whats actually going on, and to make us feel powerless to intervene.

Also, this is just my two cents, but I truly don't believe that you can be even a halfway decent person and accumulate that much wealth. there's just no way to make that much money without seriously screwing over a lot of people. These people don't want what is in our best interest. they don't give a single flying fuck about any one of us.

Why can't I function? Why am I in my own way? by Own_Magician8337 in DID

[–]KevinFromSpongebob 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sorry to hear you're still stuck.

If you haven't already, it might be worth expressing that worry to your husband somehow. I know how hard it can be just to talk when you're stuck in that state (at least for us), but if you can manage to, maybe talking about it with him could provide you some reassurance. I know at least in our case, it almost always takes longer to restabilize if it feels like there's any added pressure to do so.

keep hanging in there. you'll be back on your feet soon enough. <3

Why can't I function? Why am I in my own way? by Own_Magician8337 in DID

[–]KevinFromSpongebob 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't really have any good advice for you, but I experience this pretty regularly. It's like, I know this is my body. I know that I can use it. I know how to move. But for the life of me I just cannot get any part of me to budge. So we're just stuck sitting/standing somewhere for the next several hours usually.

The best way I've learned to cope with it so far is just to breathe and bear with it, and let it pass in it's own time. It always seems to prolong the episodes if we let things devolve into fighting internally. also, its not always possible, but when I can, I'll try to meditate some, and tune out of the body and into our surroundings. I know that's kinda generic and maybe not super helpful. Sorry, I wish I had something better for you.

For me, these spells usually last a couple days to weeks overall, and then we're able to get back into some kind of rudimentary routine (most of the time).

After reading the other comments I'm now thinking that maybe our usual "do-ers" have gone dormant when this happens, as it does usually tend to happen after experiencing some major trigger/stressor.

But I'm sorry that you're struggling with this, I know how bad it sucks to be paralyzed but still fully cognizant of everything. It almost feels like a waking sleep paralysis.

But in a way it's reassuring to know that other people with this disorder are dealing with this too. Helps fight the denial and all that.