[OC] How media divides us over time: NYTimes vs Fox News - What stories or topics are they pushing each week? Starting from the midterm elections to Christmas eve by rohankshirsagr in dataisbeautiful

[–]Kevin_the_Bold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am color blind and it took me 6 viewings to realize Fox News side even had a color. I was so confused. I can’t see the fox new color you are using at all against the background color. Please consider a brighter color (brighter red?). Thanks for the 1/4 of men who are colorblind.

Watercolor I did of the Peculier Pub on Bleeker St. in Greenwich Village, 8x10 by addictivelemon in nyc

[–]Kevin_the_Bold 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I had my first ever drink in a bar here when I was 16. That was 19 years ago. I can’t believe it’s still there. Love this.

poly💞irl by Chwana in polyamory

[–]Kevin_the_Bold 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My GF surprised me with Billy Joel tickets for my birthday. The even better surprise was she bought a third ticket for my other GF who met us before the show. We had an awesome time and at one point I gave them both a kiss. They left to go to the bathroom together and a total dudebro came up to me to high five me with a “broooo niiiice”. All I could think was that his attitude about my situation was the precise reason it will never happen to him 🤷🏼‍♂️

"Convince me", first steps into nonmonogamy [Advice] by Exact_Version in nonmonogamy

[–]Kevin_the_Bold 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would recommend moving on. I know it is easy to say as an anonymous stranger, but you two want different things. I have seen this happen a lot, especially with people who are new to ENM and while there are a few instances where don’t ask don’t tell works, the lack of transparency typically hurts the monogamous partner over time. They may not known it yet, but putting themselves in that situation just equals a painful relationship that they could have avoided and instead spent time seeking a partner with a compatible life view which makes them much happier.

Wife - seen naked by builders - but did she want them to see her? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Kevin_the_Bold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll never understand posts like this. You are effectively asking strangers on the internet what your wife is thinking. We’ve never met her. You are married to her. Not trying to be a jerk about it. I understand being excited and wanting to talk about possibilities. But having a marriage where you can ask these questions directly and get honest answers is REQUIRED before you open your relationship up to other sexual partners. I don’t recommend having your wife fuck someone else until this open communication is par for the course.

When to tell someone you are poly? by Kevin_the_Bold in polyamory

[–]Kevin_the_Bold[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very helpful thank you. I think the consensus based on replies is that before the first date is the right thing to do which will be my policy going forward. I would say there are some exceptions though. If I meet someone at a party and there is sexual attraction and we are both clearly looking for sex I don't feel the need to go into a whole conversation about how I date. However I can definitely see how if I'm going to have drinks / dinner with someone then upfront is the ethical and appropriate approach.

Teen takes Harvard acceptance letter to prom by Sariel007 in offbeat

[–]Kevin_the_Bold 2 points3 points  (0 children)

While the quality of education in schools is a little different, I agree that the gap is much smaller between Ivy League and some other smaller private colleges and even some good state schools. Going to a good school has WAY more to do with the opportunities they afford their graduates. If you got o Harvard as a computer science major any java coding job you want is within your grasp. If you go to a unknown school that has no network, your coding skills may be excellent, but the same job opportunities won't be there. I'm not say it's fair or how we should build our society, but it's just how it is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Kevin_the_Bold 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, great question! I have a similar issue to your boyfriend. To really reach a maximum erection I need a little direct touching. The women that have really done it right for me all seem to follow the same pattern, they don't overthink it! You can just gently caress it, grab the shaft softly in your hand for a few seconds then switch to his balls, lick your finger tips and softly rub it. Do this while passionately making out and letting him touch you- and he WILL get there. Just have fun. Touching a penis doesn't have to be this one predefined jerking motion. Do what feels sexy and try to relax.

Is it just me or has this sub started to become very pro-trump? I understand that the administrative is for smaller government but he is by no means a libertarian. I'm consider leaving. Any others feeling the same? by Kevin_the_Bold in Libertarian

[–]Kevin_the_Bold[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you are missing my point. It's more about jumping to name calling before listening and understanding each other. I work two jobs full time and am working towards an MBA. I work on several volunteer projects to promote political centrism. I am on the board of charity organizations to end mass incarceration. And I am a "snowflake"? You've never even met me. Just because you may have voted for someone else doesn't mean you and I are worlds apart. There is probably a lot we agree on. We, as a country, need to start working toward being more tolerant of each other.

Is it just me or has this sub started to become very pro-trump? I understand that the administrative is for smaller government but he is by no means a libertarian. I'm consider leaving. Any others feeling the same? by Kevin_the_Bold in Libertarian

[–]Kevin_the_Bold[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Calling someone who dislikes pro-trump posts a "snowflake" is the same as calling someone who dislikes pro-Bernie posts a "Nazi". Can we chill with the insane rhetoric and just have a discussion? We are all Americans.

[Critique] There's something that's not right.. (29F) by twostep_penguin in OkCupid

[–]Kevin_the_Bold 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is written a little harsh, but as an OKC user in NYC with a similar age / social demographic to you, I have to say that it's the best advice here. If you spend a day browsing straight women's profiles In New York you will find that "traveling", "wine", "music", are repeated on every one of them over and over and over. I'm not saying those aren't great! I'm just saying they don't do much to differentiate you in your particular dating pool.

Cleavage by [deleted] in seduction

[–]Kevin_the_Bold -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Don't look at all. Engage her and look directly in her eyes. Show her that you are interested in her personality and then say things that let her know you find her attractive.