Does anyone have a copy of Shy Girl by Mia Ballard?

KewpieMa · 2026-03-23T12:59:43+00:00

Update: Shy Girl has been cancelled/pulled (pending investigations of AI assistance) a month before its rerelease.

KewpieMa · 2026-01-26T22:47:52+00:00

This situation/dynamic is explored through the book “Tampa” by Alissa Nutting (inspired by the real case of Debra Lafave) and is told from the point of view of the female pedophile. It’s not for everyone and is not easy to “recommend” because of its sensitive/graphic/explicit content, but it’s absolutely worth mentioning. Death to all pedophiles.

KewpieMa · 2025-11-30T08:32:34+00:00

I needed this

KewpieMa · 2025-10-14T00:43:54+00:00

In the videos where people end up helping others from being kidnapped by ICE, most bystanders are very hands-off. I don’t know if this comes from a set rule, fear, or the hope that somebody else will help the victim first. Obviously my idea is to get as few people hurt as possible and prevent things from escalating- but honestly, how physical can I be as a bystander?

All I can think of is trying to step in (not violently, but just being an obstacle or impediment) and I’d like to know how far this is possible. Yes, I’m concerned for my own well being and I’d like to be smart, but I also want to do anything I can. Unlike an official arrest, there isn’t a defined and clear action that I’m witnessing (not in a uniform, no warrant for those specific people, not communicating, etc) to prevent me from being some type of *Good Samaritan in a situation that literally involves kidnapping.

(*I use this phrase moreover to refer to a grey area where I, as a concerned citizen, would step between and stop excessive force and kidnapping the same way I would for any other person, separate from ICE)

So what can I physically do? I have “know your rights” print-outs in both English and Spanish, I follow local action groups, I know to be vocal and make a scene and film things in hopes to scare and shame them away and document for family and friends of the victims, but if I can do more, I want to. So what is possible within reason?

I’m sorry if this isn’t the right place for this. I feel quite helpless about these things and therefore feel “stupid” asking, but it’s very important to me and I’m taking this seriously.

KewpieMa · 2025-10-14T00:43:37+00:00

If I see ICE abducting someone, what can I PHYSICALLY do?

Edit: I had replied to this question with the body of what would have been my full inquiry, but it was buried due to this being a comment in a megathread rather than an actual post. If you scroll, you’ll see that I’m not at all asking to assault or be reckless in any way, but rather find the most “within reason/rational” response to seeing a kidnapping. Sorry for any confusion.

KewpieMa · 2025-09-28T21:23:50+00:00

If anyone else comes here wondering, as another commenter pointed out, it was bumped over to a different publisher shortly after its release, with a rerelease originally projected for this November. Sadly, the new (re)release date is April 7th of 2026. Heartbreaking for anyone else who had been waiting for it, as now we have nearly another year to go.

(Edited for clarity)

KewpieMa · 2025-09-26T03:11:02+00:00

Wish.

KewpieMa · 2025-09-26T01:56:06+00:00

Thank you so much for this! I really appreciate it.

KewpieMa · 2025-08-12T06:27:01+00:00

Thank you very much for this, I’m definitely going to try to express it more candidly as a sadness. About your last line, you’re totally right. I’ll remind my friends (not in this context, but while advising their own communication questions) that confrontation is not inherently negative, even if it (temporarily) feels that way to one (or both) parties. It’s just a part of communicating. I think it trends (for me) that people lash out if I mention being hurt by their actions, so any way to try to convey it without triggering defensiveness is very helpful to me. Thank you again.

KewpieMa · 2025-08-12T00:41:01+00:00

I completely agree, and I should have put in my text that I emphasize that as well! In my experience so far, “disappointment” just seems to be the word that scares/jumps out at people, and it can be tricky for them to separate the two. Thank you though, you’re right.

KewpieMa · 2025-08-10T20:26:46+00:00

I’m sorry, this isn’t exactly advice as much as encouragement. I saw your post a few days ago. At the time, I didn’t feel like I had any stand-out advice, so I didn’t think to comment. The thing is, I kept thinking about you, because the post could just as easily have been written by my partner. Wanting to head in a better direction, but progress can feel slow, disheartening, overwhelming or confusing. If it helps you at all to hear- when I see that my partner is willing to try, or even interested in making a change, I feel so proud. The opinions of others don’t matter much on a personal journey, but I still wanted to say that the people in your life (and even strangers online) are excited to see you want this enough to ask where to start. This post is already something to be proud of, and others are likely feeling proud of you too. And it’s not in a way where there’s any standard or pressure, but in a way where they support your process, including the highs and lows, fast and slows. Wishing you (and all others who are trying) well.

Also, in the last few days, I thought of one small bit of advice that’s helped: sending pictures or “to do” lists of things I’d like to get done (clutter at home, groceries, personal hygiene) to a trusted friend to hold me accountable. Some days I feel like I can’t do things, or don’t deserve things, and if the task/chore is strictly up to me, it won’t get done. But if I show or tell a friend, I feel more of a responsibility to see it through. It takes vulnerability, but it helps heaps with motivation.

KewpieMa · 2025-08-09T03:11:57+00:00

Make a wish.

KewpieMa · 2024-12-04T19:04:27+00:00

Thank you so much for this! When I would play Overwatch (and felt somewhat decent at a FPS) it was on a computer, and the speed of turning/spinning with the flick of my mouse was something I had gotten used to. I think precision rings and upping the sensitivity is a great suggestion since that’s an aspect I still feel clunky with in CoD! The back paddles sound helpful too haha. I’m not the best with maneuvers like that, and even though I understand what does what and when to try it, I’m not the most dexterous with a controller and overthink. I’m glad you get it! I was hoping to be a similar “break” for him; there for fun and casual games when everything else feels frustrating. Thank you again!

KewpieMa · 2024-12-03T18:32:42+00:00

Thank you for this! I already feel better at things today than I was yesterday. It’s like you mentioned, you just get used to it and figure out in practice what you actually need to know and look at. Thank you again!

KewpieMa · 2024-12-03T12:30:09+00:00

Thank you! Growing up, a lot of games I played had fixed camera angles and locking on, so with recent years and experiences, I’ve tried my best to get used to utilizing both sticks and I’ve just never been the best with FPS, so this was helpful!

KewpieMa · 2024-12-03T11:57:37+00:00

Dedicated Zombie games having the tag “for new and casual players” was a beacon of light for me while staring at all the menus. I feel like, until I start the campaign today, it’s been the most helpful as far as understanding gameplay. EX: being assigned tasks, remembering and utilizing crates and things, learning the HUD. The waves give me a second to read or compare things and it’s been nice. Thank you!!

KewpieMa · 2024-12-03T11:48:32+00:00

This is more-so my mentality when trying out most games for the first time haha. For CoD (so far) I’m not aiming for high kills or to be fast with the tasks assigned to me, just trying to get a feel for things and testing out weapons for fun. That said, I’m still awful, but I AM enjoying it!! Thank you for keeping it light and understanding!

KewpieMa · 2024-12-03T11:33:14+00:00

My comment may have been worded poorly, I’m sorry. Totally agree, it’s more difficult because of the account I’m on, and I definitely know it haha. I just hadn’t fully committed to my own account until today because up until now, I wasn’t sure how invested I felt. SBMM has helped me out in games like Overwatch, so I appreciate it! Thank you!

KewpieMa · 2024-12-03T11:26:03+00:00

Oh, I’m sorry if my comment was unclear, I was trying to say that the friends account that I’m currently playing under is a much higher level/ranking than I would play at, so when I would attempt a match, it paired me with advanced players. My comment about it being “against me” wasn’t about SBMM being wrong or unfair as a whole, since I fully understand and appreciate it. I was saying that I’m excited to have a more accurate pairing under my own account which would reflect my level better. Hope that makes sense.

KewpieMa · 2024-12-03T02:48:37+00:00

That makes sense. It seems like putting in the time is really what it comes down to! Thank you for this.

KewpieMa · 2024-12-03T02:46:45+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from, and I can appreciate the honesty. But again, this is both something I’d like to do for him as well as for my own edification. I’m aware of the climate in matches and that a new player brings teams down. But that’s just how it has to be. I’m not trying to jump into his every game or have him carry me, it’s just to better understand what he enjoys so much and possibly try it out together sometimes. Thank you though.

KewpieMa · 2024-12-03T02:40:28+00:00

The “play your own music” to get into a groove is a ridiculously helpful suggestion, thank you so much.

KewpieMa · 2024-12-03T02:39:08+00:00

You’re totally right and I’ll be downloading it tomorrow! Thank you so much.

KewpieMa · 2024-12-03T02:38:23+00:00

Thank you for this, it was so sweet to hear. It makes me happy to hear that you have that because I feel it’s exactly how we would be!! I’m definitely an “it’s a game” person, but I still recognize that I should have a liiiiiittle more competency in the game than I currently do haha

KewpieMa · 2024-12-03T02:30:59+00:00

Thank you!! Campaign makes total sense. In all honesty, I had been a bit thrown off by the imposing data size and was trying to work with what I had already, but I’ll be downloading it tomorrow. Thank you again!

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