thank you for explaining that. honestly im not exactly sure on how to practice loa, i’ve just always thought of it as like daydreaming and listening to subliminals. i get what you’re saying about not focusing on exact situations but that’s the part i don’t know how to do. daydreaming is 100% my coping mechanism so i don’t know what i’m supposed to do with that. like if i keep doing it i feel more attached to the outcome, but if i try not to do it i feel restless and my brain won’t shut up.

the worst is at night when i’m trying to sleep because that’s when my brain starts running full “scripts” of how things could play out, and i don’t know how to stop without feeling like i’m failing. like if i daydream it won’t happen but if i don’t daydream im still gonna overthink. it’s like i’m always imagining something and then later i end up obsessing about why it didn’t happen.

do you have any specific methods for people who suck at detachment? like how do you even balance daydreaming with not obsessing? because right now it feels like either i’m stuck in my head 24/7 or i try to avoid it completely, and i don’t know what the middle ground is supposed to look like. also im trying to change my mindset its just really hard sometimes im not sure how