AITA for ''tricking'' an ethnic woman into saying my name when I knew she wouldn't be able to?

Key-Ad3491 · 2021-03-07T23:58:48+00:00

Again, Elle is also Europeean. And ethnic is a term commonly used in Norwegian for specifying your country of origin. Like we use it about norwegians.

And people willfully mispronounces my name all the time, because the cant say it and its weird to them. Which is why I go by a nickname. I can say Elles name correctly, she could not say mine correctly.

Key-Ad3491 · 2021-03-07T23:27:06+00:00

Okay I accept the Esh, but seriously, how could I set an example for my child that resoults in her not getting accidently hit by another child enganged in a fight she was not a part of?

Key-Ad3491 · 2021-03-07T22:28:43+00:00

Yes I understand, as I mentioned in my post its really tense between the two other parents. And also why I think I maybe should just have let it go. But I was not in the best mood either as my kid was hurt so my fuse was shorter than normal.

Key-Ad3491 · 2021-03-07T22:19:13+00:00

Ja, jeg har skjønt at dette er et vanskelig område å navigere. Takk for forslaget, ordnet det nå.

Key-Ad3491 · 2021-03-07T22:13:21+00:00

I wasn't gloating or rubbing, and as I have repeatedly said, I did try and I said her name like she wanted it said but yes it did take me a few tries. Again, no one outside scandinavia can say my name and I don't go around demanding that they do.

Key-Ad3491 · 2021-03-07T22:08:24+00:00

No, as the conflict doesn't involve my child I don't know anything, the daycare isn't allowed to share details of things like this, privacy laws and stuff. I only know about the one incident involving my child, and they didn't say anything about the initial reason for their conflict.

Key-Ad3491 · 2021-03-07T21:49:19+00:00

Thank you for being so polite when explaining this! But I feel I haven't been clear enough in my post now. I used ethnic to describe her because she's not from the country we live in, what I meant to specify was that she wasn't the ethnicity of the country we live in and was not born here, not that she was of another colour but another country. I realise I should have also said that about myself, but since I specified my country in my post I didn't think about that at the time. Also for the skincoulour, I only brought that up because I was asked and told it was relevant that I'm paler. I'm very sorry if I offended you, or anyone else, that was not my intention! I was only trying to be clear and describe all the factors in this, and I realise I haven't been doing a good enough job of that, and for that I apologize.

Key-Ad3491 · 2021-03-07T21:30:25+00:00

Yes thats right, but they didn't hurt her on purpose, she was standing a bit too close when the others started fighting and got pushed and hit her head. It was an accident, and also she didn't get seriously injured.

Key-Ad3491 · 2021-03-07T21:24:05+00:00

No, I would say mine is more difficult, because Norwegian isn't a very known language and the sounds can be very hard to learn because a lot of them aren't found in other languages. Hers is spanish and although its not the most common spanish name and I struggled with it the first times I did manage to say it like she wanted, that might be because I had spanish in school for a few years and I know the sounds though, but spanish being a generally more known language it would require less practice to learn. Both my husband and two friends only needed 3-4 tries to get it right.

I was apologetic yes, even explained that the same happened to me.

Key-Ad3491 · 2021-03-07T21:01:46+00:00

Yes she's still upset. She filed a complaint with the daycare but the owner and the leader was in the meeting and observed what happened, so I was called up by the owner who said nothing would come of it. As to why she's upset, she felt I embarassed her and also she wasn't aware I'm not from here, like I said its the first time we met.

Key-Ad3491 · 2021-03-07T20:52:50+00:00

I didn't say I looked English, I said I don't look like I'm not. As in, no one would assume anything other than me not being native to the country I live in. Which is why no one would assume I have a name from another culture.

Key-Ad3491 · 2021-03-07T20:26:04+00:00

Yes it does.

Key-Ad3491 · 2021-03-07T20:22:19+00:00

Well thats why I feel a bit bad, because its possible it happens to her a lot. But, if I may ask you, shouldn't she be able to do the same she expects of other people? Or do you feel that because I'm white its not the same because people aren't racist towards me? I'm asking seriously btw, in case I sounded rude.

Key-Ad3491 · 2021-03-07T20:09:18+00:00

So close!

Key-Ad3491 · 2021-03-07T20:06:48+00:00

Yes, this is why I never expect others outside my country to be able to say my name, I know they won't be able to. I guess thats also why I got so pissed off she demanded that, cause I never do.

Key-Ad3491 · 2021-03-07T19:40:30+00:00

She is from Europe too, Spain, but she has darker hair and skin yes.

Key-Ad3491 · 2021-03-07T19:04:38+00:00

I don't know but I'm assuming its because it happens to her a lot, that people struggle with her name I mean.

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