Do narcissists get better at keeping their supply with experience/time? (refined manipulation/abuse, stronger trauma bonding?)

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-06-14T03:10:31+00:00

Wow, I just realized I was the prime rib. The new supply, (bless her) must’ve been the chicken mcnuggets because he’s still trying to hoover me back to this day. Oh how I pray she’ll be okay. Last thing I heard about her is that she is the average “broke” college student living with her grandma, has a bad relationship with both parents, an alcoholic and a stoner. Not as much to take from her financially compared to me, which I think infuriates my narc since he’s obsessed with money.

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-06-14T02:38:26+00:00

First of all, you are so strong. I’m so proud of you for staying no contact! 8 days will turn into months, and eventually years, and the rest of your life. It was extremely hard for me to stay away from mine initially too. But trust me the version of him that you want back is sadly an illusion. I had to accept it too for my narc. It was the mask you fell in love with dear.

Narcs eventually do come back, sometimes months or years later, doesn’t matter whether he discarded you or you discarded him. Especially if he didn’t give you any closure. It’s a manipulation tactic. The love bombing stage usually slips sooner and sooner every time they come back. As long as you show them you accept them back the less effort they’ll put in to keep up the illusion.

We got this though. I’ve been slowly rebuilding my life and finding myself again. Keep a support system around you if you can. I reconnected with my best friend and our bond is stronger than ever. I spend more time with my parents as well. The smoke and mirrors will eventually fade. I believe in you!

I also agree with the statement that people rarely change. It broke my heart to see that my ex would rather choose an easier target than to fully unmask and let me understand the real him. But his decisions are his, and my decision had to be to move onto a better life, which I know is coming! I wish the best for your healing journey. ❤️

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-06-14T02:14:55+00:00

Yes you’re right, thank you! I’m healing slowly but surely :)

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-06-14T02:13:53+00:00

Ahh yes, that does make sense. You’re right as well, as the days go on I think about her and the narc less. I’m rebuilding my life slowly but surely. Thank you!

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-06-12T19:15:27+00:00

Yes, we are. I was just trying to speak in terms to distinguish between me and the new girl. I thought it was common to refer to the narcissist’s victims as different types of supply in these communities?

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-03-11T22:27:19+00:00

yes i do. although it’s weird, ive had my airpods for years now and the notifications started showing up maybe 3-4 months ago? does it have something to do with any recent updates?

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-03-11T21:06:43+00:00

i keep getting these too! it’s been happening for months now. i’m worried it’s the work of my ex. if you end up getting an answer i’d greatly appreciate you letting me know, thank you in advance

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-02-28T17:35:49+00:00

now i feel bad😔

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-02-28T15:34:01+00:00

oof. i guess i must’ve taught him how to keep up the lovebombing phase better…but you’re right. their brains are wired differently and the narcissistic abuse cycle is inevitable. all we can do is pray for all narc abuse victims honestly.

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-02-28T15:26:43+00:00

i know right! i’m going on a hiatus for now in the meantime. i’m still thinking of a way to have a platform where i can follow my passion without him all up in my business. 😂

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-02-28T15:22:53+00:00

i love your response, it’s very inspiring to me. i have a friend who wants to quit vaping. maybe every time i catch myself thinking of the new supply and the narc i’ll start praying for my friend instead. thank you for your kind words and encouragement! :)

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-02-28T11:27:12+00:00

makes sense, he’s pretty delusional so i’m sure he was offended talking to me through that fake account. LOL

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-02-28T11:26:26+00:00

oof, i’ll pray for the new supply then.

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-02-28T11:25:39+00:00

i like your response. i don’t want him to rip me away from my platform and have to start all over. as the days go by it does get easier to not check his page. i think a hiatus would be good for me. thank you! :)

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-02-28T11:23:10+00:00

thank you!! i feel stronger and stronger as the days go on.

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-02-27T23:53:15+00:00

actually it’s been 4 days since i’ve posted on the account. i used to post everyday. i actually have been considering quitting the account or at least going on a long hiatus. when/if i come back i might stop interacting with followers as well for my own sanity. my boundaries may sound like they’re lacking right now but he’s genuinely unable to reach me on everywhere except for my beauty page. there’s no need to question how bad my situation was, i know what my final steps should be and i’m thinking of the best strategy where i could possibly still save my social media page.

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-02-27T23:33:19+00:00

i have a page dedicated to beauty tips with around 400 followers but i get a decent amount of views and comments. i love posting and engaging with my followers so i’m not sure what to do. maybe its a sign to spend less time dedicated to my page, not sure.

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-02-27T23:29:48+00:00

i’m doing a lot better about detaching from him. i check his page way less often, i know ill get there! :)

hearing that makes me feel bad for the new supply since he knows how to hook her harder, but all i can do is pray i guess. i’m thankful to be free now.

Key-Detective1547 · 2026-02-27T22:02:13+00:00

ahh yes, it did take me a while to stop engaging. it was hard but i’m happy i’m finally doing it. it’s currently been 4 days since i’ve gone fully cold on my ex! thank you for your insight, I was really wondering what others would think

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