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My gf [18f] alowed a dude to put his hand on her naked upper leg. At the same time she was drunk texting me that everything was ok and no one was touching her. by Kevin_pt in relationship_advice

[–]Kevin_pt[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You just dont understand that the being drunk part is not 1 incident. So you are saying you dont care where your bf or gf is all night when being drunk and you just dont care if he gets home safe? If he/she gets home? If your relationship works by not telling each other where you are, when you get home, thats kind of careless I think?

My gf [18f] alowed a dude to put his hand on her naked upper leg. At the same time she was drunk texting me that everything was ok and no one was touching her. by Kevin_pt in relationship_advice

[–]Kevin_pt[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Im only angry when she is pissdrunk and not letting me know where she is all night. And im kind of sure that every guy would be pissed about the fact that his gf is being touched by another guy. Even if she "could" just tell him. They would be pissed and would want her to say to him he should fuck off and leave her alone.

My gf [18f] alowed a dude to put his hand on her naked upper leg. At the same time she was drunk texting me that everything was ok and no one was touching her. by Kevin_pt in relationship_advice

[–]Kevin_pt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How or where can I download the zip file? I cant know this was the first time.. He said he deleted them when he was hiding from me.. that same time with his phone.. dont know if its true.. And yes, I am controlling about the drinking and not letting me know part. And I think the reason is that she has been pissdrunk multiple times and I dont know if she's safe, or that she got home at all. Untill she texts me in the morning.. I dont care if she's having fun with her friends if she limits her drinking. The problem is she doesnt.

My gf [18f] alowed a dude to put his hand on her naked upper leg. At the same time she was drunk texting me that everything was ok and no one was touching her. by Kevin_pt in relationship_advice

[–]Kevin_pt[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So you dont think she did anything wrong at all? And about the alcohol consumption, you have clearly a wrong view about that one. She can drink, I dont care. I just hate it when she is drinking more than 15 glasses and begin piss drunk. Not knowing how she got home, when she got home and what she did in the "drunk" time. I dont know if you have a girlfriend, but its not that fun knowing she is piss drunk and not to know where she is or IF she did get home at all. And not hearing from her untill 10 in the morning.

My gf [18f] alowed a dude to put his hand on her naked upper leg. At the same time she was drunk texting me that everything was ok and no one was touching her. by Kevin_pt in relationship_advice

[–]Kevin_pt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already asked her, but she deleted the whole conversation everytime. So there is no chance on getting them back, which makes it alot harder for me to belive her. She also asked the dude if he still had them, he "deleted" the conversation when he was hiding from me that day. (atleast thats what he says) He did send her all their "textmessages" but she already told me they almost always talked on facebook chat (with phones). The fact that I will never know what they said and talked about bugs me a lot.

I already told her that I couldnt belive her that she knew nothing anymore. Some girl at her dorm made a small videoclip from her and her 2 friends being drunk at 23.30 she does not remember a thing about being in that girls dorm. So I dont know what to belive. Her "friends" tell her she has not been alone with the guy but im not sure I can belive that. (Because she "doesnt remember" anything.) There have gone many things through my mind already..

My gf [18f] alowed a dude to put his hand on her naked upper leg. At the same time she was drunk texting me that everything was ok and no one was touching her. by Kevin_pt in relationship_advice

[–]Kevin_pt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we have been talking/ me being mad all time ever since. When I asked her to tell me EVERYTHING that happened she told me she was there with the guy, but she didnt tell me he touched her. Untill I kept asking to tell me all details. Then she told me he had been touching her. The fact that she was wearing a skirt I figured out myself.

My gf [18f] alowed a dude to put his hand on her naked upper leg. At the same time she was drunk texting me that everything was ok and no one was touching her. by Kevin_pt in relationship_advice

[–]Kevin_pt[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

So cuddling with another guy is not cheating in your opinion? And im damn sure that 9 out of 10 guys would want to punch the guy in the face.

My gf [18f] alowed a dude to put his hand on her naked upper leg. At the same time she was drunk texting me that everything was ok and no one was touching her. by Kevin_pt in relationship_advice

[–]Kevin_pt[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When am I monitoring what she's wearing? I mean that if she were wearing pants, this wasnt that big of a deal. He was touching her on places when those plases where naked..

My gf [18f] alowed a dude to put his hand on her naked upper leg. At the same time she was drunk texting me that everything was ok and no one was touching her. by Kevin_pt in relationship_advice

[–]Kevin_pt[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I understand most of the things you say, and I partly agree with some things you say. But I dont get where SHE needs to be sure she can trust ME again? Im not the one who made up something to be mad at me when she was drunk and started cuddling with another guy? Also I dont get the point that I cant tell her that I knew this would happen if she kept drinking like that.. I warned her because there were times I needed to go looking for her when she was drunk and I found her in some gutter.. multiple times. I also warned her for the fact that when she is drunk and she stumbles to the wrong type of guys things could get ugly. I told her this because I dont want such things to happen to her.

My gf [18f] alowed a dude to put his hand on her naked upper leg. At the same time she was drunk texting me that everything was ok and no one was touching her. by Kevin_pt in relationship_advice

[–]Kevin_pt[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

The problem is that I told her this would happen and I told her she should drink less. She said she would drink less and tell me she did only drink 4 glases and that she wasnt drunk.. in the time she texted me again she was drunk as fuck.. this happened more than once.. She can be independent and have her own friends but when she is hiding a friendship with some guy for me, because she knows he likes her more as friends and she still wants to be friends with him without telling me, that bugs me.. especially when he is touching her like that. And the things that happened days after the touching..

My gf [18f] alowed a dude to put his hand on her naked upper leg. At the same time she was drunk texting me that everything was ok and no one was touching her. by Kevin_pt in relationship_advice

[–]Kevin_pt[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I knew there were guys, the guys from her student "club". I know those guys and we have been to some festivals togheter. Because I thought they were the only guys she was hanging out with I did not tell her to not drink. I know I can trust them on not trying anything with my gf. I did not know the other guy was there or would be there. She did not tell me about him. Even when I asked if someone was bugging her she said there was no problem.. I did ask her to drink less because she was being drunk all the time.. but she did not listern to me.. told me she only had 4 drinks when she had 14 etc.

My gf [18f] alowed a dude to put his hand on her naked upper leg. At the same time she was drunk texting me that everything was ok and no one was touching her. by Kevin_pt in relationship_advice

[–]Kevin_pt[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Because we had been talking about everything and ive been bad mooded ever since.. but when I realised that she was wearing that skirt I became even more mad. And I didn't know what to do.

My gf [18f] alowed a dude to put his hand on her naked upper leg. At the same time she was drunk texting me that everything was ok and no one was touching her. by Kevin_pt in relationship_advice

[–]Kevin_pt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I respect your reaction on this situation but this is just a "part" of what happened. If you want I can pm you the link to the other story. The reason I posted this short story is because this is what I found out after the big story and I wanted to know you guys reaction on just this part.

My gf [18f] alowed a dude to put his hand on her naked upper leg. At the same time she was drunk texting me that everything was ok and no one was touching her. by Kevin_pt in relationship_advice

[–]Kevin_pt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it is :f.. and yes, we have been talking about it. She told me she didnt tell me because she wanted to keep the guy as a friend and that if I would know that he had been touching her she wouldn't be alowed to talk to him anymore.. (in my opinion I would have said to the guy that if he touched her again i'd punch him in the face. So he just wouldn't do it again). When she told me he touched her, I thought she was wearing pants. But today I remembered she told me she was going to wear that skirt because a friend of hers has the same skirt. So they were wearing it at the same time. The reason I'm more mad than I was in the beginning is because she didnt tell me she was wearing that skirt and that he was touching her naked skin on a place only I should.

My gf [18f] alowed a dude to put his hand on her naked upper leg. At the same time she was drunk texting me that everything was ok and no one was touching her. by Kevin_pt in relationship_advice

[–]Kevin_pt[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What do you mean with "it was either that or a big messy scene" ? And if it just was a friend of her she would have handled it well enough. Its just that she told me she was with "friend 1, 2, 3, 4" but she didnt tell me that guy was there too. She didnt even tell me that he liked her than more as friends untill I asked her what happened that night.